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Techies Get Creative with Bondage at Sex Club in San Francisco

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Nerds are the new swingers.

When you think of techies, what comes to mind? A bunch of hackers hunched over computers in a trendy office space? Mark Zuckerberg? Sex parties? Okay, so probably not sex parties. But it seems that you may need to rearrange your thinking, because techies are flocking to parties for the sexually adventurous in high numbers. Specifically to Mission Control, a San Francisco-based, members-only sex club.

I'm sure no one is surprised that techies enjoy sex. If you are, you need to reevaluate your thinking because hello, pretty much everyone likes sex.  Sex parties, on the other hand, tend to conjure flamboyant images not in line with the geeky vibe the tech-set gives off. But, news flash, not everyone who enjoys sex parties walks around in leather and wields a riding crop in the daylight hours. Many people who are regulars on the sex party scene are normal. They have day jobs. They have friends and family. They may even work at tech start-ups.

Nellie Bowles of the San Francisco Chronicle sought to uncover the secret lives of techies by paying a visit to Mission Control. The club has recently relocated to accommodate over 500 members (pretty huge, by sex club standards) Bowles seems to thinks she is unearthing some dirty underbelly of the technology world, but I'm more inclined to chalk it up to the fact that techies are who live in San Fran these days. A data scientist named Liz who is involved in Mission Control leadership had this to say:

"I don't think it's necessarily tech and polyamory overlapping. It's more about who's young and single in the city right now […] And there are overlaps with class and education and who has time to do things like this."

Or, in the words of Mission Control founder Polly "Superstar" Whittaker, as told to the San Francisco Chronicle, "Normal people need a place to f–ck too."

According to Whittaker, the parties aimed toward buttoned-up technology-types are the club's most popular nights. Which goes to show, you can't judge a techie by his day job. Bowles spoke to a few techies at the Mission Control party she attended, and they all seemed to agree that members of their field flocked to sex parties for the chance to express themselves and develop a connection with the community. Seems simple enough.

So what does a techie do at a sex party? Gets kinky with technology, of course! "San Francisco State University adjunct instructor Michael Shannon had been the dungeon master a few weeks earlier when some attendees were talking about how they would use consume electronics cords in sex play." Um, yes please. And how, exactly does Shannon recommend you go about doing that? "If you've never tied (someone) up with an Ethernet cable, you're not geeky enough."

Maybe the rest of us need to take some advice from these sexy technologists. After all, engaging your partner in some 21st century bondage sounds a lot more fun than the old doughnut around the penis tip that Cosmo loves to perpetuate.

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