Sunny, 30

So, you just moved to Boston?
I'm from L.A., but I moved to Boston this past April for work.

Can you compare the West Coast/East Coast dating experiences that you've had? Have you noticed anything about the dating culture or the men/women that you're interested in?
I've dated a bit here, and I think it's easier to date here than it is in LA. I think people are more outwardly friendly there, but you're not really sure what you're getting — whether it's superficial or not. Whereas in Boston, I don't think people approach you unless they really want to approach you. I haven't dated too much in Boston, obviously — I've only been here for about five months — but I think dating in LA is very aggressive. It's hard to describe, but I think there are a lot more women to men in LA, and men know that, so they can be picky for whatever particular reason they want to be and just move on to the next person. And I've had friends in LA who are from Boston, and it seems relationships with those people last longer than those from LA.

Interesting. Now, with the people you've been out with, can you tell us about any good dates, bad dates…
I should preface this by saying that I'm a horrible dater. I'm a very long-term relationship person. Dating, I suck at. I've tried online dating in LA, and I also suck at that because it's like a second job and I don't have the time for it. I find the men in Boston much more chivalrous and manly, and I like that. As opposed to the men — I'm bashing my hometown so much — in LA, where they're much more metrosexual. They probably put more time into their appearance than I do. Hollywood rubs off a lot on LA, but the chivalry isn't there as much. Most of the guys who I dated on the West Coast ended up being from the East Coast most of the time. The dates that were good were with men who tended to be from the East Coast. I've only dated one guy here, but he was very chivalrous and old-fashioned, and I liked that.

Since you say you're mainly in long-term relationships, what attracts you to those people? What makes you decide to be with them?
It just fits and then it gets — and this is not necessarily always a good thing — it feels comfortable. There's no more awkwardness. You just know it's right.

Do you believe in love at first sight?
I don't believe in love at first sight, but I do believe in a strong attraction at first sight. A connection.

Have you experienced that?
Yes. More than once. But I think it changes as you get older. The first time, it actually worked out. After that, not so much.

And what are you looking for in a partner?
Loyalty, honesty — those are the two key things. That was really difficult to find in LA — there's much more of a revolving door there in relationships, waiting to see what the next best thing is going to be.

Do you have any crazy exes?
Not anymore, thank God. I'm thirty. I did when I was younger, but I'm still good friends with most of my exes, so that's a good thing. I didn't do anything bad, and neither did they, so I still talk to most of them.

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