Jason, 24

What's the worst date you've ever been on?
One date was pretty terrible, actually. Terrible, terrible me — I'm a terrible person. I had a girlfriend, but I met this girl in Times Square and we really hit it off, so we went to go get something to eat. I was supposed to meet my girlfriend and, uh, didn't meet her. And later that night, I was with the girl I had met in Times Square on the train and who shows up at the same platform? None other than my girlfriend. Ladies, I'm a much better man now. That happened years ago. I've learned from my mistakes.

What's the craziest thing you've ever done to get laid?
I never really do anything crazy. I lay down the charm all the time and I see where the ball rolls, really. That's how it goes. I always try to introduce myself with something funny. I just go off the cuff, really. I don't like to play a game or anything like that.

How do you find the dating scene in New York?
When you're in New York, everyone's on the move. It's adequate, I would say. How far can you get being yourself in New York?

What is your favorite sexual position?
Standing up doggy, against the wall. It's just better than doggy on the bed on the knees. And I can see a lot more that way. Especially if there's a mirror. Ooh! I just came right now, actually, just thinking about it. I just came. Twice.

Has anyone ever offended you in the bedroom?
No. I've offended myself, but that really wasn't my choice. My — uh, yeah [gestures southward] — thinks for himself. He does what he wants, when he wants. Especially if there's liquor involved. So I have no control. I can only know what I want to do and then there's what he wants to do. But let's say we're in the midst of doing what we both want to do and he decides, nah, I don't wanna do it no more, there's really nothing I can do!

Sarah, 26

What do you do?
I work at Morgan Stanley. I'm an expense auditor.

Does that get you any interesting dates?
I was asked out by an employee at the same company. He asked me out a couple of times, and each time when the date would come, he would tell me that he couldn't go. It turns out he was married with a child. So I was like, thank God it never panned out, because I would have probably run in the other direction the minute I found out. I stopped responding to any phone calls. It was awful — I was very offended by that. No other dates from work, though.

What are you looking for? What's your type?
I know what I don't want in people. But I'm very drawn to people who are not the center of attention and have a lot of respect for their families and for other people and who are nice. That's basically it.

What are you not looking for?
Low self-confidence, and people who try to be someone they're not. 

You're from upstate. How's the dating scene in New York different?
Everyone is very independent. It's very much, like, all about me, all about you. I think everyone's down here — especially young people — is down here looking for their job, for a foundation for themselves. A lot of people in my hometown are married now or have children. The city is very, very different. But I enjoy it. I've gone on lots of dates with people since I've moved here. Nothing has ever really materialized, but that's fine, too. I love being single.

What's the worst date you've ever been on?
A couple of summers ago I randomly met a guy on the bus back to my apartment — I live in Hoboken. And we were chatting and he was really, really nice and before I got off the bus he was like, "Hey, do you want to go out sometime?" and I said sure. So we went out, and we were talking about our other dating experiences. I was saying how some guy once in a really creepy way asked if he could kiss me. And so the guy I was on a date with thought that I wanted him to just take me and kiss me, and all of a sudden he was like a bear. He tried to eat my face! He started biting my lip and my mouth, and I was like, "What are you doing to me right now?" I told him I had to leave.

What about the best date you've ever been on?
I don't think I have a best date I've ever been on, but I have a favorite first kiss. It was this guy I went out with last year. He was super-shy. And it kind of made me feel more confident, because he was like shaking in his boots the whole time. He walked me back to my apartment, and we were standing outside of my apartment and he was telling me what a nice time he had and we kissed and it wasn't like a drunken makeout, it was just like a kiss and he laughed and I laughed and he hugged me and he went home. It was really cute. I told him six months later, that was the nicest first kiss I've ever had in my life.

Amir, 27

How is dating in New York different than Israel? 
I don't know — I haven't started yet! My friends say it's much more difficult to take Israeli girls on a first date. Girls here are easier, is what I hear. Everybody says there are too many girls here for the amount of guys here, so it's much easier.

