I agree with the article 110%. I think the guys that say they never even thought about sucking another guy (or want to) are just trying to convince others and themselves that there is no way they have any bi-sexual tendancies. If they would be 100% truthful, they would admit it.
--
02/02 |
I'm a married guy who absolutely worships the female form. I love the way women look, feel, taste and think. I consider myself to be the yang to their yin. But I also have an obsessive hunger for the opportunity to be a cocksucker.I did enjoy an altogether too brief suckbuddy relationship with my best friend as a young teenager, and I recall it to be one of the most erotic and sexually rewarding episodes of my life and I often wish that I might experience it again.
--W R
01/08 |
I love your story and I feel very much like you. Thank you for writing it.
Three years have past since it was posted. I wonder, how do you see things now?
One try-sexual to another.
secret.ibanez@hotmail.com
--RW
10/15 |
OK, so I know this article is over 2 years old, but in the even that someone stumbles across it as I did..I feel it pertinent to share some thoughts. A little info: I am a 33 yr old Bisexual FEMALE happily involved with a man who I truly believe to the love of my life and last weekend we had our second MFM 3some where he did an unbelievable job of sucking the other guy off and loved every second of it. My guy is most definitely straight and yes...he loves to suck cock. And for those that may be wondering...I love to watch!! So for all of you guys out there that have entertained the thought and figured there was no way your girl would go for it...don't beso sure!!
--S
02/03 |
I appreciate your article. I can relate to it and I have experienced it. I am not gay and yet I have encountered the male sex organ in a way that would make women blush.
I think it is natural and even supernatural to engage in the right way at the right time. It takes listening to your "inner voice" and trusting in the wisdom which speaks through it. I think that men who didn't get enough or the right kind of male energy when they were young, need it for their development. Strangely enough the electrical circutry our bodies contain allow certain activities, especially certain sexual activities to provide currents to the brain they need to meet needs, unmet needs, in albeit out there ways. But we are out there anyway, so why is it so strange to believe that we may be wired as such, literally. If needs aren't met they will be met somehow and usually its not pretty, so conciously allowing your circuts to do their thing can be a very meaningful, pleasing and rewarding experience.
Peace be with you on your quest for greater understanding and experience.
--JP
09/22 |
A brave and valuable article. Straight guys admitting their homosexual feelings is very important for improving the state of our culture's unhealthy, dualistic attitudes about orientation. The author's situation seems to be pretty damn common, and it's amazing how much we pretend that it isn't. However, I find the author's "I'm NOT gay" disclaimer at the beginning of the article kind of problematic because it is actually representative of the sexual rigidness that his disclosure intends to explode. Wanting to suck another man's cock is undoubtedly a gay desire. So the author, while predominantly hetero, is indeed at least a little bit gay. What's the harm in calling it that? Isn't that the whole point of the issue: to admit that being at least a little bit gay is not uncommon at all and perhaps it is time to stop clinging to our undiluted straight/gay identities in favor of something more open and middle-grounded?
--sp
05/18 |
Wow. Perfect. I imagine myself on my knees sucking a hung vieny cock for years now when i masterbate but I know that the reality would not live up to the fantasy because i am just not attracted to the rest of the male form. But a hot cock makes me go mad.
--FS
02/19 |
I am thrilled to have this article. I thought I was alone!
--jrm
02/01 |
Obviously you still have a long way to go. With so many men out there how haven't you find what you are looking for attached to a penis? I don't think you have a sexuality problem, it is simply a fetish. Just look around you can find someone where you lest expect it.
--JCA
09/03 |
I absolutely love this article, its like you are writing about my life....amazing work
--TB
09/01 |
i have a question. what percentage of hetero men would suck their own dick if they could? i'd venture to say 100%. resultingly, there must be some amount of desire to suck dick. therefore, if you can't suck your own (and most of us can't) the next best thing is to suck someone elses. does that make all of us bi sexual? call it what you want but men (str8, bi, gay, whatever) are so enamored by their dicks, that the thought of sucking one is pretty much common. is there a difference between desiring to suck and actually sucking one? maybe. but not much.
--bw
08/01 |
three times i've been in a threesome (MFM) situation and i sucked the guys dick. i'm quite straight and probably would not have done it had not the woman been there prodding me to do so, but i'll say it was fun. how about we just quit labeling it all and just have fun. gay, straight, bi...what the fuck...just fuck.
--sm
07/29 |
True, there's nothing like the feeling of hardening happening, live, in your mouth.
