6. Jackson 5, "I Want You Back"

Written about a relationship that ended prematurely, and a lover hastily backpedaling to save it, "I Want You Back" evokes all the mistakes of young lovers in the heat of passion. Regardless of the upbeat tone (and the fact that it was sung by an unusually soulful eleven-year old), this song is a glum reminder that once a relationship is over, something will be lost forever and ever. — J.G.

 

5. Etta James, "I'd Rather Go Blind"

Over a hypnotic, two-chord vamp, Etta James bares her soul to the point of bloodletting. Her performance starts off relatively low-key and mournful, but by 1:30 ("I was just, I was just, I was just sitting here thinking of your kiss, and your warm embrace"), she's fully in the over-the-top truth of the song: sometimes, it'd be easier to never see again than see someone you love walk away. — A.H.

 

4. Nina Simone, "Ne Me Quitte Pas"

"Ne Me Quitte Pas" may not be Nina Simone's most well-known performance, but it's definitely one of her best. You don't need to speak French to hear that this song is about begging someone not to leave. A work of exhausted beauty, it's best listened to on repeat accompanied by a bottle of red and a good cry. — R.K.

 

3. The Beatles, "For No One"

Among Paul McCartney breakup songs, conventional wisdom would give the edge to "Yesterday." But while "Yesterday" is certainly beautiful, with its sweeping strings and simple lyrics, it's more adolescent in its mood than the brutally adult "For No One." Here, McCartney strips out all sentiment in favor of a crisp, hard-headed look at the end of a relationship. It's devastating (and very English). "Yesterday" feels speculative, and McCartney wrote it when he and Jane Asher were still happily together; "For No One," written while they were breaking up, could only have been written by someone who'd been there. — P.S.

 

2. Smokey Robinson & The Miracles, "The Tracks of My Tears"

Smokey Robinson's gossamer vocals are downright angelic on this song: his voice is so pure, and his pain so impossibly transparent, it's like looking through a beautiful window into a house destroyed by fire. The song's dynamic shifts have a lot to do with its success as well: as the restrained verse accelerates into that skyrocketing chorus, the strings swell, the drums crash, and Smokey's voice wavers above it all, sounding, well, like an angel. — A.H.

 

1. Bob Dylan, "Don't Think Twice, It's All Right"

Dylan wrote this classic after his girlfriend, Suze Rotolo (who appears on the cover of The Freewheelin' Bob Dylan), told him she was extending her trip to Italy... indefinitely. In a perfect expression of rejection and bitterness, Dylan fills this song with slow burns like "I once loved a woman, a child I'm told/ I give her my heart but she wanted my soul," and of course, that final punch to the stomach, "You could have done better but I don't mind/ You just kinda wasted my precious time/ But don't think twice, it's all right." There's really no better song to listen to when you're hurt but don't want to hurt your pride. — R.K.

 

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Commentarium (42 Comments)

Mar 26 12 - 1:49am
tnt

So glad to see my favorite breakup song top this list.
For the Stones, I prefer Angie. Yes, I know Mick Jagger's whistpering in the middle is kind of silly, but as a breakup song, it's just fantastic nonetheless.

Mar 26 12 - 8:32am
Um

Angie was released in '73, so perhaps you'll see it next time :D

Mar 26 12 - 9:14pm
tnt

Had that thought after I posted. Thanks for the reminder. The late 60s and the early 70s run together in my head. I expect it should make the 70s list. :)

Mar 26 12 - 2:57am
huh

I can't believe Michael Jackson's older brothers let him join their group. He was so much the obvious star.

Mar 26 12 - 5:00am
mfw

no Shangri-Las...

Mar 26 12 - 11:19am
hmm

'In Dreams' should be disqualified based solely on the Blue Velvet connection. I don't think of a break-up, I think of an overly made-up Cylon serenading Dennis Hopper.

Mar 26 12 - 1:08pm
Alex Heigl

That did come up. But do you disavow "Time is On My Side" for being in a disappointing mid-90s Denzel vehicle? (That would be "Fallen" for those of you keeping track at home.)

