you've really gotten better and better at this gig. I think when you first started out you were rather more tentative about some issues. but across the board you really are responding with positive messages to those who need them or are seeking them and are fairly genuine about their issues and themselves. and you have been kicking to the curb those assholes and idiots who want justifications for their bad behaviors.
rock on Miss I
--rxl
01/07 |
EXCELLENT advice! Especially the last one in which you pointed out the "contempt" factor. I didn't read it in the non-art-terrorist The Atlantic, but I did read it somewhere, and you are right on the money. Isn't it funny how almost all of these problems are extensions of people's inability to communicate their needs or fears?
--dsm
01/05 |
to ct: there was more to my letter. there was a "view more responses" link that i didn't click initially. no fishiness afoot; simply absent-mindedness.
--HFG
01/05 |
Hot for Germaphobe,
It seems a little fishy that you "didn't notice" that the guy was looking for someone who was disease-free.
--ct
01/04 |
hot for germaphobe: i completely empathize. have been in your shoes. of course, i always disclose too. instead of men becoming more understanding and compassionate as we get older, they duck and run more than when i was 25...in spite of sparkling eyes, killer rack and a zillion other amazing qualities. hell, when i was 25, guys just wanted to fuck no matter what, and i could pick and choose wisely. erin's right, i think. saying yes seems to imply insta-relationship. which, at my age, might feel like a life-long commitment. sigh...
--rrrh
01/04 |
FLAF,
I appreciate your courageous and honest reply. When you’re ready to start dating again, get off the computer and back out in the real world. It’s riskier, but the payoff is significantly greater. We good, single men are out there.
Take care,
--SAR
01/04 |
I sent the fag hag letter. The funny thing is we actually just met a few days ago (after over two months of talking) and hung out and it was fine. However, I don't think we will be anything more than friends. I'm still not entirely sure why he delayed it for so long. I really shouldn't have kept talking to him, but we developed a really close friendship and I just kept letting it drag on. I haven't really dated anyone in over a year, so I think that's why I stayed interested for so long. I think if I had had other guys in the picture I would have blown him off long ago.
--FLAF
01/03 |
Erin,
Great column again. Thanks. My question is for Fag Hag. How could she chat for 8 weeks with a guy without meeting him and then still want to meet him? He's obviously a man to avoid, but what's wrong with her? A healthy man interested in an on off-line relationship (of any kind) with a woman would set up a real date/hook-up with her within 2 - 4 emails. If he can't get it done by then, cut him off, move on, and find a real man.
--SAR
01/03 |
Feeling Like a Fag Hag should read Dan Savage's column this week (http://www.avclub.com/content/savagelove) - there may be a more nefarious reason this guy doesn't ever want to meet.
--BD
01/03 |
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