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Have You Ever Really Had An Orgasm?

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Tackling the ever-elusive female orgasm.

Let's face it: Sometimes, you could use some (non-retail) therapy, and sitting on a stranger's couch isn't on your list of to-dos. Enter: Pretty Padded Room, a virtual platform that connects you to its arsenal of licensed therapists — all 12 of them! Because, if one were enough, you'd have stopped bugging your BFF about how long you should wait 'til you text your ex back. This week, the ladies tackle the ever-elusive female orgasm. 

I just turned 32, and I'm pretty sure I've never had an orgasm. I enjoy sex, but it never has that "wow" thing for me that it seems to for everyone else. I've tried using vibrators and my GYN said there's nothing physically wrong me, which makes me think it's "all in my head." What can I do? I really want to experience that amazing thing that everyone always talks about! Cheri Travis, Licensed Professional Counselor

This is a frustrating issue for sure, but fixable! There’s a reason it’s said that the brain is the most important sex organ: It is truly the center of all the action, for both men and women. I commend you for seeking a solution and wanting to take your sex life to the next level. The benefits of a satisfying sex life are well documented: endorphin release, increased levels of intimacy, and satisfaction in relationships — woohoo! So, where to start?

Read all of Pretty Padded Room's Orgasm advice on Refinery 29.

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