Graham, 21

How much dating experience would you say you have for your age?
I have an average amount. I've had a lot of relationships, some of which weren't necessarily dating.

So more casual?
Yeah, they were casual friendships. Casual, like, open relationships.

When was your last actual relationship?
My ex girlfriend and I broke up two months ago. We were together for about a year and a half. But it was a good thing.

The relationship or breaking up?
Both.

How did you meet her?
I used to work at a printing studio, and this girl worked there. She invited me to a party at her house, which ended up being an all-girls underwear party. I put on a pink tutu and a bra and booty-danced all night to Beyoncé.

That must've taken some confidence — good for you.
Two days later I went skiing and broke my back. I was in the hospital like, "Fuck! I just met this really cute girl and I broke my back, and I can't have sex. No one's going to wait around to hang out with this broken-back kid." But I ended up spending a shit ton of time at her house playing board games, and hanging out with her cats. And we were both artists. We were constantly working together. We really got into making stickers and doing some graffiti together, and we went on a trip to San Francisco, like a "graffiti tour" of California, and we put up, like, a thousand stickers in five days. Things were great. We had super-good communication and a lot of sex.

She sounds really awesome! What the hell happened?
Well, I was in boarding school, and I hadn't gone home for more than a week in like, five years. But prior to meeting my girlfriend, I had promised my mom that I would come home. I went home during the summer, when my girlfriend and I had been together for six months. I ended up leaving for Texas, she came to visit me, and we went to New Orleans. Horrible trip.

What happened?
We just hadn't seen each other for a really long time, and when we saw each other, there were just these pressures, like we needed to be doing certain things because we were seeing each other for the first time in a while. The entire relationship was built off of no pressure at all, for anything, and all of the sudden there was pressure to be a specific type of person for the other person. Also, it was the height of tourist season, so we just had a lot of bad experiences. Three months later I came back and things just started slowly going downhill. We weren't communicating as much. We were still in an open relationship and having crushes on other people but not talking about it. Earlier on, we'd had a lot of things we could share and collaborate with each other on, but now, she had spent a half year working on this project that I didn't have any connection to. It was just very hard to understand where she was. So we ended up breaking up. We became friends again.

Do you have any crazy exes?
No, I love all my exes. I've had the coolest lovers that anyone could ever ask for. Really creative, happy people.

So what would you say your type is?
Weirdos. I like people who are extremely passionate. I can't be with someone who doesn't completely love themselves and what they're into before me or anything else. It's important to me to be able to share something with my lover. Doesn't matter if they're super-beautiful, super-ugly. I'm most attracted to people who are into some really random thing.