You had to lie about being married. Did you have to lie about being Jewish?

M: No.

D: Kind of.

M: The one time we were freaked out about talking about me being Jewish was when we were getting married by a judge, but he actually didn't care what our stripes were. He just wanted us to believe in God. We finally told him we both believe in God, I'm just Jewish and he's, whatever... Congregationalist. The real truth was your dad was totally agnostic! But the judge was a lovely person.

D: He was a scary guy! Right is right and wrong is wrong, but his right and our right lined up, and his wrong and our wrong lined up, so it was okay. But you could just feel, if you crossed him? Oh, forget it.

So, describe the wedding.

M: Well, we decided that it would be small.

D: We got married in our apartment.

M: We got married in our apartment, sent out invitations, and it turned out my parents came, his parents came, and his aunt and uncle. We had about eighteen people in all in our apartment with the judge.

D: The thing was, we had negative two billion dollars to our name. It turned out there were a ton of summer shows going on, musicals and everything else, so I would work a construction job all day and then come back and play these musicals, and that's how we eventually made enough money.

M: I started freelancing and playing on pop records.

D: Yeah, there was a lot of recording stuff. There were also a million church gigs. But to give you an idea of how little money we had, the first thing I did after we got to Birmingham — you know, they take the truck away and we're in the apartment — I looked up where the Red Cross blood-donor place was, gave blood, and with whatever the money was, bought gas, and bread, and milk.

M: And peanut butter.

D: And peanut butter. That's how bad it was. That's how we started.

So weren't you terrified?

D: Oh, yeah. Absolutely.

M: We both were. But I always felt that together, we could do it. That was always the feeling.

Commentarium (14 Comments)

Apr 05 11 - 12:37am
JM

What a great story!
Nothing better than two musicians in love.

Apr 05 11 - 1:42am
Lindsay

They look so happy in the picture in the end! Warms my heart.

Apr 05 11 - 1:47am
elle

What sweet people.

Apr 05 11 - 2:09am
Ryan

As someone from "the ham" I can testify to the awesomeness of our symphony orchestra!

Apr 05 11 - 3:56am
Dee

both so cute.

Apr 05 11 - 11:15am
CF

Adorable. What a happy couple. Glad it worked out in the end. Hope Debbie found someone too.

Apr 05 11 - 11:47am
Anna

I'm not even a romantic, but this is awesome. I love that they first made it official at the DMV...and that Debbie's ring got passed down! Thanks for sharing.

Apr 05 11 - 11:55am
VG

I love the pictures from past and present. This deserves a great big awwwwwwwwwww.

Apr 05 11 - 2:40pm
Litsa

I love this series! Wonderful installment! I appreciate their honesty re the hurdles they had to overcome and, like any long-term couple, they know staying together isn't always easy. But you can tell from the most recent photo they still love each other. And that's always nice.

Apr 05 11 - 3:55pm
Bevie

The part that made the coffee come out of my nose is that the girl from Nanuet wound up being born again. Of course I'm sure that her parents blamed you Rob. Life sure is funny isn't it?

Apr 05 11 - 7:53pm
Edward SF

Melt that baby down!

Apr 06 11 - 6:33pm
Evan

Im not one to care about shit like this, but that story is awesome.

Apr 07 11 - 6:00pm
KJ

I LOVE this series.

Apr 10 11 - 10:15pm
Cora

This series is my favorite thing on Nerve. Adorable!