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Today is Lady Porn Day

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Okay, so "Lady Porn Day" is kind of a silly, made-up holiday, but, at its heart, it's a laudable effort by feminist bloggers to open a dialogue on women, their sexuality, and their relationship to pornography. The site contains links to many feminist sex bloggers as well as a compilation of porn links submitted by women

I've read countless articles and advice columns dedicated to women's ambivalent relationship with pornography. It seems that a sex-advice columnist can barely go a couple weeks without answering a question about a woman feeling threatened by or unsure about her husband/boyfriend's porn habits. Culturally, men's masturbation, and the pornography that sometimes accompanies it, is up for discussion in a way that female masturbation is not. While male masturbation is the often depicted humorously, even its inclusion as the butt of countless teen-comedy jokes destigmatizes it.

In my middle- and high-school years, the topic of male masturbation was fairly prevalent. It wasn't surprising to hear guys discussing their jerk-off habits or what kinds of porn they liked to watch. Conversely, I don't think I ever overheard or took part in a conversation about female masturbation. I did grow up in a very conservative part of the South, so maybe that's not everyone's experience, but I didn't hear women openly discuss their solo sexuality until I arrived at college.

There are certainly plenty of women who take issue with pornography, considering it exploitative and often misogynist. And while I believe that in some instances they are correct, perhaps this is due in part to the current reality that most pornography is created for men by men. Women watch porn too! And they create it, not just by acting in films, but increasingly by directing and producing content.

I, for one, am glad to engage in a conversation about women and porn and I'm glad that Lady Porn Day inspired me to do so.