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Please Advise: I feel too young to marry my perfect girlfriend. Should we break up?

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Nerve readers weigh in on one man's grass-is-always-greener troubles.

Wise readers, 

Each week, the inbox of our venerable advice columnist, Miss Information, is flooded with queries. And although she makes a valiant effort, she cannot answer them all. To deal with the surplus, we've decided to turn to you. So, don your spectacles and help this man out. You can give him advice in the comments below, or, if you'd like to share what you wrote with your friends, on our Facebook page.


Dear Nerve, 

I'm in a long-term relationship, and everything's going great. We've been living together, which has been surprisingly drama-free and has had a low-impact on our relationship dynamic, contrary to all the horror stories everyone tells you. We've been together for four years. Every time I mention this to someone, they start asking about whether or not we're going to get married, wondering why we haven't yet, etc. 

Here's the thing: I'm twenty four; she's twenty two; I think this is fucking ridiculous. I promised myself I wouldn't get married until I was thirty (my parents didn't get married until around that age, though it was my dad's second) because I think a lot of couples take that step too soon and end up crashing and burning because of it. 

Lately, I've been thinking that I wouldn't mind being single again, but there's literally nothing wrong with the relationship, except for my own neuroses. I guess my problem is that it's too soon to take that next step and too late to break it off for no reason — I owe her better than that. I also realize I might be making a mountain out of a molehill here — I'm sure to a lot of unhappily single people, I sound like a whiner who wants to have his cake and eat it too. 

Is "feeling too young to be so serious" a good enough reason to end an amazing relationship and break someone's heart? 

– I Need Two Cakes 

Readers! Tell him what he should do in the comments below.