dude, why so harsh about not wanting to have sex on the second date, just because it happened on the first? I mean, sometimes you DO want to get to know the other person and sex clouds that . . .
--KOC
02/24 |
"I had sex with a guy on the first date. Now I'd like to take it slow with him."
Women that don't know what the fuck they want are the bane of men's existence. Andra's advice was closest, except you shouldn't wait to tell him you handled the first date badly and want to ease back a little. Even if he's a nice guy who likes _you_, he's gonna wonder what the heck is going on, and it WILL put him off...and quite possibly chase him away. OTOH, if he knows chances are good he'll hit the sheets with you again if he's up to snuff, he'll definitely stay interested.
--Tokn
02/23 |
Weddings. Classic. No better place on the planet for a single guy to just...exist. Stand in the corner it doesn't matter. They can sniff you out! LOL! The "talks". About a billion of these I'm assuming, exclusivity is a new term for me. We fellas are aware of the talks. Oh yes. And we avoid them like the plague. Why? They shatter the illusion that the chase is still on. We hunt. Women Nest. Or maybe not, frick I don't know. Google my dating track record then plot me on the releveance meter.
--MC
02/21 |
I second FYI's comment on all counts.
--mj
02/21 |
at the risk of stating the obvious, i have to say that if two people had sex on the first date and all of a sudden one of them wants to take it slow, then the chemistry must not have totally been there. generally speaking if it was off the hook the first time, even if it seemed imprudent or hasty, very few people want to go backwards.
on the other hand, if two people have sex on the first date and then the guy all of sudden expects sex at each and every turn, then WTF? sex isn't a contractual obligation, it happens when both people are in the mood. get a grip. anyone who gets pissy about not getting some on the second date is a loser.
--gl
02/21 |
Andra and Melissa's advice is twisted and ridiculous. At least Gwendolyn has a clue.
BTW, the real answer to: "I had sex with a guy on the first date. Now I'd like to take it slow with him. How do I move us back to first base?" is you can't. If you wanted to go slow, you shouldn't have slept with the guy on date 1. Trying to "slow things down" after sexing on date 1 is sending a mixed message. Mixed messages push men into the arms of the next woman.
--FYI
02/21 |
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