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This interests me a lot. I have a similar blog about my dating life on blogger and now you've got me wondering...will it hurt my future relationships? I don't tell people I meet about it and I've put it under a code name, but my most recent interest happened to stumble across it and has been reading it , which I don't mind, since I am usually an extremely honest person anyway. But I don't want all the mystery to be gone too soon! I've gotta take a good look and figure out the potential pitfalls...hmmm.
--cb
03/30

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04/10

This something my late grandmother or 80 something mother would have advised. It's timeless advice.
--pb
03/16

Ms. Traister, I enjoyed this essay. It reminded me of a quote I've seen attributed to Confucious, "Love in triangle, not on square."
--JJ
01/29

You won't have sex w/ a guy b/c he like the Eagles a lot? How mature. Yes, you must be way hipper than that guy, and you should definitely make hipness your main criterion for which guys you'll bang.
--AWF
08/20

All I have to say is that these guys who are signing you up arbitrarily for their e-mail groups, newsletters or blogs aren't really exhibiting any form of etiquette whatsoever. I mean, it's one thing if you say "yes, I would like to know more" and then you found all this out. In that respect, you're pretty much asking for it. But if they're just doing it on a whim because they think it's cool...honey, RUN AWAY, don't walk, OK?
--KRSH
07/17

I agree with you entirely. An obsevation I'd like to make about blogs and the bloggers who maintain them tend to have a phase in which they think about either abandoning their online journals or making another account as if, in one way or another, start over. All that is caused by the realization that they have blogged too much.
--Pam
05/28

I've been browsing your articles, they're entertaining, informative and coole. Keep up the good works. http://pinay-ladies.blogspot.com
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05/25

what about myspace surveys?
--km
05/19

If your blog is banal and boring, it makes you look the same way. If your blog rocks though, it can be quite an aphrodesiac. The trick is in knowing thine own blog, and sharing it appropriately.
--NPI
05/17

TMI saves time. We don't have time for slow reveal, put out or shut up!
--SV
05/16

Electronic speed has ruined the slow reveal... There is no tease, just strip.
--dc
05/16

Spot on. Why do people think all this personal info is so interesting (and not weird, creepy or irritating) anyway. It's cool to find these things out later in a relationship. The real life parallel is hearing someones life story on your first meetin - needy, nerdy and TMI.
--RJA
05/16

I don't really think this is a problem. So you found out very soon that Joe is reallllly close with his mother- isn't it better to find that out now than after lots of dates and getting attached? Screw the "mystery," you're going to find that stuff out sooner or later. I always vote for sooner if you're going to rule someone out who's not right.
--JDR
05/15

Thank you -- I've encountered a few examples of the TMI culture myself, and have been wondering if I'm just some kind of old grouch. I feel better knowing there's at least two of us! Weirdly enough, I have a blog. However, it's anonymous; only three of my friends know I write it, and even if someone else who knew me stumbled upon it, he or she would probably not connect it to me. I would certainly never send a link to a man I'd just starting seeing. When did immediate public oversharing become acceptable?
--MM
05/15

Wow, I can't imagine any situation where I'd give someone I had just started dating my blog address. If I did so, how the fuck would I be able to rant to my friends about her if a date when humorously bad? That said, I tend to assume that a lot of girls google anyway. But at least then if they find my blog they have no one to blame but themselves. Also, there is no way in hell under any circumstance that I would give a girl the URL of a blog that had any information about my family on it. The last thing I want a girl thinking about on a date is my mom.
--BJC
05/15

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