Iman, 27

What do you do?
I'm a personal shopper.

Have you ever gone out with someone you've met through work?
Yes. I actually went out with someone recently who I'd met at an event we did with Chelsea Gallery. There was this entire art scene there and we had a party and dinner and I met these two guys and ended up partying with them the whole night. One of the guys and I really connected and started dating. I'm not sure that he's totally the one for me, but I like spending time with him and I think he's interesting.

Why don't you think that he's the one?
He's like twenty years older than me. We engage, but I don't know if he's physically attractive to me. He doesn't really get me going and excite me.

Is it different being intimate with someone who's that much older?
I actually haven't been that intimate with him yet. We've kissed, but that part is pretty much the same. We've only been seeing each other for about six weeks. I just don't go home with him ever. The one time I did, we just went to sleep because it was late. He wasn't trying to force it on me.

What's your usual type?
I like people who are very introspective. I like people who like to philosophize about life, and who are adventurous and realize that the world is a big place even though sometimes it sometimes feels small. I usually like intellectuals and people who appreciate the environment and nature.

What about physically?
I really like tall guys. I'm a very equal opportunity dater — racial lines don't really bother me. I've dated all kinds of guys. I like guys who are good-looking too, of course, but I like rugged good looks, not pretty boys. I don't like it when guys require a lot of maintenance, but obviously I still like a sensitivity to hygiene and skin care.

So is that guy the only one you're seeing right now?
Nope. I'm seeing another guy who's very enterprising and very smart and a very well-developed individual. I'm more into him.  What he's doing in life excites me, and he's very attractive to me. He's an entrepreneur and he's starting his first venture. So it's an exciting time for him, and it's very intense. It's such a great way to live life, to meet so many people and to engage purposefully. I also want to be an entrepreneur, so talking to him about all of it is inspiring to me.