6. You might get better in bed.

"Everything about post-college life is ambivalent; that there is little to which anyone today might aspire. That the sex is depressing and boring is par for the course." DF

If practice makes perfect, hookup culture offers a way to explore sexuality and improve skills before we are locked into marriage or other long-term relationships. Most people aren't remaining abstinent before marriage, so where is the harm in experimenting with the freedom? Sex varies with each encounter. To say that our hookup sex is "depressing and boring" across the board stands in huge contrast to the fact that people keep on doing it. Something must feel good about it or we would have already kicked the habit. Besides, you have to test drive the car before you buy it.

7. You can stumble into really, really good sex.

"But to at least strive for good sex is not an unreasonable goal." DF

Having good sex with a stranger isn't an unrealistic goal. If one or both of you have a penis or vagina, you have all the ingredients you need for good sex. While some people's pleasure is predicated by intimacy, there is also a large majority of people who are able to enjoy their bodies with a person they quite enjoy without wanting further romantic attachment. Skill, attention, and attraction can determine good sex, and that, my friend, you can find in a hookup. If the TV show Girls has shown us anything, it's that you have to stumble in order to get to the good stuff.

8. We're all still getting married

"Life in hookup culture denies the experience of meaningful sex and romance." DF

If life in hookup culture makes us slaves to meaningless sex and sets the stage for romance inaccessibility, how come most of us, statistically, hop on the marriage train? Hookup culture seems like something we're all interested in, but eventually grow out of. We're delaying getting married because we want to sort out the rest of our lives before we attack romance, but we are (as a trend), still looking to the altar once we have sown our wild oats.

9. It's not as dangerous as you'd expect

"55 percent of the sexual encounters on campus with someone who was not a steady partner involved alcohol." DF

Maybe over half of hookups are drunk hookups. Maybe we are painted as an unhappy, unraveled hookup culture who are drunkenly getting knocked up and sexually assaulted. But, that's actually a lot of scare-mongering. Since 1981 (a quaint era before hookups), unwanted pregnancies have gone down for women. Not to mention, according to the US Department of Justice, "The rate of intimate partner violence against females declined 53% between 1993 and 2008". Being able to freely test the waters seems to only make us safer—emotionally and physically.

10. It's here to stay

"Students learn to be ashamed of their politics." DF

If young people, especially women, are forgoing their politics and gods in favor of casual sex, then why is hookup culture sustaining itself? When we cry wolf about young folk's sexual habits, we always forget that social behavior evolves. As Hanna Rosin, author or The End of Men argues, "There is no retreating from the hookup culture to an earlier age, when a young man showed up at the front door with a box of chocolates for his sweetheart, and her father eyed him warily. Even the women most frustrated by the hookup culture don't really want that. The hookup culture is too bound up with everything that's fabulous about being a young woman in 2012—the freedom, the confidence, the knowledge that you can always depend on yourself." Hooking up isn't going anywhere, so it's clear that it must serve us sexually, socially, and politically in some way.

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