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A new study confirms that people who are direct but polite about wanting to date someone are more likely to land a serious relationship with that person. Those who "use playful and physical styles of flirtation," are, according to the Telegraph, more likely to end up in short-term flings, time and time again.
Makes sense, right? Obviously, people who are playful and physical are probably more interested in a sexual relationship versus people who say, "I'm really enjoying talking to you. Can I take you to dinner sometime?" But often by the end of a relationship, we've forgotten what the mood was like when we first flirted and wonder where it went wrong.
"Why did he/she (not) want a relationship with me?" you might ask. According to researchers, you might have made a tactical error in your initial approach, setting the standard for the relationship, even if you didn't mean for it to be like that once you had his/her phone number.
The researchers at the University of Kansas can explain it better than I can:
While everybody exhibited aspects of each style, for most people one dominated over the other and this could have an effect on the type of person and relationship you attract.
Dr Hall said that if you were unhappy with the type of person you were attracting then it might mean you should modify your flirting technique for more success.
"Flirting does tend to reflect personality and we are not saying you can change your style completely but some modification may help you find the right person for a relationship," he said. [Telegraph]http://www.telegraph.co.uk/relationships/8100171/Flirting-style-determines-relationship.html