So true for the thirty-something single female. I have often felt as though I were "coming on" to potential new female friends, but recently decided I just had to "get over" myself, or else not have any fun. How come guys can just "hang", but girls have to have some weird agenda?
--SL
09/12 |
Wow - you got it right on the head - I'd never really thought about it - but your article got me just right!
--sr
07/25 |
friendship is the best part of a relationship, sometimes.
often the most enduring...
dont get me wrong, i love sex, but i like friendship better.
--tca
07/16 |
I had quite a crisis of conscience when I met a woman on Craigslist who replied to my plutonic post. We became instant frineds and I struggled with a thousand feelings that I had to sort out, at first crushing hard and then realizing that the friendship was much too special to risk permanent damage by attempting any romantic advances. I even foolishly admitted as much to her after many drinks early on in the friendship and in retrospect I realized how risky and dangerous it was to have crossed that line. After having known each other for perhaps six months, we went on a week-long vacation to Florida and it was the best time of my life. We somehow managed to find each other, living only a few zip codes apart, but realizing that it is nearly impossible to find friends that are this significant and important in this crazy city of New York. We consider each other family now and talk every day. We are already planning out next vacation together and have solidified our friendship with the kind of everyday experiences that normally take years to rack up. I doubt I will ever make another friend in the same manner again; Craigslist is not exactly brimming with that kind of potential, I just got extraordinarily lucky. But I don't fret about it, because if we are lucky, we make one friend in a lifetime who at once is so integral to our life that no one can light a match to. Ever.
--JD
07/16 |
I enjoyed the topic of this article but I don't see what it has to do with bisexuality. When the author said said "I fall in love with men too, of course," I was thrown by the "of course." I guess I'm puzzled. Seems like including it in a section about bisexuality is trivializing bisexuality.
--bd
07/16 |
I love this article. I have never heard a straight woman talk about her friends in such a sexy, platonic way. It really make me miss my ladyfriends. Hats to you.
--crl
07/14 |
"There's something vaguely shameful about shopping for friends as an adult."
This is sooooo true. I've never been able to put it into words before.
Thanks
--LR
07/14 |
This article was interesting purely for topic, rather than the writing. As a male, I often feel there's a bit of platonic flirting between me and my good guy friends. Any amount of affection between people seems to need to be teased out. I can't tell you how many drunked "You're my best friend" confessions have come out shamefully, like I said I loved them. However, the writing in this article was prosiac and reminded me of any chick-lit novel you might find around, what with the tortured metaphors and "These are my GURLS" attitude. Bleh
--BD
07/14 |
this essay hit on many things i needed to read and that i'm not the only one feeling that way.
--as
07/14 |
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