Mormons do NOT do that. I thought that was supposed to be an orthodox Jewish thing?
--jp
10/11 |
I clean up afterwards too, so there isn't a big wet spot on my side of the bed that I have to sleep in. It's not about me thinking his stuff is gross. Plus I don't like that sloppy slippery feeling for too long after. It's sexy, but it's not comfortable. My boyfriend's been heading for the shower after about five minutes of recovery. Probably just because it's so fucking hot tho, since he didn't used to shower before.
--elp
10/04 |
I don't think I've ever cleaned up after per se. Sometimes it's fun to lick one's juices off the lad, but that's more of a silly thing than a must-do. As to him going down on me? Could be fun, but really, by the time we finish up, we're both more likely to slip into a happy dazed sex coma. Maybe if she's a squirter it's different cuz there's so much fluid? Not being one myself, I have only second-hand reports, but apparently it can be a rather glorious mess. Finally, I once dated a guy who leapt up and took a shower immediately after sex. It was creepy and we didn't last. Not only for that reason, but it didn't help.
--mpb
10/01 |
I love going down on my girlfriend after sex.
The mess is part of the turn on.
--bjc
10/01 |
Hold on. Do Mormons really do that? I knew they wore funny underwear but shit... there's sex rules?!
--CD
10/01 |
Yeah, I'm thinking that a towel could actually make you MORE likely to get a UTI, since you're smearing everything around and making it more likely something gets to your urethra.
--li
10/01 |
The main thing to do to prevent UTIs is to pee afterwards, flushing all the bacteria out of your urethra. I'm not sure how a towel would help.
--EN
10/01 |
Not everyone gets a bladder infection if they don't towel off after. I NEVER clean up after sex (except for wiping with toilet paper after anal) and in almost ten years of having sex, I've only had one bladder infection (and I'm pretty sure I know what that one was from).
I do think hubby is using the "impersonal" thing as an excuse to press for experimentation, but I actually do think cleaning up after is impersonal. Once, I slept with a man who went to the bathroom after and brought me a warm washcloth to clean up with. I know he had the best of motivations, but I have always thought that was a bizarre thing to do. Cleaning up after, to me, makes it seem that sex is something that is dirty or shameful, and if it's my fluids a man is cleaning off his hand or dick, it sort of implies that there's something gross about my vag.
--ts
10/01 |
Has he ever dont this before to someone else? If he has, he knows what he's in for and probably enjoys it. If not, and he just wants to try it, let him have at it.
If he doesn't like it he'll not do it again, and the towel issue will go away.
--bm
10/01 |
"He wants to clean up by giving each other oral right after. ... I just can't see him wanting to do that to me."
He said he wants to. Believe him. Why would he lie about it? Obviously not to impress you.
--SJ
10/01 |
Erin, you are some funny shiz. :) I hope you're really a chick, or it'll be ruined for me
--JK
10/01 |
have a towel nearby is not 'impersonal'. it's necessary! or tissues. clean up time should not involve anything but the towel in my opinion. eating leftover spunk? gross!
--me
10/01 |
I've never gotten a UTI from being messy and cuddling with my S/O after sex. I did, however, get a UTI when a stupid partner went a little too low and brought all that nice bacteria up into my snatch.
Women who are more prone to UTIs post-sex will definitely know they are as well and that should be something their partner should know before going down on them so they can take into consideration it's important to get cleaned up (as an aside, you can also clean up beforehand to get rid of some of the bacteria build up) . Women can also take measures to prevent them, as there are more ways than sex to get them.
Just sayin'.
Eating spermatoza out of my junk is a total turn off unless it's some domination thing, in which case it's kind of hot.
--SD
10/01 |
i am writing back about the girl with the towel on hand. i like to hide a towel under the pillow too, cause i would rather lie in bed than run to the loo and wash up right away. you forgot to mention if we girls don't wash up afterwards, then we get little horrible bladder infections and such. same thing for falling to sleep after an oral cleanup. so i think he is being insensitive and stubborn if he wants it only his way. it really means less sex in the long run if his girl has a bladder infection. humphf.
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10/01 |
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