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Brilliant piece! I agree with M.C. - 'In the story you tell here, you understand the importance of working through the thong experience quickly, thoroughly, deeply - - you rush off to make something illuminating out of a creepy, troubling, mistrust-producing experience - - whereas the giggling Shrinky merely ducks when distress flaps by.' I loved it at the end she says 'our assumptions about sex wall up our psyches, preempt new scenarios and run possibility into the ground. But we should be able to see ourselves as the protaganists of more than one sexual narrative — if not, we run the risk of making repeat performances in the same sleepy role, be it the naļf, the seductress or the unrequited lover. Therapy might help shake up that storyline. But so can attention to the workings of other peoples' minds. I listened closely, and I found that their narratives helped me reshape my own'. it so important that 'we should be able to see ourselves as the protaganists of more than one sexual narrative...Therapy might help shake up that storyline. But so can attention to the workings of other peoples' minds' - the one and the most important reason I like Nerve so much - I also think sex is lot of times psychlogical regardless of its physical nature.
--MI
11/04

I'm with the "cross-dressing" theory. Mack will try anything to get you, and you know it. Vanity, vanity... we sometimes fall because of it. Congratulations on an excellent piece of writing!
--ca
06/24

Susan, I was about to send your Thong piece to my therapist's partner who is a tallish, mild-mannered guy(who more importantly has and answers email) in his forties and ask for his take. What stopped me was the incongruity of the puzzled look/blushing which would connote discomfort and the laughing aloud for almost a minute which seems would be a rather comfortable response. See, I feel it is important to present the exact truth to a therapist or they cannot do their job.
--SLK
06/17

I'm a bit bothered by a few things: -the fact that therapy is a given here (funny: therapist = the/rapist) -the investing of a thong with sexual meaning - it is just underwear, after all... Sounds like there's a ton of (sexual) neuroticism at play here - bordering on paranoia...
--xox
06/16

Hey! How 'bout this theory: An admirer of your therapist, perhaps a troubled ex-patient, fixates on him, and simply sent him a piece of her intimate apparel as a way to gain his attention. And your therapist mislaid it, conciously or unconciously. But that's HIS issue with it. Anyway, interesting article!
--WEB
06/13

I love the seating thing.. we have a therapist of choice in our area and at one time or another many of my friends have hit her office.. always fun to compare where each chooses to sit... I like the corner seat as well for the reasons you mentioned.. but once.. I had on black and looked at this beautiful tan leather chair in the across, chess position and thought how cool the black/tan would look so chose there.. and had to waste a few minutes convincing her I was not running away... simply thinking I'd look stunning.
--PT
06/07

Excellent piece of writing, of applied pomo science, and of self-analysis, Ms. D. ! The meaning of the thong, purr-haps, is that you've outgrown your therapist. In the story you tell here, you understand the importance of working through the thong experience quickly, thoroughly, deeply - - you rush off to make something illuminating out of a creepy, troubling, mistrust-producing experience - - whereas the giggling Shrinky merely ducks when distress flaps by. His analysis - - "It's not what you think," is accurate as far as it goes, but God is in the details, and if it was up to me, I'd send HIM to get therapy from YOU.
--M.C.
06/06

I hope your therapist reads your column.
--CZ
06/05

Actually, the very first thing that occured to me, without even the slightest analysis intervening, was a complete story involving an over-wrought patient discreetly wriggling out of them, and leaving them on the floor in a gesture, perhaps of seduction, but more likely of pure art. Believing that such things happen all the time gives me the courage necessary to contiue living. narodniq@nerve
--nn
06/04

hi guys! good site needs more colour though, and a tune! pherhaps! maybe green day , suicide makeover, would be good sumthing with a decent rift! bye for now kev. P.S. saw the ad on sex T.V.
--Kev
06/03

I'm with Mack.
--lcc
06/01

BRILLIANT.
--AD
06/01

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