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Various researchers have studied the concept of "choreplay," wherein women are likelier to have sex when their male partner assists in household chores. A recent study from the University of Western Ontario found that wives are happier when their husbands lend a hand with domestic duties. And Dutch researchers found that "the key to female arousal seems to be deep relaxation and a lack of anxiety." So getting your hands in the suds can consequently mean more fulfilling time in the sack.
But choreplay isn't exclusively about chores, according to Indiana University research scientist Debby Herbenick:
"It's very important not to get into a 'bartering' system or even to see it as a man 'helping his wife' with chores. Household chores and parenting are shared responsibilities that researchers have generally found women spend more time on than men. When couples have a more equal partnership, they do tend to have more satisfying sex lives," she said.
But Kinsey Confidential writer Kristen Mark warns:
"One of the reasons many women get turned on by these out-of-bedroom acts is because they demonstrate caring in a different way. If it becomes clear that the act is being done as a means to get sex, it can become a turn OFF. So, do these things as a way to help out, not as a way to get sex... and sex just might end up being a bonus!"
So fellas, the next time you go to buy condoms, you might want to throw some vacuum-cleaner bags in the cart as well.