The problem discussed isn't the ACT of infidelity; it's the associated DECEIT and MISTRUST. Maybe the swingers of this world are smarter than they're given credit. As a swinger once relayed to me, regarding he and his wife's activites, "don't cheat ON me, cheat WITH me." Problem solved.
--EW
06/29 |
Great story, so honest. I saw myself in it and I am going to breathe in and breathe out as I whisper the last sentence of it.
--le
06/01 |
a 20-something who whole heartedly enjoyed your essay and it's wise views on sexuality and relationships. i'm happy to say that upto this point there has been no green eyed monster in my mirror! i hope to keep it this way.
--DMT
05/18 |
Susan, I'm jealous of this essay. Smart, honest, hilarious...and written by someone who's lived, i.e., not a 20-something.
Thank you.
--abx
05/18 |
After reading Alessandra Stanley's petty take on this topic in last Sunday's NY Times, it's refreshing to hear from someone who suggests the human heart might be bigger rather than smaller; that the measure of love has more to do with generosity than possessiveness, more about possibility than limitation.
Well done.
As for "yoni", that's what my german-american grandmother used to call me in my youth: "Yohnny, put dem dishes in da zink."
--JA
05/15 |
I just wish the person who said he/she couldn't even begin to say what's wrong with the article would just "begin." I find this to be an honest, direct, intelligent, witty, funny article that treats an age old problem with fresh insight, and offers a particularly modern solution. I LMAO. Bravo!
--SU
05/15 |
I thought I was the only one who called it a Yoni!
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05/15 |
Grrr...*devastating*
--Kali
05/15 |
I am a patently unjealous woman. I think there are a million ways to betray someone that would be much more devasting than having sex outside the relationship. My ex-husband, my current fiance, and most of my female friends think there is something wrong with me because I don't necessarily consider "cheating" to be the ultimate dealbreaker.
--Kali
05/15 |
Thank you for expressing most eloquently similar thoughts I have had on the subject.
--jd
05/15 |
Good article, i'm really glad to see one written by an older person for a change. You guys need to do that more often.
--aj
05/14 |
I quite liked this article. The author's wisdom and humanity were refreshing, and I think she is speaking for both men and women.
--UD
05/14 |
"an interesting point of view that's not often presented"? this article pops up everywhere periodically. men probably cheat, it might be easier if women accept it. while i'm not agreeing or disagreeing with this premise, it's certainly not an interesting point of view that's not often presented. it's a pretty boring point of view that's over-presented and represented.
--tru
05/14 |
welcome to the new nerve.
--JK
05/14 |
this is extremely annoyingly gendered for nerve.
--ljh
05/14 |
Thoughtful article with good points and an interesting point of view that's not often presented. I will re-read the next time I'm feeling jealous, it's definitely not an emotion I like! Thanks.
--RB
05/14 |
i think the article is an interesting mediation on the struggle between logic and emotion. logically we know we can't ever be the center of our partner's universe; emotionally, we often want to be.
--ja
05/14 |
there are so many things wrong with this article i don't even know where to begin.
--tsh
05/14 |
Blech.
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