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Is Your Vibrator Ruining Your Sex Life?

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Explore reliance on the "massager." 

by refinery 29

“I’m breaking up with my vibrator,” my friend Kate,* 35, quietly informed me over lattes last week. “I love it, obviously, but my boyfriend thinks it makes me less responsive to, you know,him.” I wasn’t surprised by her confession. My therapist had recently asked me to try taking a vi-break of my own after I’d told her I had a hard time reaching orgasm without my trusty Hitachi Magic Wand. That is, I pretty much never have an orgasm without my Magic Wand. It’s been this way for years, ever since I first bought the legendary insta-orgasm machine that renowned sexpert Betty Dodson dubbed “the Cadillac of vibrators” back in the ‘70s. 

Prior to my therapist’s suggestion, I’d never stopped to think about whether my reliance on the “massager” was healthy — it was helping me get off after years of having hardly any orgasms at all. That couldn’t possibly be a bad thing, right?

Read all the vibrator sexploration details on Refinery 29.