Jen, 24

Where do you live and what do you do?
I live in Greenpoint, and I'm a waitress and a musician. I play keys and guitars.

Do you ever meet guys at shows?
I meet a lot of guys at shows I go to, but not really at shows I play. As a girl who plays music, I feel like guys are more intimidated by me. I feel like when I get off stage, all my male bandmates get a ton of attention from girls, whereas guys come up to me and say, "Hey, good job," but don't exactly hit on me. I used to feel offended, but now I think it's more that they're intimidated. It's a lot easier to meet guys when you're not performing.

So how do you usually meet guys?
Usually through friends. I wouldn't say that I've ever met anyone from going out to a bar or anything. More just through friends or music collaborations. I'm actually seeing someone right now, though.

What is he like?
We both have our own things going on, which I feel like is a very New York thing. It's like a few days on and a few days off kind of thing. We both have jobs that we're really involved with, which is good. We have opposite schedules.

Is he your usual type?
I have no type physically at all, I feel like, but he's definitely my type personality-wise. He's really funny. I think humor is an expression of intelligence, and that's usually the thing that I think is most attractive and lasting and meaningful.

Do you see it becoming more serious?
I think it could. Definitely. I think that would be great and I wouldn't be afraid of that at all. But, we're taking it one day at a time right now. We aren't rushing.

What's the best date you guys have gone on?
I guess it would be this time when we found a hotel room.

How did you find a random hotel room?
We were at a party with a bunch of people all sharing one room, and we decided it was too crazy in there, so we went on a walk down the hall and found an empty room. We went in and stayed up and drank and watched Police Academy. In the morning the maid knocked on the door, and we pretended like we were about to check out. It was a really good date.

What's the hardest part about dating in New York City?
I think it would be that it's so easy to not date. You don't need anyone here necessarily. You can really distract yourself on every level here and not even think about it. I think if you can be with someone else, it means you've achieved a lot of things personally. If you can choose being with someone here, when there're so many options, it's a really important thing.

What made you feel like you were ready to start seeing someone?
It was really just the right person. You don't need people here, like I said, but when you meet the right person and they see potential in you to be a good partner, you're just like, "Yeah, I think I could be that strong."

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