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“Woman cries rape” case highlights double standard in male and female sexuality

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The double standards by which we judge men and women's sexual activity/promiscuity are especially apparent in the language used during the court case of the chief executive of Conwy council, Byron Davies. In March of 2010 Davies, fifty-two, met a twenty-six-year-old woman at a local bar and went home with her. They had sex and she later brought charges that she was too drunk to consent.

Davies stated that the one-night stand was regrettable and "not very gentlemanly" and claimed that the woman was "pushy" and specifically targeted him for sex due to his position. But then, conversely, claimed, "She virtually had her arm twisted by her husband to make a complaint." So, the woman here is either a pushy opportunist or she's a weakling coerced into legal action by another man.

David Williams, defending, said that the case against his client collapsed entirely when the complainant got in the defendant's car:

What on earth is she doing going home with him at that time? She has indulged, sadly, in a sordid one-night stand with a man who is much older than her.

So the one-night stand is "not very gentlemanly" when a man refers to his own actions, but it's "sordid" when we're describing the actions of a woman? And, the woman claimed that she was too intoxicated to consent to sex, wouldn't that lead us to believe that her judgment was also impaired when she got into his car? Last time I checked, accepting a ride from a man late at night was not a contract for a sexual encounter.

I don't have an opinion as to whether or not this man is guilty, but the language employed by the defense offers a glimpse into the ways we still view women and their sexual choices: through the lens of slutdom.