The last poster is totally wrong. The overwhelming number of people would rather be submissive, especially women. Just take a look at the personals.
--S E
12/27 |
I hurt for the writer....the story actually made me cry. In our lives many of us are hurt and many of us hurt others. I am sorry for you, dear writer - not in a pity fashion but because you seemingly need love so badly - so confusedly that you turn to an allowance of abuse that I think most of us only expect to see in movies or books. When I hurt my husband strokes my face and cries with me which has taught me that sharing my pain and him being empathetic heals me.....I really hope that you find what heals or comforts you. To those of you that enjoy the whole S&M thing - it's cool I understand to a point (not that what I think matters) I think that a great deal of us fantasize at least a little about being the dominant one.....I have just chosen to be dominant without inflicting degradation or suffering on the inner being of my partner. I think the optive word there IS partner - he is my equal and I his. One day I push him down and play the dominant, the next he does.....we believe that in love it is all give and take.
--amc
12/08 |
Peoples reactions to this sort of thing amuses me ..saying get theropy .
In my life theropy never helped ..not the way sandm did ...we all have our paths that take us there ,its a healthy outlet into sexuality.
i enjoyed your story ,her form of abuse is not my own..i would not be so demeining ,unless requested.but it was nice all the same.Remeber its always about trust.
~bellwitch~
--sb
11/19 |
Thanks ZZZ
--S E
11/18 |
Where is the line between domination and abuse? The touching and appalling thing about this story is that the characters are not role-playing or in a scene. They aren't even acting out anything. This is real life for them, and their desires and needs are motivated by their pasts. It is less a story about s&m than it is a story about real, complex emotion and its causes.
--zzz
11/18 |
This is an incredible piece with an awesome title. It is absolutely not easy to write like this, with so much sincerity and guts. The real coup here is that whether or not you're into this stuff, Stephen Elliott makes it sexy.
--afe
11/17 |
Beautiful writing.
I say again . . . beautiful writing. Very erotic and deeply psychological. While I would agree with a previous comment that the story seems to concern itself with abuse in the guise of D&S, I don't agree that it makes the story "sad or stupid."
The terrible, degrading abuse is PRECISELY why I enjoy it. It goes beyond that terrible thing in this modern time we call "The Scene." This story is raw, told with no filler or pretty writer's garnish, or BONDAGE, INC. crap. The author has captured the harsh, opaque nature of the dominant/sadistic female perfectly. She is mysterious and infernal, unpredictable and takes no shit, ever. She is in total control, treating this male like an animal. There are no safe words here. Hard, cold, then soft for a moment—then on fire again. She is the one I see often in my dreams, I'll tell you that. Why? Because she's raw and truly loves what she does, unlike the paid "Pro-Dommes" and their "customers."
The submissive in the story is explained beautifully. He's real, not some cardboard cut-out to fill up space in some shallow D&S fantasy. His motives and feelings feel like reality to me. Would not be surprised to learn that a great degree of the author's own personality was put into this male character; the voice is so crystal clear and comes from a place of stark realism and empathy.
More, more more. I give this article a perfect 10, across the board.
If you want to bitch at me for giving this article so much praise, do get in touch. You will have a hard time defending yourself.
marc@pinksuede.com
--MP
11/15 |
It is sad but by no means stupid!! My god. What a writer!
--TB
11/14 |
this is a beautiful, haunting story. disturbing, but so honest. people are so complicated, pleasure and pain, what helps and what hurts.
i don't pretend to understand how people work, but i think we all can. somehow.
--~
11/13 |
Surprisingly well written for such a strange topic. Uncomfortable but erotic.
--AE
11/13 |
um, therapy? rather, analysis....and meds.
--db
11/13 |
I am dreaming of screaming.
I have no mouth & I must scream.
Perhaps, to bring it all back home; the home the pre-schooler-you lived in. "Scientists" (& aren't they as goofy as any?) have said that mother/child bonding happens very
early. Or does not happen at all.
This leads to permanent brain changes, either way.
If you didn't bond to yours; how much would you pay me if I
could fix it, Good As?
If you did bond to your Mother; how much would I have to pay
you, to take that all away, to permanently change your head
the other way.
People have their prices.
Would you sell that Mother/Child bond?
I knew when I was a pre-schooler that I was not bonded.
Get over it, you say?
Sell to me your mother. For what?
Don't ask me such personal questions about my property.
--JL
11/13 |
a sharpie is a marker not a needle razor blad or other
--god
11/13 |
It's a sick sad story.
--atw
11/13 |
Maybe someone needs to say this stuff ISN'T ok. Sorry to all you pain fans out there, but somewhere, somehow, you've got some wires crossed.
--dma
11/13 |
i didn't understand this. Am only dabbling in that scene. Could someone please spell this story out for me, like a litterature teacher in high school. Thanks
--eva
11/13 |
Abuse under the guise of D/s play. What a sad, stupid story.
--tt
11/13 |
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