New relationships mean ditching close friends, according to science

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Third wheel in relationships

Ever feel like the third (or even fourth) wheel in a relationship? Not to worry, you'll soon be ditched altogether if your friends and their relationship are to work out. Then again, we're stating something as a fact that we learned from yet another one of those lovable press releases about yet another study about yet another facet of relationships we've been exploring for years.

Here's what they're saying today, based on what we read in the Guardian (which is always right, of course):

A new partner pushes out two close friends on average, leaving lovers with a smaller inner circle of people they can turn to in times of crisis, a study found.

The research [via Oxford] showed that men and women were equally likely to lose their closest friends when they started a new relationship.

Previous research… has shown that people typically have five very close relationships – that is, people whom they would turn to if they were in emotional or financial trouble.

"If you go into a romantic relationship, it costs you two friends. Those who have romantic relationships, instead of having the typical five 'core set' of relationships only have four. And of those, one is the new person who's come into their life…" [Guardian]

I always say ditch the two poorest friends — they don't have the money to call you up and promise to pay for dinner if you would only be so kind as to validate them by showing up. Got me?