Ah, the luxurious La Amada Hotel in Mexico. A five-star resort, it boasts "stylish hotel architecture and decor, generous suites, spotless service, and deluxe facilities." Unless, of course, you want to have an intimate marriage there, and you happen to be gay. Then, all it boasts is the damn door. Don't let it hit you in the ass on the way out, cabron.

A friend of Nerve wanted to have a small, forty-to-sixty person wedding at La Amada. He also happens to want to marry a man. He and his partner plan on getting married in New York in the spring, but also wanted to have an intimate "vacation wedding" in Mexico.

Then they received this email from La Amada:

"Dear [redacted], Thank you for your interests for La Amada Hotel. Being a family friendly resort, we unfortunately cannot support or perform a gay wedding. I understand you want to have a small intimate ceremony, but we cannot proceed."

So there you have it. Damn those cheeky gays wanting to get married in front of families! I guess the real question is how to shield millions of children the world over from the ugly reality of two people that love each other getting married. 

Should you have any suggestions, La Amada Hotel's contact information page is here. Please let them you know you're chiming in with suggestions about how to stop the gays from getting married in front of families. Maybe a large wall — I hear Arizona's having some luck with that.

Commentarium (84 Comments)

Aug 12 11 - 5:36pm
S.D.

I wonder if La Amada Hotel has a restaurant called the Custerdome.

Aug 12 11 - 6:01pm
Riiiight

So much for the "Send 'em all to Mexico" campaign.

Aug 12 11 - 6:03pm
TravelAgent

The Amada looks like a nice place. And it's family friendly, too!

Aug 13 11 - 12:34pm
K Herwig

only if you're the "right" kind of family, Travel Agent...

Aug 12 11 - 7:07pm
Calen Warrant

straight couple here that just canceled reservations at La Amada Hotel hotel for next month. with that kind of point of view of inequality, they should be really ashamed.

Aug 12 11 - 7:11pm
Alex Heigl

Great to hear! Thank you for going above and beyond.

Aug 12 11 - 7:18pm
J

Indeed. Well done!

Aug 12 11 - 7:42pm
CAP

Thank you!

Aug 12 11 - 8:31pm
SCG

Thank you for your support!

Aug 15 11 - 1:33pm
awesome

thanks for being awesome!

Aug 16 11 - 10:19pm
Omar

Well Done Calen , BTW, do you told them why ?

Aug 12 11 - 7:18pm
profrobert

The first bad sign was that the hotel's house Wall of Voodoo cover band sings, "I'm a Mexican, whoa-oh, homophobe . . . ."

Aug 12 11 - 7:20pm
IGLTAmember

That is awesome Calen

Aug 12 11 - 7:36pm
Disappointed

What's more family friendly than a wedding? Not cool La Amada!

Aug 12 11 - 8:59pm
Roger

by law 2 dudes cannot get married in mexico

Aug 12 11 - 9:21pm
SCG

there is nothing illegal about a gathering of friends and family.

Aug 12 11 - 10:26pm
moi

yes they can , in Mexico City

Aug 12 11 - 11:19pm
Roger

yes, thats is correct, but this was not in mexico city

Aug 13 11 - 11:36am
Katie

That's not even close to being the point. They don't want a legal marriage in Mexico, just a nice, intimate ceremony with their friends and family in a beautiful place. The hotel can't deny someone the right to a private family gathering just because the law won't recognize the marriage that they plan to get later in New York, where it is legal.

Aug 13 11 - 7:28pm
@Katie

Apparently the hotel can indeed deny them that "right."

Aug 13 11 - 9:42pm
@Katie

Apparently, I only like Mexicans if they hate gays as much as I do.

Aug 15 11 - 12:01pm
shoulddickgoinmouth?

Totally with you at-dudette. I think the Pray the Gay Away concept should be expanded. Like, it's much better being white than any other race (better job opportunities, higher pay, better looking) - maybe we can help some immigrants by praying the Mexican away.

Aug 12 11 - 9:31pm
Jason

Thanks Calen! Way to go!

Aug 12 11 - 11:42pm
BlooState2fete

Nice. Start, just BARELY START, to get just a little traction towards sanity in this country and you get c**k-punched with how much effing backwater there still is in this hemisphere. Done. Just done. I'm going to fire our nanny.

Aug 13 11 - 9:41am
Vacay

just booked a long weekend at La Amada. The hotel stands up for itself and won't be pushed around.

taking the kids!!

Aug 13 11 - 10:59am
All in time...

Until one day, when one of you children comes out to you...and you realize that this wasn't a case where an establishment was standing up for itself, but rather standing up against a group of people unjustly.

Aug 13 11 - 11:11am
Vacay

Yay! Discrimination! Whooohoo! Teach 'em while they're young!

Aug 13 11 - 2:32pm
Sigh

Please teach the kids the basics of grammar. CAPITALIZATION IS IMPORTANT.

Also, please explain how La Amada - however ironically named - is being "pushed around."

Aug 13 11 - 7:38pm
@All in time

Love the sinner and hate the sin.

