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most of these comments are good. I agree about practicing with the 'captives' but why does anyone need to feed on them when NYC is so full of possibilities?
however when I was quite young an guy about my age now told me: "Never go out with anyone in your building, on your block, in your neighborhood, or who works in a place you do business with or shop at or frequent and never with co- workers. I know some people have been successful with that. At any rate he was right, I know, I did them all. Later another director told me never sleep with your actresses. He was right too. Except I wound up living with one of them so maybe there is the exception.
I will say it's more tempting to break these 'rules' when you're not in the city and there are less choices.
btw Erin you're getting so good at this whole thing.. and always funny. thanks.
--REL
11/22 |
Great answers to both of the two question'eers this week, Miss Info. Impressively practical while funny as hell at the same time. I'm sure a lot of folks bookmark your words for future use regularly, and that's the ultimate test of advice-column quality. Whatever Nerve is paying you, please let them know I've authorized that they triple it! Keep up the awesome work.
-- - M
11/20 |
Beware, Checker Outer, of people who are being paid to be nice to you. What may seem like chemistry may in reality be par-for-the-course customer service. Who hasn't fallen in love with a bartender? And out of those people, most of them were probably dissed by said bartender (a few might have gotten nailed in the beer cooler out back).
My advice is use service employees as barometers for the effectiveness of your flirt lines. Think of them as bargain rate dating coaches! Work on everything up to the ask-out line. Different services give you different amounts of time to work on game, too. Work on your one- and two-line zingers at the grocery, longer conversations at the book store, longer ones still at the coffee-tea-confection store or specialty cook supply store. And watch the body language magic unfold. Big clue: sincere smiles make crows' feet, fake-ass smiles are all in the mouth. Once you get your confidence together with the captive specimens, move on to the singles in the wild.
--NKNJ
11/20 |
always be sure that your opening line is: are you single then add because....i was wondering....
i made the mistake of asking a hot fire fighter out to a daytime, nearby movie and it turned out he has a girlfriend and he can't get over my inquiry.
he still looks at me like i peed in his cornflakes or did something else rude to him.
the manager must have got wind of this because she offered up the, make sure they are available first advice. and its good advice.
--n's
11/19 |
Checker Outer: I think Miss Information hit on something without realizing it. Instead of thinking of the perfect approach, try thinking of the worst possible ones. Example: "Hey, I was thinking about you the other night! I was watching porn on the Internet, and there was this girl who looked just like you, and you wouldn't believe the things she could do! Anyway, you wanna go out?" It's easier for the brain to think of bad things than good things. "The last time the circus was in town, I lost my life savings trying to win a stuffed purple hippo, and I was raped by an escaped monkey. The bulletin board says they're back in town again. Wanna go?" Writing totally inappropriate things is one trick that some writers use to think creatively when they've run into a mental block. Once you start thinking creatively in one direction, it can make it easier to think creatively in the other direction as well. And, even if your come-on fails, at least you'll have the satisfaction that it wasn't as bad as some of the others you thought of. Oh, also very important, don't ask her out when there's a long line of people behind you. Wait until the store's less busy, or her mind won't be on you. Anyway, good luck, and until then, "That book I bought the other day on defusing explosives has really come in handy! So far, I've managed to disable every bomb my crazy ex-girlfriend has left for me. Anyway, there's this new device on my car I'm not so sure about, and I'm wondering if you'd like to come watch me disassemble it."
--JCF
11/19 |
sz, Right on.
--FYI
11/18 |
Oh, you had a nickname, you just never found out what it was!!!
--AMS
11/18 |
"How are you feeling about this relationship and the way it's been going?" is the worst thing a woman can ever say. I don't care if you're Heidi Klum in a G-string, when that comes out of your mouth guys will go running for the hills.
Honestly the best thing you can say is "I really like you and I think I want to stop seeing other people and take this to the next level. Are you into that?" It puts the power in your court and keeps the whole thing positive..
--sz
11/18 |
Sorry, BJC, but I disagree. If nothing more, it's unfair to the other people on the site who are serious about looking for someone to date/get involved with romantically. That's what dating sites are for. If the person wants an ego boost, become a Facebook/MySpace maniac, and if that's not enough for the, then I cry foul about their stated motives.
--JO
11/18 |
I think it's fine for either party to check dating sites for as long as they want. If you are in a relationship, it's just an ego boost thing.
It's no different than noticing pretty girls on the street.
--BJC
11/18 |
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