Talking to Strangers: Plovdiv, Bulgaria

Nerve asks deeply personal questions to people we just met.

BY Martina Dechevska

Dimitur, 29

What do you do for a living?
I work in a cannery.

What kind of women do you like?
The perfect woman for me is a redhead with green eyes. As a character, she should be a free spirit and enjoy walks in the forest.

Do you have a girlfriend now?
No, I don't. I broke up with my ex-girlfriend about a year ago.

Was she a redhead with green eyes?
No. She has long black hair, brown eyes, and a big smile. She's from the capital, Sofia, so one weekend I was going to see her in Sofia, one weekend she was coming to Plovdiv. We were both working during the week.

Why did you guys break up?
She broke up with me. I don't know why. One day she told me that she didn't feel anything and she wasn't interested anymore. But I don't believe that.

Were you in love with her?
Yes.

When did you fall in love for the first time?
I think I was in seventh grade, and I fell in love with a girl from my class. Nothing ever happened though. Then I had a girlfriend for the first time a year later, in eighth grade. She was a very beautiful girl with ginger hair, green eyes, freckles. We were together for two months, but she was Jewish, so after her brother found out about us, he beat me up, 'cause I'm not Jewish.

Did you have sex with her?
Yes. It was the first time for both of us. I think that's why her brother beat me. She's still a friend of mine, but we haven't had sex since "the fight." She has a kid now, even though she's not married.

Do you have any crazy exes?
Yeah, once I hooked up with the mother of an acquaintance of mine. The mom was maybe twenty years older than me, and she wanted too much attention. I was twenty-two then. We had sex under the influence of alcohol. Then she started calling me every day, all the time,  but I didn't want to see her, so I had to avoid places that we both frequented. I didn't pick up the phone.

How long did it take her to give up?
About a month. We'd been seeing each other and fucking for a week, but I wasn't feeling comfortable with her. I was feeling like a sex toy.

Are you looking for a girlfriend now?
Yes.

Where do you usually go to meet women?
Rock bars mostly, and definitely places where the main thing is not dancing, 'cause I don't dance. That's a problem with most of my girlfriends. All the women want to dance, and I don't. I just don't feel comfortable moving in rhythm.

What's the biggest turn-off for you?
If she's racist, or if she's a fan of the "chalga" culture.

How would you explain the "chalga" culture to an American?
Very stupid lyrics with non-music. A Bulgarian-Turkish-Greek mix with ugly words.

Have you ever had a sex with a girl who's part of this culture?
No, but I would out of curiosity.

What do you think about one-night stands?
I fully support them, if the people are honest with each other. I usually hook up with girls twice a week. I usually meet them in bars and tell them straight that I want to sleep with them. I don't tell them that they're the most beautiful women in the world and I want to spend my life with them. I just tell them that I want to have fun tonight. Some of them say yes, some of them say no.

How many say yes?
Maybe forty percent. The girls like being lied to, and I don't want to lie to them.

NEXT: "Most of the men here are pussies. Cowards."

 

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