Love & Sex

Talking to Strangers: New York, NY

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Nerve asks deeply personal questions to people we just met.


Bennett, 20

What do you do for a living?
I am a student and I work in a doctor's office, as well.

Does that get you chicks?
Not really, once I tell them what my position is. I'm a front-office receptionist.

Where's the craziest place you've had sex?
I've had sex outside, in a park.

In Austin, Texas. [Friend: "You're a park-fucker!"]

Park-whore! Park-fucker! I don't know what that means. What's the craziest thing you've done to get laid?
I don't know. People I've had sex with, I've always been dating or been with long time. So I've never really had to try. I've always been very blunt with it. I've bitten my gf before, I've told her "We're going home!" It's never been subtle — give her a few drinks. That's the best I got for ya.

What's the hottest thing a girl's ever done for you?
I had this girl, and to my understanding, maybe you'll have to correct me, but a lot of girls when they wear dresses, don't wear underwear. I mean, sometimes. Is that fair? Maybe not in New York. This girl I dated. She would rub my hand on her hip, to show me there was nothing there. So that's cool.

Lauren, 19

Are you from New York?
No, I'm from Florida. The guys here are more aggressive. Guys will use their status and money as a way to attract girls. We'll be out and thirty-five-year olds will be like "Hey, beautiful." I just walk away.

What's the craziest place you've had sex?
The beach. We were on a lifeguard tower.

Do people do that kind of stuff all the time in Florida?
We don't have bonfires, like the movies portray, but people will go out at night and smoke or drink. There aren't a lot of people around.

If you like a guy, how do you show him that you like him?
I play the whole hanging-out-with-the-guys trick. A lot of my friends are guys just because they're drama-free. Nothing sexual, guys are just easier to hang out with. If you can hang with guys and do guy things, guys will like that.

Will you play videogames when you're the only girl in the room?
Yeah, if I know I'm good at the videogame. I won't embarrass myself.

What's the hottest thing a guy has ever done for you?
My ex-boyfriend wrote me a song, it was pretty hot. He played guitar and piano. It was about us — it was for Valentine's Day, actually. He did it twenty-four hours beforehand, so it was shitty but it was meaningful.


Romano, 26

What do you do for a living?
I'm an artist and I do mostly fashion styling, but I also write and sing. So I'm tired.

Does that ever get you laid?
Yeah. I can definitely say I have a nice sex life. [Friend: "Is this some kind of HIV prevention?"] By the way, before I respond, always have safe sex. Uh, yeah, I can say that.

What's the craziest thing you've ever done to get laid?
Oh, gosh. I've never done anything to get laid. Being yourself is the best way to get what you want. Being a cheerleader is what usually works for me. I'm very cheery, very happy, have a lot of personality.

What do you think the hottest thing someone's ever done for you is?
I love exotic dancing. I'm obsessed with strippers. So skin and thongs. I'm definitely obsessed with skin and dancing on top of tables. Go-go boys and all that. Muscles and thongs always go good together.

Have you ever been on a really good or bad date?
Definitely bad dates. You get somewhere and sit down at a dinner table and you pick up the menu, and you're directed on what to order. That's a bad date. I just ordered mozzarella sticks. I was on a date with… I can't even say. He says, "Okay, so you can go ahead and order something from the appetizer list. This range is what you can order. I'm going to have this cheeseburger with this, this, and this." It's like, I'll take the mozzarella sticks to go!

Nikki, 27

Do you have any favorite hook-up stories?
In February I got back from London, and my best friend from high school… she's from Bulgaria, and when I first met her I thought she was a Kosovo refugee or something so I was nice to her, and then we became best friends. So we go to Austin — I'm from Texas — she has this big wedding at this fancy hotel, and at the end she comes up to me and says, "We had to pay $56 a head for alcohol, so you guys need to get drunk off of this. And there are four pregnant girls, so you need to get busy." So I ended up going to a frat party with her nineteen-year-old brother and making out with a nineteen-year-old boy. When I woke up I felt so dirty. I said, "Wait, wait… what year were you born?" and he was like, "'89." That's really horrible.

What's the craziest place you've had sex?
I used to work for a newspaper and I was the photographer for them. I did it in the darkroom. That was fun. My boyfriend came to see me there and you know, the moment struck us, so we locked the door. People were banging to get in.

Have you ever offended anyone in the bedroom?
Yeah, 'cause I'm kinda honest. The worst kiss I ever had, I started laughing in the middle of it. I was like, "This is not working. Maybe we should try something else." His lips were all over my nose like a slobbery fish. And he was like, "Well, your lips are too small." I was like, "I don't think that's the problem. I think you're just a fucking moron."

How do you show a guy you're interested?
I hear you're supposed to look in his eyes for more than three seconds. I think I read that somewhere. I just talk to them a lot.


Sabrina, 22

So where do you work?
I work in retail.

Does it get you laid?
Honey, I'm female. Anything gets me laid.

Has anyone ever offended you in the bedroom?
Not really, I mean you have to be realistic. Men, they are men. You gotta be female, you gotta be positive.

Have you ever had a really good or really bad date?
A good date is anyone who can hold a good conversation. As for a bad date, I had this one guy… one minute we were talking about leaves and trees, and then out of nowhere, he was like, "Do you like anal?" And I was like, "Wow, I gotta go."

What do you like in a guy?
I like confidence. Regardless of anything else, he has to be confident.

What does it take for a guy to get with you?
You don't have to be scared! Just be yourself. Fuck it, just come on with it and I love it.

Do you have a weakness?
Yes, if he's wearing a really good cologne. I swear to God, I'm a sucker.


Raphael, 26

What do you do for a living?
I'm a detective.

Does that get you ladies?
You tell me, you're a lady. Maybe. Sometimes I throw it out there and bada-bing.

How do you let a girl know you're interested or how do you get a lady?
You gotta give them the look.

All right, what's the look?
[giving the look] You gotta give the whole sexy thing. I do the eyebrow thing and it's good to go.

Do you have any favorite hookup stories?
Wow, let's see. It was a random hookup. It was in the Meatpacking District. I was a little intoxicated, and I saw this one girl across the bar and she was smoking hot. I'm giving her the eye thing and the next thing you know, bada-bing, we're talking. Dude, this girl was a nut. A nut. After a couple of drinks, she was like, "Let's go back to your place and do this." I'm talking about every position known to man, I'm talking about anal, and that was my first experience with that.

Are you serious? That's crazy.
I know. I'm thinking, I better wrap it up twice with this girl. First night doing all that, damn, that's crazy. It was a good night.

Have you ever been offended in the bedroom?
Not really. I feel satisfied. My goal is to satisfy the woman after that.

Do you have a weakness with women?
If she can seduce me on the dance floor, she can seduce me in bed. Interviews by Meghan Pleticha. Photography by Sean McGurn.