Mar 26 12 - 11:25am
Steve Burns

No argument with #1.

Mar 26 12 - 12:10pm
Mark

The whole time I was reading this list I'm thinking, "Where the hell is Dylan?" Well okay then, he's number one. But there are so many other songs - especially on "Blood on the Tracks". "Idiot Wind" anyone? Hello? "Tangled Up in Blue"?

But he's been writing killer breakup songs for over 50 years. "It Ain't Me, Babe", "Just Like a Woman", "Visions of Johanna".

I'm just sayin'...

Mar 26 12 - 1:07pm
Alex Heigl

Blood on the Tracks is '70s and will almost certainly be making an appearance next week. As for Leonard, "So Long Marianne" was in the running -- that song was literally #26. Damn our brevity!

Mar 26 12 - 4:29pm
Sean Morrow

Spoilers!

Mar 26 12 - 12:43pm
Mark

One more note. Nothing from the dean of romantic despair - Leonard Cohen? "So Long, Marianne" is a worthy choice. And, you know, a gazillion more.

Mar 26 12 - 1:28pm
Kate G

I disagree with the reading of Je ne regrette rien. It's not forlorn, it's more empowered. She's lighting a fire with her memories, she doesn't give a damn about the past. And the last line says, "My life, my joy, today, it starts with you." At least to me, it sounds more like a declaration of new love and completely abandoning any past relationships or hardships in order to put herself totally into this new life.

On a different note, I love that song, and whenever I have to do chores I blast Edith Piaf to make them more tolerable.

Mar 27 12 - 2:11pm
McKingford

Yes. Just because the song is in French doesn't mean you get to just go with your gut feel as to what you *think* the song is about.
She is clearly saying that she doesn't regret anything that has brought her to this point because she is starting a new love. Not a breakup song at all.

Mar 27 12 - 11:33pm
tnt

Arguably, it's still a breakup song. It's just a breakup song about not regretting a breakup. Not all breakups are ones you feel bad about, and I'm glad to see that sentiment reflected on this list.

Mar 26 12 - 1:53pm
theodora

No "It Ain't Me Babe"?

You say you're looking for someone
Never weak, but always strong
To protect you and defend you
Whether you are right or wrong
Someone to open each and every door
But it ain't me babe
No, no, no, it ain't me babe
It ain't me you're looking for, babe

Mar 26 12 - 11:46pm
Johnny

Great list! I absolutely love "In Dreams" and do not dispute its inclusion on the list. However "It's Over" takes it as the depths of despair during a breakup for me in terms of Orbison songs. I know there are many to choose from and I'm sure the debate lead deep into the night at the Nerve offices.

Mar 27 12 - 1:18am
oren hatch

driveway to driveway by superchunk.

"my hand on your heart has been replaced, and i thought it was you that i had chased..."

perfect.

Mar 27 12 - 10:29am
Alex Heigl

From 1992? Check back and see if it makes it onto the '90s list. But that was an angsty decade -- stiff competition.

Mar 27 12 - 3:49am
But...

What about "Break it to Me Gently" recorded by Brenda Lee? Made it to #4 on the charts in 1962. Awesome song!

Mar 27 12 - 6:30am
Tofte

What? How could you leave out "You're gonna miss me" by 13th Floor Elevators!

Mar 27 12 - 10:39am
Elsie

I refuse to accept the legitimacy of any "Greatest Breakup Songs of the 1960s" that doesn't include the Stone Poneys "Different Drum".

Mar 27 12 - 11:10am
Alex Heigl

Linda Ronstadt is forever banned from Nerve.

She knows what she did.

Mar 27 12 - 10:45am
Chewbacca

Thanks for including a couple of country songs. Those often get overlooked in lists like this. Personally, I'd have included "She Even Woke Me Up (To Say Goodbye)" as well.

Mar 27 12 - 11:12am
Kel

I would have gone for the Everly Brothers version over Ray Charles for "Bye Bye Love" --not that it's anything less than genius from Ray, but the Everlys had the hit.

