My First Time

Female • 14 • Florida

I lost it in a public park. There is some strange magnetism with me and parks which I fail to understand to this day. The only times I've been in trouble with the law happened at parks. The first time I saw what guys keep behind their belts? A park, at night. Florida kids don't have the luxury of basements, so that's probably where it comes from. One must improvise. (My first real kiss happened on a Carnival cruise. I am every bit the suburban tragedy.)

I hadn't quite gotten used to the idea of guys liking me yet; I was fresh out of years of torture for being the smart, pale girl. He was tall, smart, cute, gentlemanly, and very funny. We sat next to each other in a time-wasting class, where he watched me trick a childhood guy friend into doing my class work. He said I was "cocky" and I said he was confusing cockiness with being resourceful. We started at the school the same year, but in separate grades. He was the guy that almost every girl liked. This, of course, resulted in endless girl-drama, and me being "a huge bitch" to almost every freshman and sophomore girl before I had even gotten the chance to live up to the title. Once I got past being the "bitch," being his girlfriend made high school seem pretty kick-ass. We were a literal jock-cheerleader couple, and people were nice to me for once.

I had already decided — without consulting him — that it was happening that night.

He'd had sex before and I knew it, but wasn't surprised or concerned. Of my four closest friends, two had already lost their virginities (and given me all the details) and I was not about to be the last. I wanted to know what it was like for myself. (I was the little girl who asked a thousand questions until my single mother caved and gave me The Talk.) I was and am a huge nerd, but he claimed to like it. The only thing I disliked about him was his tendency to play down his intelligence so as to mesh with the "cool" crowd.

We'd been together just over two months the first time we had sex. I had already decided — without consulting him — that it was happening that night. I was on the pill for other reasons, so the only practical issue left to address was location. To me it seemed perfectly obvious given our options: the park. He thought I was either very crazy or very prematurely kinky, or perhaps both.

I was on top, and instructed him to just sit there and let me get through the pain part first. Holding of breath... pinching feeling... the end. Even today I remember being a little disappointed. That's it? What is all the fuss about? The most discomfort I experienced was the scratch of the fresh-cut grass on my knees. After a few minutes of discomfort and laughing at ourselves, I readjusted my miniskirt, and we walked back to the center of town so my mother could pick us up.

He thought I was either very crazy or very prematurely kinky, or perhaps both.

I am quite thrilled to report that the sex quickly became fun and enjoyable, and I became the authority on sex matters among my girlfriends. My penchant for public places increased, and together he and I took on all parts of our campus, two athletic fields, a dugout and a few more public parks.

We were together for a few years after that, and we're still friends today. We mostly talk about his girl problems. Once we broke up, we both dated our way outward through our social circle. I am now happily engaged to his super-cerebral best friend, and he wants to become a priest online so he can officiate our wedding. I'm getting married in the hotel garden across from that park.

We're looking for stories about the first time you had sex. Email with 500-1000 words. (Don't worry, we won't print your name — but please do make sure to include your gender, where you were, and how old you were.) Submissions may be edited.
By sheer chance, Jack and I both ended up in Shanghai that summer.
According to just about every pre-college advice manual, floorcest is a bad idea.
"So no, I didn't lose my virginity in the most traditional way."

Commentarium (38 Comments)

Sep 13 11 - 12:30am

Sounds like it was written by a 14-year-old. Disappointingly unremarkable, especially when compared to the last one.

Sep 16 11 - 7:17pm

Au contraire, J, you fucking tart snob. I found it unremarkably disappointing, without even comparing it to the last one.

Sep 13 11 - 12:31am

That was oddly charming. It's so rare to stay friends with a high-school ex, let alone the one you lost your virginity to. Congrats.

Sep 13 11 - 1:44am

rather blatantly fake, isn't it?

Sep 13 11 - 10:23am

yes, each of these two hundred first-time stories is fake. nobody has ever lost their virginity, anywhere, ever.

Sep 13 11 - 3:17pm

I did once.

Sep 13 11 - 4:16pm

654's story is obviously fake.

Sep 13 11 - 7:34pm

True. true.

Sep 13 11 - 9:55pm


Sep 16 11 - 3:12am

Hell, if it is fake, I don't really give a shit. Not like I know the people anyway, doesn't affect my life.

Sep 16 11 - 7:17pm


Sep 13 11 - 1:57am

God you guys are a tough audience....

Sep 13 11 - 12:10pm

Ugggh...worst comment ever. ;) Just messing!

Sep 13 11 - 11:07am

Here I was hoping you wound up marrying the guy who did your homework for you in the boring class so many years ago. Why else do you think he did it?

Sep 13 11 - 7:36pm

Maybe so he could learn the important life lesson that kissing someone's ass doesn't make you attractive to them.

Sep 16 11 - 7:18pm

Ah, but licking it - does!

Jan 23 12 - 9:47am


Sep 13 11 - 12:48pm

You could of at least thrown a free handie to the guy that did your homework

Sep 14 11 - 4:54pm

Yawn. Boring.

Sep 14 11 - 6:04pm

ugh, hate it when people who started dating and having sex at 14 say that boys didn't like them for a long time. Really? The 3 or so years when everyone is awkward and unsure how to even approach the opposite sex counts as a long time? Also, jock/cheerleader couples who make other people do their homework for them don't get to call themselves nerds.

Sep 15 11 - 2:21pm


Sep 16 11 - 7:18pm

@slaidnus: Handle. Ever.

Sep 19 11 - 10:16pm

Couldn't have said it better SC.

Sep 18 11 - 10:56am

You lost me at "he watched me trick a childhood guy friend into doing my class work."

Sep 18 11 - 2:58pm

he should have spayed in her mouth

Sep 19 11 - 7:02pm

@star - First, explain what "spayed" is and, if it's not the veterinary term, how one does it into a mouth. Thanks.

Apr 21 12 - 12:53am

^^ like

Sep 21 11 - 1:55am

Not sure why I keep clicking on these when they're so obviously bad. Gonna stop from now on. Yay!

Sep 22 11 - 5:26am

I like the little girl original vagina. there are no heir on the vagina.

Sep 22 11 - 6:37pm


Sep 30 11 - 8:03pm

I'm not usually one to call 'fake,' but, uh... even if this is real, it left a lot to be desired.

Oct 21 11 - 8:28pm

whats the world comming to how could that girl loose it at 14 im 14 and i aint even kissed a girl

Nov 12 11 - 10:36pm


Nov 19 11 - 5:02am

Datz bad, @ 14? aren't u a christain?

Nov 21 11 - 12:47am

i too lost mine at 14, im 18 now, and im engaged to the guy and we live together. losing it at 14 is possible.

Dec 10 11 - 12:35pm

i've lost my virginity when i was 14 too.

Jun 11 12 - 6:26am

I still managed to cum.

Jun 21 12 - 2:56am

I lost my viginaty when I was 13 screwed me up, I wanted more sex after that ... I'm now 15 it makes since considering the this story has light humor to me:D