If you are particularly turned on by "sucking off the more notable of my girlfriend's sexual conquests," is it impossible to ask her to share? A woman can far more easily ask a man she's already naked with whether he's interested in a threesome than a man can start a duet.
Unless she tries to talk with her mouth full, of course.
--hs
07/28 |
I LOVE THIS ARTICLE, i feel the same way just.. with girls. you laid it out just right.
--BCG
07/28 |
I LOVE THIS ARTICLE, i feel the same why just.. with girls. you laid it out just right.
--BCG
07/28 |
Like many hetrosexual men I've had very similar feelings. I do not consider myself gay or bisexual at all, I'm flat out not attracted to the male form. But at the same time I don't find the act of two men pleasuring each other to be a gay or bisexual act if the only point of it is sexual gratification. You are gay or bi if you have attraction and feelings to the same sex.
Our society has seemed to relax these rules and be much more open to them in the case of two women pleasuring each other. In todays standard they are considered curious while men are labeled as Bi or Gay.
In two weeks I'm meeting up with a friend of mine in my teenage years. We will probably engage in some oral sex just to get each other off even though we are both clearly hetrosexual.
Maybe in time all of this labeling will go away.
--CSH
07/28 |
Wow, there are others out there. Alas, I am married now and my chances of giving head are pretty limited unless I can convince my wife that a threesome with a bisexual male is perfectly acceptable with the new Pope. Fortunately, I have done it already in my prebuscent years, as have many guys. You and your buddy discover the fine art of fantasy and masturbation and you convince your friend that if you suck him off while he's thinking of Mary Jane it's just about the next best thing. So, at least I can go on with my life knowing the feeling of a mouth full of flesh, albeit at age 14.
The fantasies will continue to enhance my solo exercises but, as you basically state in the article, it will have to be the perfect man in the perfect scenario for it to ever really "go down."
--BP
07/28 |
I am heterosexual and I love giving head to women. Lately though I've thought about how it must feel to have a cock in me and what it feels like to women. I was watching a porno about a guy giving it to this chick in the anus and she seemed to enjoy it very much. Well I would also like to be in a threesome where my chick was giving a guy head and just when he was ready to come she backs off and lets me take the cum in my mouth. I also have thought about a guy fucking my chick and when he comes she straddles my head and lets the cum slide into my mouth. I know you won't believe me but I am not gay or rather never have had a homoseveal experience. By the way, the chick I'm making referance to is not real.
--RG
07/28 |
You nailed it.
--efm
07/27 |
Chris I relate to your enigma as I share the same feelings.
I grew up in the deep south and never had thoughts of relating to a man, I married at 21yrs and and still in love with my wife of 42years.
At around 38 I alone and somewhat drunk in a bar was seduced by a guy I went willingly and somewhat enjoyed the experience. Now I have the same issues that you do. I love the sight of a penis specially a soft one and have a large collection of same. On the other hand I have and extensive collection of women as I relate there also. Have a brave and good life you ae special.
--PS
07/27 |
i am a gay male completely willing to help out this guy with his need. i think i fit all of the requirements: appropriately male/masculine, no particular smell either way, nice cock. although it is pierced.
--ta
07/27 |
Your article on wanting to suck dick, even though you're a straight guy, requires a suspension of my disbelief, but I guess I can swallow that. Which brings me to what I'm writing to you about. You never mentioned your reaction to getting sperm in your mouth, let alone swallowing it. What do you say? How do you feel about those things?
I'm a faggot and I love it. It's not the physical sensations of having come in my mouth and swallowing it (those are very mild and subtle), it's my joy at the idea being a cocksucker and actually doing it. It sounds to me as if you might feel the same way.
--dc
07/27 |
In response to this article... If you are looking for a way to "label" yourself sexually, I do not agree with labeling yourself as "straight." When you consider yourself as "straight" but have the desire to suck cock then your "label should be "BI-SEXUAL, with primarily Heterosexual tendencies." Now before you get up in arms over this, Let me explain myself: I believe that we all belong on a sexual continuum, one side is completely 100% heterosexual and the other side is completely 100% homosexual. We all fall someplace on this spectrum. Some people identify 100% hetero, and some as 100% homo, but the rest of the people are bisexual to varying degrees. While some people can settle into the continuum right in the middle enjoying sex with both sexes equally and can identify as 100% bisexual others will settle towards one side or the other. The identity labels here would be: bisexual with primarily heterosexual tendencies (as is the case with the author), or bisexual with primarily homosexual tendencies. My point here is that when it comes to identifying oneself sexually you must look to what degree do you enjoy having sex with "both" genders, which gender is your primary focus and which one is secondary, if any. By the way, I identify myself as bisexual with very strong homosexual tendencies because I have been with a woman (married 13 years) and it wasn't entirely unpleasant, but thoughts of men entered into having sex with her to get me through the experience. in other words I prefer to be with men but given the right set of circumstances I might entertain having sex with a woman again. I base my belief about sexuality on the research and writings done by DR. KINSEY in the mid 20th century, who first introduced the idea of the sexual continuum which makes perfect sense to me. thank you.