Aug 13 11 - 9:49pm
@All in time

I try to miss the point completely. Then I try to seek alternate meanings to what somebody said by twisting it to fit my anti-gay jesus bunny rabbit santa agenda.

Aug 14 11 - 7:37pm
Bunny Jesus Santa

I sat in the Bunny Jesus Santa's lap, and . . . and. . . . now . . . .

Aug 13 11 - 11:38am
marygee

Since when is it anybody's business what people do with their genitalia? If one is of legal age and it is consensual, then butt out.(And while we're at it, why does the GOP always have to bring up gay marriage and anti-choice issues? When it comes to running the country what we need now are jobs, an affordable and fair health plan, an end to the wars we are involved in, and some good common sense.) This is discrimination at it's best.

Aug 13 11 - 7:32pm
@marygee

I agree completely - we need jobs. When is the President going to get around to that anyway? He's only got a year to go!

Aug 13 11 - 9:51pm
@marygee

I like to ignore that Republicans have created zero jobs. Obama is to blame for EVERYTHING.

Aug 14 11 - 10:27pm
@marygee

Much lower unemployment under Bush. Were you not paying attention?

Aug 15 11 - 12:45am
@marygee

I like to ignore all of the reasons that the economy went into a downwards spiral. Namely, the 8 years Bush spent driving the country off a cliff. It's always Obama's fault for anything that goes wrong.

Aug 15 11 - 10:41am
@marygee

Don't worry - Obama will have everything fixed a year after taking office. He promised. And I believe. 9% unemployment is the new normal.

Some will blame Bush for everything and Obama for nothing.

Aug 15 11 - 11:17am
@marygee

I like to watch FOX "News", where the word "some" or "some people say" is a great way to make up sources to fit hyper conservative fake stories. "Some people say Bush was the greatest president ever? We make you decide!"

Aug 14 11 - 2:34pm
ash

I just sent the La Amada a message telling them how I am going to recommend their hotel to every gay family I know. They're family friendly right, apparently they forgot that gays can also have families.

Aug 14 11 - 10:28pm
@ash

I bet they're very concerned!! You sure showed them! Perhaps dozens of "families" will go there and be disappointed.

Aug 15 11 - 12:46am
@ash

I don't even try to hide my bigotry.

Aug 15 11 - 10:41am
@ash

Or that you're a troll.

Aug 15 11 - 11:18am
@ash

I like to troll my own bigotry.

Aug 14 11 - 7:24pm
Louis

Love how you complain about discrimination against yourself and then rant about putting up a wall to shield yourself from these pesky mexicans. Gays too can be (and often are like everybody else) damn hypocrites. You cannot shield in your gayness to get away with everything.

Aug 14 11 - 7:39pm
Duh

'shield in your gayness'? Dude. I'm not saying that sounding like an idiot means you are one, but your ideas are, to say the least, unclear. You sound a little. . . . hmm. Frothy? Or maybe just like a 2nd grader. You're against gays. That's cool. A lot of people were, back in the pleistocene.

Aug 14 11 - 10:29pm
@Louis

There are no greater hypocrites than the open-minded left. You've hit the nail on the head.

Aug 15 11 - 12:48am
@Louis

My favorite game is to blame other people else for what I'm guilty of.

Aug 14 11 - 7:47pm
roberto

gay marriage IS legal in mexico. it can only be performed in mexico city, however it is recognized in all the other states. this hotel must dislike external revenue.

Aug 14 11 - 8:22pm
Bookslut

La Amada will justly rewarded~ cuz Karma IS a bitch. As for all these narrow and ignorant haters...Karma's MY bitch, and she knows where you lurk. Many Smiles

Aug 14 11 - 10:29pm
@roberto

Or it likes its family-oriented revenue.

Aug 15 11 - 12:52am
@roberto

Ok, I'll admit it. As always, the loudest homophobes are usually self-loathing gays. I'd like to take this opportunity to let everyone on Nerve know that I am no longer a closeted homosexual.

Aug 14 11 - 11:50pm
Kelly

I emailed them and let them know that it's not their responsibility or right to judge whether it's 'right' or 'wrong.' Their job is to provide customer service to their guests without discrimination. What a horrible business and ethical move on their part.

Aug 16 11 - 10:42pm
@Kelly

Agreed! Well put!

Aug 15 11 - 3:02am
Just married

Family friendly is not the real reason. This hotel is owned by the excellence group. Next door is adults only Excellence Playa Mujeres which also doesn't allow gay marriages.

Aug 15 11 - 12:59pm
profrobert

Their motto: "Hate the gay, not the Playa."

Aug 15 11 - 9:54am
Andi

I left this message on their contact page:

I think its great that you're not allowing a loving gay couple to have a wedding in your hotel. Here are other things, also from Leviticus, that I believe you should take a stand against:

* People who eat shellfish
* People who wear clothes made out of more than one material
* People who shave or have ever cut their hair
* Anyone who has eaten beef that had previously grazed with other cattle.
* Anyone who had eaten a plant that had been farmed on farm with other plants

I wouldn't want you to look like hypocrites, so please, if you're going to follow the laws of Leviticus, I expect you to follow them all.

