Read your book. Have some comments. Did some searching. And find that your husband has died. My most sincere regrets to you.
--jc
04/17 |
Very insightful and personal. Susan as deftly maneuvers her way, she makes the reader feel what it is to be in her (and my) shoes. Well done!
--LMS
02/26 |
I am 47 and my husband just died 9-9-08, I love him
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--lb
09/15 |
OK--so I just got home with yet another armful of expensive makeup, (lipstick for me) lotions and scrubs which I CANNOT afford, and sat down to check my e-mail. Typed in WIDOWED (it's Friday night after all, and the sounds of my neighbors, couples, having drinks and firing up the BBQ drove me indoors), and found THIS. It's wonderful... I'm 53 and have not masturbated this much in years. Thankyou, thankyou, thankyou. I am not alone.
--EW
05/30 |
I lost my husband a little over a year ago, 3 days before my 39th birthday. I just turned 40 and for the last several months, I found myself dating a lot and even though I have the "Widow Plague", 20 somethings don't seem as bothered by my disease as 40 somethings, so I stick with the younger ones. Poor me. It is easy to jump back into the deep end of the pool when you have no real expectations of ever finding someone who can compare, but then I have no desire to re-marry or have a long term committed relationship with anyone else. Ever. There is a sort of freedom in that.
--BK
05/20 |
I have not lost a spouse or partner, but my dad died 15 years ago, and my mom has not pursued any sort of romantic relationship since. I encourage her to meet men, but she says she's not interested. They had a happy, affectionate, loving marriage; it seems impossible to me that the need for that companionship and warmth could be so easily denied. Or maybe she's just afraid of forgetting the man she loved/loves so dearly? I don't have the answer. Thank you for this essay.
--VKI
05/19 |
Guess I'll say something more meaningful than "Ack! Page 3 doesn't work!" Thankfully, I haven't been in the position yet of losing someone and everyone thinking they have to tiptoe around me, but I've known people who have been there, and I think the only thing you can do is start being completely and visibly outgoing, and change the subject immediately whenever someone mentions it. In Richard Feynman's autobiography (which is interesting reading), he lost a wife to cancer, but he didn't want everybody acting all sympathetic at work, so whenever someone asked how his wife was doing, he replied, "She's dead, how's the project?" That seemed to work.
--JCF
05/17 |
So true and bigger bitch at 35
--AJS
05/16 |
I am 29 and lost my husband (27) to a long cruel cancer 3 months ago and sometimes I am so hungry for sex. Everyone treats me like I have the widow plague and my sex drive goes up. This article spoke to my soul - it is the conversation that no friends will have with me. Thank You.
--AB
05/15 |
in the midst of another sort of bereavement, I loved reading this essay. It's about as honest as it could be about the inability to form new close relationships and the need for the same. Well done.
--HEX
05/15 |
funny and touching. thank you.
--ted
05/15 |
Interesting Read. I like the quote format.
--lso
05/15 |
Page 3 is now fixed. Sorry about that folks.
--Ed.
05/15 |
Arggh, page 3 is broken! Thankfully, the printer friendly format is working. Well, sort of - the ad is offset and sitting on top of some of the text, but it's page 1 text that's blocked, so I can read that on page 1.
--JCF
05/15 |
Your third page of this story is broken, by the way...
I liked this. My mother's going through this stage herself, so it was good to read. Nice to know others are doing "widow shopping" as well.
--JR
05/15 |
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