Mr. Not Tom Cruise should post his pic -- after following up on your suggestions re: putting it together -- *with* his profile. Being comfortable in your own skin is one of the traits most valued by many women, and men. Refusing to make your physical self visible from the outset suggests that you're lacking in that kind of quiet self-assurance and is counter-productive. Plus, those of us who have "put ourselves out there" kinda roll our eyes (maybe even resent) those who are not willing to take the same risk we are.
The reality is that we are not going to appeal to everyone -- just as not every woman on whatever personals site you're using appeals to you. Your current MO is not really saving yourself any anxiety about your appearance. By posting your pic, you can be reassured that whoever initially responds to you has at least a modicum of interest in you, including the physical aspects. Good luck!
--KSF
12/07 |
