My First Time

Female • 17 • Delaware

I was seventeen and a freshman in college when I lost my virginity. Most of my friends from high school were shocked that I had managed to hold onto my "flower" as long as I had, but I came from a small school, where most of the students had dated/hooked up/slept together, and I was completely uninterested in joining these incestuous ranks. I never even had a real boyfriend until my senior year of high school, but even then, the situation was more like "best friends with benefits." I never had a real desire to have sex with him, or with anyone else I had met.

I was never one of those girls who thought she should wait until she was in deep, overwhelming love to lose her v-card.

But on the other hand, I was never one of those girls who thought she should wait until she was in deep, overwhelming love to lose her v-card. I was, actually, quite the opposite. I was pragmatic about it. Virginity loss, I'd been told, was a painful, bloody process, so why would I want to burden a boyfriend with such an uncomfortable obligation? I'd decided over the summer before college how I was going to lose my virginity: I was going to find another freshman virgin who wasn't interested in anything serious, and then we'd lose our virginities together. It was a perfect plan — simple, no fuss. So, after Labor Day weekend, when classes began, I set about finding my perfect first-time-fucking buddy.

Intro to Political Science class. Twenty-five freshmen in one room, learning about the American political system. We were all smart (honors students), we were all first-years (the class was a pre-req), and there were equal numbers of boys and girls (hard to find in some college classrooms). He sat diagonally behind me — average height, bulky build (like he lifted weights, but didn't do anything too athletic), a smattering of facial hair. Cute. My type. I talked to him after class, asked him about his Transformers t-shirt. We spent the rest of the day wandering around campus, skipping classes, eating lunch, teasing each other, flirting. By the end of the day, I knew he would be the one I would share my virginity loss with.

Next step: how to get him on board. It wasn't very hard to transition into fooling around. His roommate was never around (he was porking some girl down the hall) so we had his room all to ourselves most nights. We quickly moved from kissing to dry-humping to fingering/hand jobs. The big event happened on an unassuming weeknight. We were fooling around naked when he reached over to his night stand and pulled out that familiar package — a Trojan, shiny in the flourescent light so familiar to college students. I paused, pretending to think about it. Then I swallowed hard and nodded.

The actual sex? Not great, but I had expected that. Yes, there was pain. And yes, there was blood, more than I'd expected. But I had done it. I was no longer a virgin. And you can bet your ass I told all the girls on my floor about it.

We never had sex again, but that was okay. I didn't need it from him. A few months later, I met the boy I would spend the next three years with. One of my friends asked me if I regretted having sex with the boy from Poli Sci. She was wondering if I wished I still had my virginity to give to my new boyfriend. I said no, and I stand by that answer. I'm glad it went down the way it did.

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FIRST TIMES
According to just about every pre-college advice manual, floorcest is a bad idea.
"So no, I didn't lose my virginity in the most traditional way."
"He looked like if Ian Somerhalder and Gerard Butler had somehow created a baby."

Commentarium (10 Comments)

Mar 13 12 - 4:41am
Merp

This is probably my favorite story.
I like how its not exotic with odd people having odd sex.
Its normal people and the sex is normal, for the most part.
People can actually relate to this one.
Keep them comin'

Mar 13 12 - 10:39am
mmm

This story is fantastic! I love the writer's rationalism and incredulity in regards to myths of virginity.

Mar 13 12 - 10:13pm
andrea

ah, the Fighting Blue Hens! It was definitely not difficult to find virgin boys in the Honors dorms.... I think every guy on my floor freshman year was a virgin. The girls were definitely more experienced.

Mar 14 12 - 8:33am
Diana

Lovely!

Mar 15 12 - 8:53am
Margie G

"I'm not sure I agree with you a hundred percent on your police work, there, Lou."

It seems a little cold to me.

Did he know he was being used, and would be dropped once job done? No problem with it if he was in the know but it's a bit harsh on him as presented (but maybe it was edited to remove those bits?).

But i cant help but ask if we'd be as happy with the story if it was a guy scanning for a virgin girl to relieve him of his childhood - who he seduces then immediately moves on from? Doubt it.

Mar 16 12 - 3:19pm
Shayna

I made the same choice, and it made a lot of other chices much easier for me down the line.

Mar 21 12 - 8:56pm
owen

good gender flip on that one Margie. I would actually call that hypothetical dude an asshole. good point. that being said, if she was straight up with him, I'm totally supportive of her pragmatism.

Jun 07 12 - 7:23am
Prince R. . .

i thnk its real one. .nice story. .

Aug 09 12 - 8:14pm
Megan

I seem to be the only one who isn't a fan on this story at all.. I think that virginity loss is something that should be shared with a boyfriend that you like alot/love and care about, not a stranger in a one night stand.. call me old fashioned but i'm not a fan. At all.

Aug 28 12 - 8:43pm
Nadine R

This is more or less exactly what happened to me and i would never go back and change my decision.