Aug 15 11 - 10:43am
@Andi

Perhaps adherents to Judaism are bound by this. Christians, of course, are no longer bound by the Law.

Aug 15 11 - 11:14am
renaissance

Yes, Christians are no longer bound by the Law, but they sure do bring Leviticus up quite a bit when they think it is needed.

Aug 15 11 - 11:20am
@Andi

I am enlightened: I get to choose which fairy tales to base my existence upon.

Aug 15 11 - 11:53am
Andi

Of course, but until I stop seeing ridiculous signs like "God hates fags", I'm not sure the majority realizes it.

Aug 15 11 - 9:56am
abc

"I guess the real question is how to shield millions of children the world over from the ugly reality of two people that love each other getting married. "

Actually, the real question is how to shield millions of children the world over from the ugly reality of bigotry. So called family friendly hotels (and theme parks, such as Dollywood - though Dolly is trying to correct this) isn't the answer.

Aug 15 11 - 10:28am
Exitonly

What a load of crap.

Aug 15 11 - 11:24am
Exitonly

...coming out of my mouth.

Aug 15 11 - 10:34am
Exitonly

It's not legal morons.

Aug 15 11 - 11:21am
Santorum

Don't google me.

Aug 15 11 - 10:36am
Stirthepot

Sick of all the PC sheep out there !

Aug 15 11 - 5:36pm
Stirthepot

For me, PC sheep = non-bigots.

Aug 15 11 - 10:43am
Stirthepot

Oh, by the way.... Free enterprise. They can do business with who they want. Gays, smokers, nudists, or whatever. Who are any of you to say otherwise ?

Aug 15 11 - 11:23am
Stirthepot

I like to base my morality upon business models. Who are any of you icky people to say otherwise?

Aug 15 11 - 12:06pm
trying2go2heaven

Listen, I think some dudes are just trying to earn some God-cred. I mean, if you realized you're having premarital sex and that it's bad in the big book of Jesus, I'd try get in His Good Book by making an honest man of myself.

Similar question: if sex with a woman is better than with a man, is raping a woman better than raping a man (since it's not gay)?

Aug 15 11 - 12:33pm
KL

Suggested message to Mexicans wanting to get into the USA: "We want to reduce the amount of drugs in our country. Sorry, you cannot proceed."

Aug 15 11 - 12:44pm
KL

Suggested message to self: "We want to reduce the amount of racism in our country. Sorry, you need an education."

Aug 17 11 - 5:13pm
@KL

you're stupid. As if the US was a mecca for gay people everywhere. I live in one of the biggest cities in the US and I still see gay people being mistreated. And you're complaining about drugs in the US? Maybe there wouldn't be such a big supply if there wasn't such a big demand for drugs. It's not like Mexicans are pushing drugs into this country, this country is asking for more. Go read a book

Aug 15 11 - 5:02pm
Ac

I live in this area of Quintana Roo Mexico and there are a lot of Gay Friendly Hotel I think this is a rare case

Aug 16 11 - 11:01pm
Isabel

Shame for then, I donĀ“t have any interest to go to that place.

Aug 17 11 - 12:08am
SJ

I understand the difficult decision that LaAmada made. This is the only family resort of this small chain. The other 3 are adult only which I imagine would have no problem with the ceremony. I have seen many gay couples at their resorts having a great time. I do not understand why they would not go to one of adult resorts? I do understand that gay people have families. I have gay members in my immediate family. But we must realize the majority of the world are hetrosexuals and many have strong religious beliefs. We also have to give these people's views just as much consideration as we should for those who are gay. It is a two way street. It is very unforturnate that this unforseen problem came about. I do not think it is anyones fault. It is advertised as a family resort. In hindsight it would be wise for the couple to check this to avoid any problem. I imagine they will check the next resort they consider. It is quite likely this is not the only resort in the area who may say the same. This should be a time of joy and love. I hope this couple can move forward and not dwell on dissapointments in the past.

Aug 17 11 - 8:52am
Jesse

Wow -- a mature person posting a comment on Nerve. I do believe this is a first.

Aug 17 11 - 1:59pm
SJ

To sum things up, I believe that bigotry and discrimination are justified by tolerating the warped morals of people who believe in fairytales and folklore as fact. Jesse, I'm glad you're a bigot too. It's the hallmark of the "mature".

Aug 18 11 - 1:01pm
SJ

Jesse,
I am sorry for the reply you see above. That was not my post. I am not trying to offend anyone. Much prefer peace from both sides.

Aug 18 11 - 7:53pm
SJ

Well, not trying to offend anyone...except the gays! They shouldn't try to book anything at a family resort.

Aug 17 11 - 3:12pm
Loafers in Action

I posted about this on the hotel's facebook page and they deleted it and blocked me. Guess they're not proud of the decision?

Aug 19 11 - 12:34pm
adrian

Private venue. It has the right to refuse service to anyone. I don't hate gays but I also don't hate business who refuse to service anyone for any reason they deem affects their image/business.

Aug 20 11 - 2:41pm
adrian

I don't like the Civil Rights Act of 1964.

Nov 21 11 - 7:41am
Deandre

What liberating knowledge. Give me liebrty or give me death.