--KDK
07/27 |
interesting stuff! I've identified as gay all my adult life, yet I have a similar curiousity about women's anatomy. I've always been turned on by big breasts, and more and more lately I find myself interested in pussy--I watch a lot of straight porn. but, like the writer, I find the idea of intimacy with a woman uninteresting. it's just the raw sex that I think is cool. my big fantasy is to play with a m/f couple, but it hasn't happened. I don't really know how to make it happen, either. bottom line--I think the whole need to label ourselves or each other is just shallow and uninteresting. life's more complex than that.
--ja
07/27 |
Chris, it sounds like you need to try a hot tranny.
--KT
07/27 |
I never felt so identified with someone as the writer of the article. Finnaly someone who doesn't bother of thinking and saying it. I am not gay or bisexual... I am straight but I think of it...
--ANT
07/27 |
This is is perfect. I cannot beleive I have finally read something that describes me perfectly. I am a 34 yo married, 3 kids, fit, screaming heterosexual that loves the idea of another man's cock....not another man, his cock. This obsession can at times be consuming yet completely unreachable. It's fun to admit and know I'm not the only one.
--cc
07/26 |
I couldn't agree more with being attracted to a penis but not to the man with which it is attached. I have had the overwhelming desire to suck a cock for a long time, but the thought of kissing a man makes me want to gag. I do not find men attractive, but I find a good-looking cock irresistible. I will definitely find the right way one day to feed my desire.
Thank you for validating my feelings.
--xxx
07/26 |
Sorry dog...but heterosexual men just aren't curious that way. I feel the whole bisexuality thing is just hairsplitting. Once a man does d**k, he's gay. Anything he might do with women is purely incidental...
--TD
07/24 |
In NYC you could easily find someone decent and acceptable to suck off. Though you have this fantasy, you must not really want to. Still too many scary implications for a "straight" guy most likely. I find it funny that for a gay man, I feel much the same as you. I often want to suck guys but don't really want any of that touchy feely stuff. A dick in my mouth and no talking please.
--MF
07/22 |
Big Bravo! So great to see this in print. Thanks to Nerve for establishing the forum to support such honesty and openess. I self identify as bi but have a lot of problems seeing the difference between me and most other guys. I go after "straight" men as a sexual goal. I use Buddy sex as a filler between serious female relationships. Faster,less emotionally messy, and pretty hot, too. Not interested in fem guys at all. Fell in love with one gay man in my life, sort of a shock. Mostly straight men get me up and get me off. If I've had sex with a hundred "straight" men (no ifs about it) then why doesn't that change the identity of those straight guys? I really don't get it. Why do YOU still call yourself "straight" when you admit a lust for homosexual activity? Why do so many? And, yes, SO Many do. I go after some butch jock for his absolutely masculine aura and I'm no longer surprised when he slides lower in the bed, okay? He wants buddy sex just like me and you. What "straight" guys reject is the feminine identity. Give them enough confidence, security and trust so they can drop the "straight" mask and remain male then WOW, can they suck a cock! Lots of gay men will read your essay and think: No man is Straight! ... without seeing the corollary: Nobody is Gay, they're just men afraid of female sexuality. Hey, let me share a couple of "lines" that works... "You ever fantasize about sucking your own cock?" and "God, I love my dick, can't imagine a life without it!" and, "The worship of a phallus symbol lasted for centuries, still survives in modern man, too", add a knowing grin. db
--DdB
07/22 |
Nicely written. I will merely say "ditto" with those that are agreeing with you. I was troubled in college for quite some time, and actually spent time labeled as gay. I'm now happily married to the woman I love, though I find myself battling the same phallic urges you have (no different than any other guy fighting the urge to fuck their wife's best friend). I must say that many of my urges are more envy than lust (definitely not a 9 or 10 here!), but the male body is a beautiful work of art, and the MANY varieties of penises are even more delectible. Thank you for taking the time to write this article and help explain so eloquently what we've wanted to say for a long time!
