celebrity sex and normal sex are two different things. hillary duff and other highly visible virgins profit from their squeaky image and (like teenage CEO's) work hard to maintain "brand integrity."
their private lives are as private as anyone's, but their public image is a little different. it is just perverse that virginity in our culture is a commodity instead of the highly personal experience it should be in either a young girl or man's life.
basically, if it isn't a doctor or a reporter asking about your virginity, smacking the rude busybody is a suitable resonse.
--GM
11/28 |
Aaaargh, where did the paragraph breaks go?!
--ZL
11/14 |
Good point, KDW - even for non-celebrity virgins!
First, I like my privacy. If I answer the question "are you a virgin?" with "yes" now and "no" shortly after I lose my virginity then it'll be easier for Mom or Dad or whoever's asking to know just when I lost it. Bleah. :(
Second, I'm also not a good liar. If I answer the question "are you a virgin?" with "yes!" now and answer it with "yes" after I lose my virginity, then I might not get the tone of voice the same both times and whoever's asking might figure out that "no" is the correct answer the second time. Still bleah. :(
So, IRL I answer the question with "that's a really prsonal question" or "none of your business" even though I'm still a virgin. ;)
Let's consider the possibility that a 19-year-old woman doesn't have to lose her virginity immediately *and* doesn't have to be smug about it until she does. For example, I only started dating at 18 (not all teen girls have perfect bodies...). At age 19 I sure didn't feel ready to have sex yet! However, I was still honest about the fact that I was a sexual being (three cheers for masturbation and fantasy and looking up birth control options ahead of time!) and it eased my transition to womanhood. :)
--ZL
11/14 |
amen, sister!
--sam
11/09 |
I don't understand the dichotomy of virginal vs whoring. Can't we have any models of a healthy approach to sex, where it is not all or nothing (no one or everyone)? Sex is good, but it needn't be the defining charactoristic of any young woman, famous or not.
--jlv
10/28 |
The fact of the matter is that virginity or being actively sexual isn't a matter of public record. If people would learn to keep their lips sealed then no one would be quite as able to smear it over the tabloids.
--KDW
10/24 |
The whole "virginal" celebrity thing bothers me. If they are really virgins and are happy about it good for them...it gives young girls the ability to see that they don't need to have sex so young, but on the other hand I think more emphasis needs to be put on making safe choices so if they do have sex, they can save themselves some tears and trouble.
--CA
10/21 |
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