Talking to Strangers: New Delhi and Mumbai, India
Nerve asks deeply personal questions to people we just met.
by Diksha Basu
Joshua, 31, Mumbai
What do you do?
I'm a producer. I make ad films.
Are you single?
No, I'm not.
Well, that makes it more boring. But you must meet a lot of women in your job.
I do meet a lot of women. If I'm single, I get naughty, but if I'm committed, I am committed.
How did you meet your girlfriend?
I was playing basketball. I love basketball. I'm a big fan of the New York Knicks. If I weren't producing and I were about six-foot-seven, I'd be playing basketball. So I met her on the basketball court. She's a big fan too. And she's nine years younger than me. And she never believed that I was nine years older than her.
How long ago was this?
Was it love at first sight?
Yes. Absolutely. Two years ago I was much thinner.
Well, you're still very handsome.
Thank you. But two years ago I broke my ankle so I couldn't run, so now I've put on weight.
You're obviously successful and good-looking. What was it like before you met her? Because from everything I hear from women, I imagine a man like you was in high demand.
I was. Even before I got into production and ad films, I never had a problem with women.
Any good stories?
Loads. Like recently, I turned down a Playmate.
Like a real Hugh Hefner Playmate? You obviously have to give me details.
She was hot. But it just didn't feel right to me. I met her in Bangkok on a shoot. She was on my set. I was the producer, so all the models wanted to know who I was. And, damn, she was hot. I'll give you that.
Is it hard then? Being monogamous?
No, it isn't hard. Before this, it was, to be honest. But now it's not.
Your girlfriend is very lucky.
She is lucky. I can cook also.
You're breaking a lot of hearts with this interview. Do you sometimes wish you were still single?
I wouldn't say I miss it but there are times when... I don't know how to put it... when things aren't going right, you do wonder why you're in it, for a brief moment, but then you realise you're in love with this woman. I'm just being honest. If a lot of men were sitting with a hot woman like this, they would lie. Trust me. I've met a lot of men like that.
I've met a lot of men like that while doing these interviews.
For me, she's just so amazing that nothing else matters.
What is it about her?
She can't cook. She looks fabulous. She's an air hostess. And she loves basketball. In India, we don't get a lot of women into basketball. They're all cricket fans.
When you walk past a beautiful woman, is there anything in particular that you notice?
I'm not saying you have to be heavenly blessed, but you do have to carry yourself well. There are a lot of women who look good but just can't carry themselves. There are some women who aren't blessed but they carry themselves absolutely beautifully. That's the first thing — what appeals to the eye sends a signal to the brain. It's all about the first look. Unless you're really, really, really drunk. That's a different case altogether.
I feel like you have more good stories from your single days.
Well, I don't want to get dirty.
No, no. It's unfair to the women. But once I was trying to hide from one woman, because I thought she was spying on me about another women. It was complicated, but I slept with both of them. And one of their sisters. I've been with a lot of women but I've never been dishonest. I don't like to hurt people.
Where do you see your future going? Marriage, kids?
Feb. 21, 2014. That's when we're going to get married. The 21st is the date we met, and 2014... well, it would have been 2013, but she's a little superstitious. Indian mentality. So 2014 it is.