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The Anti Slut-Shaming Podcast is Changing the Way We Talk About Sex

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"We're saying, have a lot of sex and be proud of it."

Corinne Fischer and Krystyna Hutchinson, two New York-based comedians, are trying to change the way we think about female sexuality with "Guys We Fucked: The Anti Slut-Shaming Podcast." Both women are in their mid-20s and both women have had a lot of sex, in and outside the context of relationships. Sick of the sexist double standards they faced constantly from sexual partners and strangers alike, they decided to do something about it. And thus, "Guys We Fucked" was born.

The concept is simple: each episode Fischer and Hutchinson interview a guy that one of them has slept with. This can include exes, one-night stands, brief flings. Topics center mostly on dating and sex, but run the gamut from family relationships to drugs to life goals. The first episode aired on SoundCloud in December, and the duo now have over 200,000 subscribers. "We're saying, have a lot of sex and be proud of it," Hutchinson says at the beginning of the first episode. And the podcast accomplishes just that.

The women are close friends of five years, and their on-air chemistry is palpable. The conversations they have with their male guests are deep and real, at times extremely touching. Often, they seek answers about men's motivations for sex and what differentiates relationships from more casual encounters. What Fischer and Hutchinson prove, ultimately, is that men and women are not all that different and that no one should feel guilt or shame for the way they choose to engage with sex. The podcast is edgy by nature, but the tone of the discussion is wise, educational, open, and honest. Fischer and Hutchinson are seeking to normalize sex in a way that is refreshing and deeply feminist. The men on the show often exemplify that goal as well.

In the most recent episode, the pair invited Adam, whom Hutchinson had casually dated for a time about four years ago, on-air for a discussion. The conversation covered myriad topics about life, love, and anal sex. Here are some highlights:

On Adam

Krystyna: “You’re my second-favorite person I’ve ever dated.”

On Online Dating

“I’d prefer to go on a shitty date than a great one because a shitty date is a story, I’m doing work while drinking, most likely, but a great date is like — I feel awkward now, what if this is the man of my dreams, now I gotta tell everyone that we met on an online date.”

On Being Good in Bed

Adam: It’s um, nothing new, but like, you hear girls talking about guys that they’ve been with and like, “He just cared about himself” and I don’t understand that. I think, it’s not even being like ‘I’m a generous lover,’ I just want the girl to be feeling —whoever I’m with to come first. Not even like get that out of the way, but the more that she’s into it the more pleasure I can give to someone, the more that’s gonna come back on me, basically.”

On Oral Sex

“I learned how to give a blow job from the Internet. I literally read in text how to give a blow job.”

On Ambien

Corinne: “I had Ambien set aside to have Ambien sex with Austin, my ex-boyfriend who was on the show, ‘cause his mom was on it and we’re like ‘Let’s steal Ambien and have Ambien sex,” but I still have the Ambien in my apartment, we’ve never used it.”

On Casual Sex

“It’s kind of honestly because of the podcast, I’m kind of numb to sex from talking about it so much and then also I don’t really trust anyone’s motivation for having sex with me… See for me, I go through periods of like, so I’ll be in a long relationship and then I’ll go fucking crazy, I’ll fuck everyone in my sight, but then there always comes a point when I can feel innately when I’ve had too much casual sex and then from that point on, nothing else will satisfy me unless it’s like kind of meaningful sex.”

On Period Sex

“The way my sexual clock is, I’m always boning when I’m on my period. Like, within the hour that I decide I’m going to have sex I get my period. That would happen so much to me. But anyone who handles that like a champ, A+. And I feel like older guys are really cool with that.”

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