--TC
07/22 |
Bravo!!
you've just summed up my life long head case. Only exception, a friend and I engaged one sunny afternoon with a time limit. 5 minutes he did me, five minutes I did him. While I proclaimed I wasn't gay or anything he confessed this wasn't his first time. Many years went by with pieces of his fragmented stories falling into place one by one, but the friendship disolved long before the entire puzzle, for me anyway, was solved.
I enjoyed the encounter, to the point of wanting to do it yet again, now if I could just find the circumstances you have described…
--kh
07/22 |
I found your article fascinating. I could identify in a way because I am a 'gay' man who has occasionally had sexual trysts with women. I enjoyed fully what happened. The experiences came about because I had developed relationships with these women and going to bed with them was just an extension of the social intercourse I enjoyed with them, so to speak. I will qualify what I say about being gay by saying that while I find men to be the objects of my desire I am aware of the potential for relating to women sexually, though in a different way to how I do to men. I see it as a cultural thing whereby we are forced to identify as being in one camp or another.
One book I would recommend to anybody is called 'Sexuality and the Devil' by Edward J. Tejirian.The devil in the title refers to a heterosexual man who goes into analysis because of an irrational fear that the Devil is trying to possess him. During the course of his analysis it turns out that the Devil represented homosexual fears and desires that were bubbling up into his consciousness. The author's conclusion is... "A sensed sexual potential in their relation to other males is an integral component of male psychology." There is another book by this author called 'Male to Male: Sexual Feelings Across the Boundaries of Identity' which explores the issues more fully.
To conclude I'd just like to say that it hit me once, when I awoke from a very exciting dream about me and a woman, that because there is nothing negative attached to sex between men and women, my only reaction was curiosity as to what might have been going on that I had such a dream at that time. I realised that if it had been a man who identified as being heterosexual awakening from a dream about another man, it would, no doubt, have been a cause of self-doubt and stronger negative emotions.
--Dave
07/21 |
DUDE: definitely NOT straight; stop denying your bi-ness or more.
--mm
07/20 |
This article spoke for me 100% and completely. I have often been baffled myself at this particular desire. The early mornings spent attempting to stuff my genitals into my own mouth. half-successfully. To find a stranger, or not even a stranger, some body, literally, with which to experience the "reveal." Is it just because it's so far off the beaten track as to still be considered kinky in the era of Vice magazine, and, well, the entire internet? Is the penis just one of the few things left oddly romantic in our society? Or something more deep in the sub-conscious? Somewhere in between? I sympathize completely with the dilemma of being attracted to an object but not what it is attached to in the least, or any practical scenario in which the pleasure of it would be accessible. Maybe that is in and of itself the rub.
--BJ
07/20 |
I agree 100%. I have spent countless hours fantasizing about sucking a cock but have never done it. It’s the “right situation” issue that the author describes perfectly. But I am not interested in (nor repelled by, for that matter) any other sort of sexual contact with a man. I have never been able to really account for what I am. I am not really bisexual. I think I am “mostly” hererosexual. I love every inch of the look and feel of women’s bodies. Some very erotic pictures for me combine the imagery. Transsexuals – aka “chicks with dicks” – are cool. I love looking at pictures of women with strap-on’s and fantasize about them. I fear suggesting it because women might think it’s weird. But my single encounter with a woman who would put one on is memorable. I was on my knees sucking it and looking up at her while she stared directly into my eyes. The feeling of visual and physical penetration was intensely erotic both then and when we made love afterward. So all you women out there should consider strapping one on. And don’t take “no” for an answer!
--B
07/19 |
I first heard the term "trysexual" in about '92, so good try but no cigar (so to speak). My other favorites include heteroflexible, homoflexible, and 'I'm not gay or straight I'm just slutty.'
Anyhow, why the obsession with adhering to a label that clearly, clearly does not fit? Don't you remember learning in college that rigid sexual identities are a peculiar invention of the 19th century obsession with taxonomy, etc.? Sexual identity is a false, manufactured construct that simply did not exist before the mid 1800s.
What I would suggest is taking a holiday to Europe (maybe Germany) and exploring your totally natural impulses in a country where people don't have so many sexual hangups. Plus, Germans are fucking hot.
