that was great reading, Liz has such an upfront approach to stuff that we're all wondering about
--tw
03/07 |
Very good. Keep them coming.
--M.O.
03/06 |
Excellent, absolute genius. She hit a nerve ; ) Liz rocks!
--mkl
03/04 |
Hey, the lady's got nous. I like her.
--ELM
03/04 |
everyone is so sensitive. for jab - i think uh what she meant by 'cheap' was dishonest like bullshitting charm to get what you want. like 'lying' to get laid. the opposite of what you were on about a second later. and anyway since when is honesty an antidote for suffering? you might be able control your own stuff but how do you know what kind of attachments are forming in another person on the smallest body levels, forget the rational mind that might be like, 'oh yes this is cheap and fine' there is a lot going down deep in your skin and i don't think it's as easy as 'as long as you're honest and respectful' anyways people should do what they want, it's not my business and it's not her business but this is an advice column and she said what SHE thought, not what anyone else thought, so what is wrong?
i dont' like her music or anything but people can't cry about what any and every girl thinks.
--sjj
03/03 |
I found Liz's column insightful and empathetic – not the usual crass and dare-you stuff. Nice.
--tc
03/03 |
It's sort of interesting to find out about a pop star's personal beliefs. But as far as this being actual advice, it's immature, stereotypical, old-fashioned, and just plain bad. Be an asshole? Orgies are for losers? Feminists don't like BDSM? Come on, that's so retro. I love Liz as a musician and lyricist, but as an advice giver, she's unfunny and un-nuanced.
--xo
03/02 |
Now here's a girl that doesn't pretend to be someone she's not, nor offer tongue-and-cheek advice because she's trying to humor the audience. She rocks, not to mention her impressivley wise advice. Please return!!!
--yr
03/01 |
Does anyone really care what Liz Phair thinks? (Certainly nobody cares what she sings about -- not lately, anyway.) I mean, the charm of Sex Advice from Cowboys notwithstanding, anyone who think an indie rock has-been can really truly give them insight about their lives, sexual or otherwise, is a sad case. Maybe it would have worked if Liz had just the tiniest bit of ironic distance from the whole thing, rather than treating it as if she were Abigail van Buren of the sex chats. Or maybe it would have worked if Nerve used her, oh I don't know, six years ago when she was still cool.
--mfo
03/01 |
If I may: First off, Liz is fantastic! Hard to imagine an artist of such quality on Nerve (not a dis mind you--your site's second-rated-ness is endearing and why I keep coming back). Okay now for point #2. The person below who tore into Liz with such fervor is way off base. Obviously this is some clueless boho chick with a big time agenda (Nerve intern perhaps?). Who else would use: "geesh"? That's the telltale sign right there, and its fuckin' annoying. Peace:)
--ew
02/29 |
What is wrong with you people?? This is the absolute WORST advice I have ever read. I think Em and Lo would tell Liz Phair that her advice is awful and stereotypical nonsense. I should have expected to this from Liz Phair. She's made these type of comments in interviews for years.
Let's see. First there is the line "Well, nice guys just don't have cheap sex with women". I am SO sick of the attitude that if you don't practice exclusive monogamy that you are a BAD person. This is a lot of intolerant Judeo-Christian nonsense! People are different! There is no one size fits all formula. Some people prefer a comitted monogamous relationship, and other people do NOT. As long as you are honest and respectful to people you should practice the sexuality of your choosing. And you can STILL be a nice person!
Then should pulls out the stereotype that she suspects that people who are into threesomes and orgies probably have "intimacy issues". Not to mention the awful and borderline offensive advice (even though she qualifies it) of having the woman's boyfriend bascially hold her down and keep going to get her off (despite her protests)! Geesh! Though I think she is a decent songwriter I have always thought her personality left a lot to be desired. And this just proves it!
--JAB
02/29 |
she is very pretty
--efs
02/29 |
Some acute observation and advice here...Great move!
--rd
02/28 |
Great Column. She's good!
--DS
02/27 |
Damn you give good advice.
--sb
02/27 |
So good! I was so worried when Em & Lo took off for their book fair that I would never find funny, honest sex advice outside of Dan Savage. He's great, but sometimes the ladies say it best. Keep her!
--KK
02/27 |
i should say that it is only those who are uptight that complain about getting raw/dirty/role-playingly-dominant in bed. yeah, some feminists do, but other feminists are feminists because they like to get raw as hell in the sack. autonomy and pleasure go hand in hand. check out the sex/erotic whatever issue of the utne reader with the pink cover--there's a good article about how americans are repressed about roughing it up during some ugly bumping.
--wde
02/26 |
keep her keep her keep her. she's honest and broadens the scope which is rare and refreshing for this sort of thing. it never really is just about sex, is it?
--sb
02/26 |
Say Liz, if the music thing doesn't work out, maybe you should consider writing your own column. Pretty adroit for a newcomer.
--SJM
02/26 |
This great woman is just sharing in the upfront- artist- way. Why call it "sex advice"?? "Personal Advice From LF" has a much better ring. Where ever we are as a culture we must be past the era of the sex advice column. Everything blends together, everything merges. Em and Lo were cute, but that shit now would make you want to stick a finger down your throat! Far better an oppurtunity to have Liz just...share. My guess is that she pecked out your feature laughing and thinking---in a light-hearted way---what twigged out assholes you all are! Go Liz! I love that your records are sometimes so fearsome...and then you can also be gentle. Thanks.
--sr
02/26 |
Intelligent! Well written! Such a refreshing change! can you hire her permanently??
--yah
02/26 |
Liz is great. Musically and intellectually. Her honesty always made me think of the M16 of Scarface "Say Hello to My Little Friend". pada...pada...pada...pada...pada...
Althought I still love "Sex Advice From Cowboys!"
--edz
02/26 |
Yay! I knew it, she's perfect for this. More, more, more!
--jf
02/26 |
Liz, you rock! Thanks for bringing the same full-on realness and candor you have in your lyrics to your sex advice!
--MJ
02/26 |
I thought her advice to Too Good To Be Screwed Was Awful. As somebody who has been sexually assualted by an asshole who was telling me what he thought I wanted to hear I didn't appreciate it. There are, believe it or not, some women out there who are not looking for a serious relationship, just sex, and I think that she should have encouraged him to seek those women out instead of telling him to be a lying dirtbag.
--stj
02/26 |
I'm an advice column junkie. I mean I read A LOT of advice columns across the spectrum and Liz Phair is the best sex advice columnist (with apologies to the recently departed Em and Lo) I've read in a long time. She should have a regular column somewhere if she gets bored being a rock star.
--MCH
02/26 |
Hey Ms. Phair! I'm going to be at your show in Vancouver next week... if you ask the crowd who's read your column on Nerve, I'll be the blond guy waving and cheering. What a combination of my two favourite things: Liz Phair and Nerve. Rock out!
--AMV
02/26 |
Wow -- some really good advice -- good find, Nerve!
--RM
02/26 |
she's boring! Dump her!
--kl
02/26 |
She's good! Keep her!
--jb
02/26 |
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