Mar 27 12 - 11:28am
Alex Heigl

I actually really wanted "Drown in My Own Tears," but it's from the wrong decade. I just love the juxtaposition of Charles' "Bye Bye Love" -- those borderline suicidal lyrics and that infectious performance.

Mar 27 12 - 2:29pm
Weary

Hey, if you're already thinking about the 1970s, you sure better include Roxy Music. Right now I'd lean toward "Just Like You" off the "Siren" album but "A Song For Europe" is also a possibility and heck, there are about 15 others.

Mar 27 12 - 4:28pm
Jess

What about The Moody Blues' "Go Now"?? And Roy Orbison's "Crying"???
Geez..not missing a few good 1960s breakup songs...

Mar 30 12 - 5:42pm
csupply

I was thinking along the same lines, Jess, but Bessie Banks' original recording of "Go Now." It wrings the neck of the Moody Blues' version like you wouldn't believe.

Mar 27 12 - 9:24pm
old dude

I'd include "You're Gonna Miss Me (When I'm Gone)" by 13th Floor Elevators and "Remember" (aka "Walking in the Sand") by the Shangri Las.

Mar 27 12 - 10:35pm
Uncle Phil

Just for that comment regarding Linda Ronstadt, I will be playing her "Greatest Hits" much longer now than I expected! Both volumes!

Mar 28 12 - 4:01pm
z

first off... that's not dylan singing on your clip... it's some douchebag. Secondly to not have 'It Makes No Difference' on your list immediately invalidates it

Mar 28 12 - 5:38pm
Alex Heigl

Well, we fixed the Dylan song. But I'd like to point out that "It Makes No Difference" is from 1975. So, um, pot. Kettle. Black. And such.

Mar 30 12 - 4:55pm
Richard

What about that ultimate Dylan kiss off song "Like a Rolling Stone"?

Mar 30 12 - 8:03pm
Belgobelg

Couple of months too old to be on this list I think, but I needed to get this off my chest. Jacques Brel's original rendition of 'Ne Me Quitte Pas' is the most beautiful, gut-wrenching piece of music ever created. Nina Simone is okay though.

Mar 31 12 - 1:24pm
BlueCarp

For future list consideration: "Two Outta Three Ain't Bad" by Meat Loaf and "Things Change" by Dwight Yoakam. "Things Change" is just so matter-of-fact it's incredibly sad.

"She said, 'I still love you so.' I said, 'I don't care to know.'
She said, 'you once cried my name.' I said, 'well baby, things change.'"

Apr 02 12 - 2:06pm
duckydeb

"i want to be free" by the monkees. my 5th grade boyfriend sent it to me on the radio. what a way to get dumped!! i'll never forget.

Apr 03 12 - 12:32am
Alisand

Bobby Vinton's "After Loving You". Although I did the breaking up, I cried my eyes out listening to that song!

Apr 03 12 - 1:16pm
GeeBee

You missed Harry Nilsson's "Without Her" as performed by BS&T on their first album. I see you did get Harry's "Without You" in the 70s list, in a justifiably high ranked position too, so well done on that one. One gets the impression Harry had a lot of bad luck with the ladies.

Apr 19 12 - 2:37pm
Gazbo

"Without her " is perfect for crying in your beer music, but when you finally get pissed you need Harry's "You're breakin my heart" as in;
"You're breakin my heart, you're tearin it apart, so fuck you."
Finish beer, order more, feel better.

Apr 19 12 - 2:42pm
Gazbo

Have you kids ever heard "You've got your troubles, I've got mine" by the Fortunes? Great stuff if you like vindictive.

Jun 09 12 - 1:25pm
Fritz

You can put this in any decade you want. 60s, 2000s or any remake in between.
"What becomes of the broken hearted"
The original is great
the Joan Osborne version from the Funk Brothers Motown documentary is fantastic.
Makes me cry.
In fact, this may not belong in the break up song category.
It is in a class including only itself