--CPT
07/19 |
Thanks for this article. I knew you guys were out there somewhere. Who better to perfomr oral sex on a man than another man. We have the piece. We know what feels good and what doesn't. I have been eating the muscle puppy for many years, and it's the only sex I enjoy. I love doing it as much as I like watching the man enjoy it. Where are you? You can try it on me.
--DWF
07/18 |
Interesting. I do wonder if maybe this impulse doesn't speak so much to the author's sexual orientation as to a well-developed sense of narcissism (I don't mean that pejoratively). I'm a mostly straight woman, and I've had dreams in which I was a man fucking a woman, enjoying it very much. I've also considered what I would do if for some reason I woke up one day with a dick, and really, I would be most interested in fucking my female self (similar to a man wanting to suck his own cock, I guess). One of the things that I enjoyed most about sleeping with the women I've fucked was just the sensuous experience of feeling their bodies and wondering if that was I felt to my partners, male or female. I could obviously be wrong, but I think there's a distinct possibility that the author's desire to suck cock might be a manifestation of the common wish to know how other people perceive and experience you. In this case, you're not wondering whether they think you're interesting/intelligent/cool, you want to know how your cock tastes or feels to them. I think gay, straight, or bi are words maybe better employed to describe the behavior rather than the orientation in this case. But what do I know? I don't have a cock of my very own, more's the pity.
--AKF
07/18 |
Thank You. That is the first article I've ever read that explained what I've been thinking for years. Men like us have no outlet for our curiosity. No safe outlet at least.
Keep preaching the word Brother. Maybe someday it will be easier. But, until then I'll suck you cock if you suck mine.
--MB
07/18 |
its odd to me that people resist the categorization of bisexual. it need not mean that one has an exact 50-50 breakdown of interest in the two genders, the poll in this issue does a good job breaking it down into many levels -- mostly straight but bi-curious, mostly gay but bi-curious, etc.
from an evolutionary perspective, its logical that men and women have a strong impetus to mate -- its clearly no accident that the penis and vagina fit gloriously well together. but there is no real down side to occasional homosexual behavior from a survival perspective -- indeed increasing the bonds of allies could be useful, as it was for greek warriors with butt buddies beside them. it never occurred to the greeks that they had to pick, and now, even after several decades of "sexual revolution" we still have difficulty shaking the idea that maybe there is no need to pick in the first place.
--sam
07/18 |
seems pretty logical that tne desire to suck, an instinct necessary for survival as a newborn and infant, doesn't go away completely for most people. heck, lot's of women have a desire to eat out their counterparts and partially simply because they know they could do it well, they know if feels good. you have to think for guys thats compounded by the universal desire to suck.
--fre
07/18 |
"'Literary' garbage"? What the hell is that idiot talking about? Anyway, I don't think the guy's necessarily gay. In fact I think the phenomenon he describes is far more common than most of us straight guys acknowledge (to ourselves or to anyone else). I've wondered at times whether it's just a side-effect of our vast enjoyment of blowjobs, especially if we actually care about the women who give them: eventually empathy's bound to make you think about both sides of the experience. Also, I think there are two kinds of people: those who experience sex essentially as something they're getting to do TO another person and those who experience it essentially as something that another sentient human being has to be doing WITH them, who only get off on the fact that somebody's choosing to do this stuff. The former is likelier to get off on raping somebody; the latter is likelier to want to know what it's like to suck a dick.
--HG
07/18 |
This article was great - and reminds me of how cool Nerve used to be before it became nothing but regular features dedicated to white middle class vanilla straight people.
--BC
07/18 |
You're gay. not that there is anything wrong with that. please don't insult us with your "literary" garbage.
--jp
07/18 |
oh ya - - same here. Love women - everything about them - but still have this desire to deep-throat a big salami; and usually in a MFM threesome situation. A lot of women actually get off on seeing that. And for me it is all about the cock and not the person it's attached to. I can't imagine kissing a guy in a sexual/sensual way but I'll suck his dick. Does that make me a homophobe in some way? or rather, a hedonisitic bisexual?
--pp
07/18 |
Fuck! I could have written this, except the part about my cock looking good. I feel absolutely the same thing.
--YC
07/18 |
I suppose it would be a cliche to offer to solve your problems, but I'm always up for a round of mutual oral gratification with another straight guy. You got a Nerve profile so we can arrange to meet up at a bar and decide whether we like what we see?
--PK
07/18 |
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