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Are you serious? A "TV date"?
Who even owns a TV these days, let alone actually sits down to watch it with other people, in lieu of a date? So you're getting to know each other with Tide commercials and crappy reality TV shows playing in the background? Sounds like you're headed for a double-wide trailer and domestic abuse...
--CM
09/27 |
what happened to the renting-video/DVD-and-watching-a-movie date? personally, i would be wary of someone who watches that much TV. i mean, no wonder it gets boring. John Stewart is an exception to the rule, but American Idol, ugh. this reality show craze, even among perfectly intelligent people, it's very disturbing to me. it's all just mind numbing, dumbed down "entertainment" with no redeeming values whatsoever. people! you got to get away from the DumbBox! that stuff is poisoning our culture.
i think movies are a great way to get some first impressions about what someone is like. and staying in to watch a movie is kinda cozy. this might be because i was raised watching a very diverse range of films because my father has been working in the business since i was s little kid. so if my date even likes the idea of watching a movie at home over watching TV he gets big bonus points for that alone. but a person's taste in movies can say a lot about their interests and what their opinions are about something that's worth talking about afterwards. and also how open he may be to new things if i know a lot more about film than he does, and i can see how he reacts to suggestions that say something about who i am. so this is really just my own personal preference, but the point i'm trying to make here is, there are alternatives to zoning out in front of the TV if you want to have a stay-in date. beware of TV addicts, you'll be guaranteed a dull relationship, if you even get that far. unless dull is what the young folks are into these days...
--jm
05/29 |
your writing style is too glib. that went out with the 80s.
why don't you try a mix of '90s 'over the top' sincerity and gnostic renaissance blither blather? you know, profile daters who are into new age issues and tantric yoga and how we're all humming to a faster spirtual vibe?
just a suggestion.
--kb
05/20 |
A first date in front of the tv is just a guy copping out and not making any effort to court his lady. How boring! Ladies please don't reward such behaviour by having sex with the guy. He doesn't deserve it and is unlikely to value you unless he has had to work for it.
--IA
05/19 |
I swear this same thing happened to me on a first date a few months ago but it was the NBA playoffs and then 2 episodes of Rome (mid-season and I'd never seen any of the earlier episodes.
At first I was apalled and I tried to be open minded since this guy was hot, but was clearly not the right relationship fit for me, especially as I a)do not watch a lot of television in general b) do not watch sports.
We ended up having a pretty much sex only relationship for 5 weeks or so. I would go over to his house (since he had cable and a big flatscreen tv) on weeknights and we'd watch tv, drink a bottle of wine and go to bed. With each week my arrival time became later and later 8pm, 9:30pm, 11pm and then midnight. Clearly I just wanted one thing and in the limited time we spent actually conversing I realized that this dude was lacking in the realm of personality. Then it got to the point that after sex he would turn on the tv in his bedroom. That was the tipping point for me.
So I really think that this is NOT an acceptable first date. There's something to be said for the awkwardness of a first date. I think it's how we handle the awkwardness that determines whether or not the chemistry exists. I also think that a tv date for people who meet online is potentially very dangerous as you are not around other people. Someone who is not willing to meet you publicly for the first time is a red flag in my book.
--dt
05/14 |
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