Olivia, 21

Tell me about your last breakup.
I'm still on a dating hiatus after that one. We just grew apart. He did really stupid things with other people and I found out and we just went our separate ways. It was a transitional stage in our lives. We were together from when we were seventeen to twenty years old. I mean, people start changing. That's when you start figuring out what it is you want to do, and you start taking different roads.  

What do you look for in a guy?
Now, more than ever, ambition. I know what I want, so I expect the same thing from someone else. I do prefer people who are taller than me. I'm 5' 8", so that's a must. But other than that, just that they're a good, ambitious person who knows what they want in life. If they're as hardworking as I am, it's a done deal. Hands are also nice. I don't know how to explain it. They need to have model hands. My ex didn't have nice hands, but we worked through that one.

Where's the craziest place you've ever had sex?
A shed. It was at my ex's house before a concert. My friends were coming over to my place, and I was like, "I'll be right back," and I left and showed up at his house. His housecleaner was there, so we went to the shed. It was really cramped. And it was really bad timing, because his parents showed up right at that moment. All of a sudden it's over, and I had to come around the front of the house while he came from the back to meet me at the door. Then he says to his parents, "Oh yeah, you guys, my girlfriend just got here."

What did your parents tell you about sex?
Since I was twelve, my father always told me to remember that all men are assholes. He said, "I was once an asshole, learn from me. I've made bad decisions, so don't judge people by them." He would also tell me that a relationship doesn't define who you are, it just means you're growing and learning. Like when one person does something stupid — you can either define a relationship by all the good moments you've had, or by one bad moment. You just have to be wise about it.

Has anyone ever offended you in the bedroom?
One time, he wanted to know if he could come on my face. He didn't just do it, but he asked me right at the moment that he was going to and I was like, "No." And so then he's all, "Oh, why can't I do what I want to do?" And that just stopped everything. I said, "Are you kidding me? I'm not gonna do anything like that if we didn't talk about it. We had plenty of time to talk about it while everything was going on, you didn't have to just bring it up at the very last second." So I pretty much just gathered my clothes and walked away.  

Have you ever offended anyone?
I think in the beginning, maybe only the first time I was ever doing anything sexual, I remember being like, "Oh my god, that's insane!" It was all just fascinating to me, watching a penis do... everything that it does. And I'm going, "Holy shit, that's crazy, this is like an anatomy class." He said, "You're supposed to be into this." And I was! But I was still just like, "Oh wow, this is really cool," And he's saying, "It's not supposed to be cool." But you know, I don't know what it does, I don't have one. I was fascinated.

Have you ever done anything crazy to get a guy's attention?
With my last boyfriend, getting together was basically a game. I told him I was completely uninterested in him, and he told me that he was completely uninterested in me. He was into MMA, and I'm a black belt in karate, so we would wrestle in the front yard and he would get a hard-on, and I'd have to be like, "Oh no, this is not weird at all." I quit karate, though. It really wasn't my thing, meeting guys that way. It was really strange having to beat them up. He and I had good chemistry that way, though — physically.

What do you think of the dating scene in Miami?
It fluctuates. If you go down to Brickell, on occasion you'll meet a good guy who says he just wants to dance, doesn't want anything else, and that's really respectable and great. Then there's other people who are just eyeing you up and down, and it's like, "Hey, I'm not meat on hook, so you're just going to have to chill out. Go to the bathroom or something." If you want to "meet" anybody, you do not want to go down to a club. You do not go to a bar where there's girls dressed like hoochies. If you like dancing, you can go meet someone to dance with, but if you're out there with more intentions than that you're basically just screwing yourself over. Any girl who thinks that they're going to a club to meet the man of their dreams... I'm sorry to say, but good luck.

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