REGULARS

Reader Feedback on "Miss Information"

actually, FYI? as a woman, i have to say that you sound totally fascist-creepy.
--fem
10/29

LT, the ladies and I get along fine. Know why? Because I’m direct, real, consistent, dependable, and trustworthy – traits that healthy, normal women appreciate in a man. I’m not passive-aggressive or emo like so many wussified “men” out there. I don’t promise to call and then not do so. If I say I’ll pick a woman up at 8 pm, she can set her watch by my arrival. I know who I am, what I need, what I’ll put up with, and what I won’t. Women who don’t appreciate such clarity and discipline, like those who claim love is “complicated” (listening krr?), aren’t good dating material anyway.
--FYI
10/28

Word, krr. Actually it's kind of amusing to read FYI's advice, in the sense that it's always somewhat amusing to listen to a person who presents themself as an authority on a given topic spout misguided, pompous crap about it. Especially when the topic is men and women. Bet the ladies loves that guy.
--LT
10/28

FYI, that is some of the most sexist and narrow-minded advice i have ever heard. all women are not the same, all men are not the same, and you may be surprised to hear: men and women aren't necessarily inherently different in the ways of the heart. love is far more complicated than you're allowing it to be. you should leave the advice giving to the open-minded of the world.
--krr
10/28

RUN AWAY from the Cat Killer. He is seriously fucking with them. No one has 3 pets die in six months--I don't care where you got them. There is a good chance he has psychological problems.
--AK
10/25

Miss Info, Normally, I enjoy and support most of what you share in your column, but re: Lost Boy I have to point out one more inconsistency…not just for him, but all us men out there. With all due respect, how can you, with a straight face, tell Lost Boy his ex still loves him? When a woman moves away from her “love” and immediately starts dating other men, her actions are saying loud and clear that she doesn’t want him, much less love him. When a healthy woman loves her man, she moves closer to him, not away from him. The priority change in her life is him, meaning he is not a priority in her life anymore. Though my words may sound harsh, better for Lost Boy and fellow men everywhere to understand what’s really going on so that we move forward to be available for women who want us, not waste time pining for women who don’t.
--FYI
10/25

TT, Is your advice for Lost Boy? If so…are you kidding me? He’s a guy, not a chick. All your feminine advice works for a chick who’s been dumped by her guy, not the other way around. Sounds like Lost Boy is already hurt and confused enough. Don’t hurt or confuse him further.
--FYI
10/23

I would add: 1) Don't sleep with your ex 2) Don't sleep with your ex 3) Don't jump into bed with the first person who shows the slightest interest in you. It won't make you feel better; it will just make you feel desperate. 4) Pamper yourself and keep your hair/clothes/makeup/whatever together. Looking together on the outside can help you feel a little more together on the inside. Fake it til you make it.
--TT
10/23

Lost Boy, Unfortunately for you, it's over. She's not your soulmate. Move on. Miss Info's advice to "Let your friends and family hear how heartbroken you are" is 100% wrong. Don't give your ex that power over you. Reclaim your self-esteem and manhood by dating women in your local neighborhood who are hotter than your ex. And stop thinking of a woman as a potential soulmate. That's how women are supposed to think of us men when they pursue us, not the other way around. As soon as you spill your guts like that (like a woman would), you're viewed as a woman, which means you're on your way to being dumped. If you want a woman to stay with you, keep your mouth shut, like a man.
--FYI
10/23

LOST BOY needs to know that his ex-girl isn't his 'soul mate' unless she thinks so too. Every young person needs to know that THERE IS NO 'ONE', and their lives do not end when a relationship changes. Moving away for school is a rite of passage, and it sounds to me like the girl is moving on, while LB is not. They should declare a state of 'seeing other people' and re-evaluate their relationship in a few months...at Xmas or school break when they get back together. After LB gets his knob polished at a few drunken parties on campus, he may realize his 'crisis' is in fact a great opportunity for growth.
--Tokn
10/23

Look, too many kittens are dying. Dude has very big issues. Or letter writer has really big issues. Hard to say. In all of my life, I have never experienced so many dead kittens and I am old (41). Yes, some times the kittens, they are born "wrong" or tragedies happen, but, all of this?? Insane. I raelly think this is just a bait/troll letter , but jeezuz , Miss Info.. I had thought better of you. Telling her to basicaly just keep her eyes open? Sheesh.
--
10/22

When you say that he had three cats die and had to give away others, are we talking in the six months he's dated you or, like, in the past ten years? This is an important distinction. If it's six bum cats in six months, something is really creepy.
--ls
10/22

I'd say, do not, under any circumstances talk to this girl for a while. She ended it- do not continue it. She had no trouble moving on, and neither should you! Take some time for yourself, be happy and single! You don't have to hook up with any girl that comes your way, it'll probably make you feel worse anyway if you still have real feelings for this chick. You were probably pretty happy being single rediscover that happiness :)
--ew
10/22

I think you hinted at, but didn't explicitly state the most important piece of advice for Lost Boy: RUN. Run away and never look back. You were clearly involved with a woman who doesn't feel about you the same way you feel about her. It's time to move on with your life now, and next time you'll have this experience to draw on when picking someone to trust with your heart. The sooner you get over her (and for god's sake, anyone who thinks you would "wait" for them after that kind of screwing over is a nightmare), the better off you'll be. Start dating again and forget all about her.
---me
10/22

Okay, I don't even really like cats that much (I have them, but they're my husbands'), but the kitten letter kind of freaked me out. They keep DYING!?!?! Death is kind of a big deal, even of a small, furry creature. I've had pets all my life, and every pet death (even of those pets obtained from sketchy strangers, which is actually most if not all of my pets) had an identifiable cause. They were run over, killed by a dog, or in one tragic case ate rat poison. But I knew why with each of them (okay, it took a vet to diagnose the rat poison thing since I certainly hadn't put any out. Stupid neighbors.) I'm not saying this guy is murdering them in Satanic rituals or anything, but something is seriously off if he's managed to kill three kittens in short order. And not be scared by it. Is he feeding them something crazy? Bathing them so much they get colds? Or . . . I dunno. I'm just saying, I am not the most nurturing or obsessive pet owner, and I've never killed a critter by accident. It just seems . . . weird.
--mpb
10/22

send feedback on "Miss Information"

back to "Miss Information"