Sammie, 21

Which club are you passing out flyers for? 
Live Lounge, just round the corner. 

Are you dating anyone at the moment? 
No, I’m single. 

And how do you find dating in Cardiff? 
It’s quite nice. I’m at uni, so I’m quite busy, and I don’t really have time for anyone else, so it’s just kinda nice to be single and do what I want, when I want. I have a lot of uni work – because I do textiles – so it’s heavy course work. 

Do you get a lot of guys hitting on you when you’re working? 
Yeah, generally, in this job, you do. They’re drunk, and you’re standing here, and you’ve gotta talk to them anyway. It makes you easier to approach. And you get guys coming up to you and being like, “Give me a kiss.”

Have you ever done it? 
Oh no [laughs].

What’s the worst thing a guy’s ever said to you?
Oh God, you get some really crude stuff. Like someone once said, “Fuck the shit out of me.” I was just like, “Um, right.”

What did you say?
I don’t know [laughs], I just kind of walked away. I was like, “Uhhh...”

Do you have free reign to punch someone in the face when they talk to you like that? 
No, you have to take it. One of my mates, someone spat in her face. And in that respect, then you can, because someone assaulted you. Generally though, you just have to bite your tongue. 

Has anyone done anything nice to get your attention? 
You’ll have guys say, “You’re pretty” or “You’re the prettiest girl I’ve seen tonight” – that crap. 

Got any dates lined up? 
Well, I’m meant to be going on a date this week, actually. It’s kind of like a “mess around” – it’s with a few of my work mates, like a little double date. It’s me and my best mate – we’re going to go on a date with our other mate and his best mate. 

Have you met him yet? Is it like a blind date? 
We went to the park yesterday, actually, and hung out and had a little picnic. So that was quite nice. I think we’ll be going to the cinema at some point this week. 

Are you excited? 
Yeah, it’s all right. We’re good friends anyway. So it’s more like we’re just hanging out as mates, rather than as anything else. So it’s just a bit of a mess around. 

“Mess around?” Is that just like, hanging out? I’m old.
Yeah [laughs]. I don’t really find people attractive without knowing them. It’s nice to know someone’s personality first, see if they can make you laugh. 

What else makes up a good personality? 
Being generally nice. I hate rude people – it really irritates me. If they can make me smile, then that’s a good sign. 

What advice would you give yourself five years ago? 
Not to give it out easily, but it’s not something that I really do anyway. In the last five years, I’ve grown stronger in myself. I had my first boyfriend when I was 14, and after that, I’ve went from one relationship to another long-term relationship.  I’ve been single now for about two years, and it’s been really nice to have some time out on my own. I think it’s important – this sounds a bit cliché – to love yourself. And to love your own company before you can enjoy spending time with someone else. So yeah, I’d tell myself to be strong and not get messed around. 

Has a guy ever done anything to offend you in bed? 
One of my exes tried to do me up the ass. And I was like, “No.” I was only like, 16, as well [laughs].

Oh no! 
Exactly.  But that’s the worst thing, really. For the most part, it’s been pretty tame.