What's the best date you've ever been on?
Ila. She was amazing. She twisted my head, I guess. She was smarter than me.

How did you meet her?
Through a friend. We were together three months, but I had to go to New York.

Do you believe in love at first sight?
I have no idea. Wait. Yes. Because I fell in love with a girl I met the second I met her and I'm going to love her forever. She was the most beautiful thing I ever saw. We met in Berlin, by accident. We slept together the first night we met. I met her through the girl whose house I was crashing at. The girl we were staying with told my friend and I that someone she knew was going to come to her apartment, and so we went out. We were out all day long in the city. And then we came back at five o'clock, and she was standing there in the living room. Both my friend and I were standing there like two stupid guys who can't speak. Like, drooling. He started talking, but I couldn't talk for an hour.

Wow.
Yeah. Then we just started drinking, and by the end of the night she and I went out, but we didn't know where we were sleeping at. We had no idea where we were supposed to go back to because we didn't know the address. So we didn't get back home that night. We slept on the street. It was really cool.

What ever happened with her?
She came to Israel. I came to Berlin. We still talk, but it's difficult.

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Commentarium (20 Comments)

Feb 02 12 - 3:04am
troof

You let THIS follow the Ghanian excellence from last week?

Feb 03 12 - 1:50pm
Young

I'm also disappointed...

Feb 02 12 - 7:13am
George

Leslie: "...neither one of us really drank because we were afraid to blow it. But we just had the best time, even without alcohol, which is very surprising." - Question 1: Why does one have to be afraid "to blow it" after having had a drink? Can't you restrict to one drink? - Question 2: Why is it surprising to have a good time without alcohol?

Feb 02 12 - 8:00pm
Umm

1: They were both afraid they'd drink too much and make a fool out of themselves. If you don't know your limits, it's prudent to not drink at all.
2: Although one can have a ton of fun being sober, alcohol, for many people, serves as a social lubricant. Especially if you're going on a first date with someone you've met on the internet, meeting new people can be nerve-wracking.

Feb 03 12 - 7:40pm
George

Oh, come one! Why does one attend dates, if they are nerve-wrecking?! :-)

Feb 02 12 - 10:43am
sven

I like this group. Phil's enthusiasm for his super-hot girlfriend is really sweet, and I like Jackie too.

Feb 03 12 - 1:57am
Ryan

Those two were my favorites as well, actually.

Feb 02 12 - 11:54am
Jinna

This seemed real. These people are very representative of the riders on my subway commute. Very diverse. Not everyone is a verbose theater major, overly introspective model or freaky sex fiend.

Feb 02 12 - 7:08pm
nerkums

lol

Feb 05 12 - 12:14am
....

true story. no one hear was trying too hard. extremely down to earth...relative to NY at least

Feb 05 12 - 2:12am
Dea

I thought so too. Refreshing.

Feb 02 12 - 12:00pm
Indy

Really, photographer, you couldn't get a better picture of Jason, REALLY?!

Feb 02 12 - 7:19pm
abc

It's not that bad

Feb 02 12 - 7:01pm
Portico faciRLi

Phil, you are most certainly NOT "really fucking hot." Let's just get that straight right now, shall we?

Feb 03 12 - 9:23pm
What?

I agree, Phil you are not HOT.

Feb 02 12 - 9:41pm
RD

Though she didn't give details, I'm reading between the lines regarding what Leslie said. I figure she married young and lived for many years in Texas with her husband. Then, one day she realized that she's gay, and decided to come out. Divorce followed. She then left Texas for New York to start her new life. I wonder how close that guess is to reality.

Feb 03 12 - 1:38am
Weary

No one wants to point out that Leslie is gorgeous?

Feb 03 12 - 1:53pm
Indy

Her pupils also tells us she may like trees also.

Feb 03 12 - 6:45am
McKingford

And who says drugs can't enhance the romantic experience...

Feb 04 12 - 3:09am
Awesome

Leslie is head and shoulders the most thoughtful and interesting... She's also smoking hot! If only she liked men and Minnesota weather!!