Patti Stanger, the single, fifty-year-old host of Bravo's Millionaire Matchmaker who calls it like she sees it, offended viewers with her comments during an appearance Sunday night on Bravo's Watch What Happens Live, a show apparently where reality TV stars try to clear things up, and end up making them worse. Stanger, for the uninitiated, is a third-generation matchmaker who runs Millionaire's Club International Inc., which facilitates dates for seven-figure big shots.
What got people riled up was when a gay man called in to ask about long-distance, open relationships, which led to Stanger declaring that gay men are incapable of monogamy. She said, "There is no curbing gay men. I have tried to curb you people." And after a woman Skyped in seeking advice, Stanger responded to host Andy Cohen's "What do Jewish men do?" question by definitively stating, "They lie."
After her appearance, the criticism on Twitter was fierce, with angry viewers banding around the hashtag #CancelStanger. The general opinion was summed up by JewishJournal.com blogger Ilana Angel in a web post that read:
"The time will come when she won't be able to give her services away, and that will be the day her show is canceled. Twitter might help the day come quicker. There is nothing appealing or charming about this woman. She is an embarrassment to women, and has all the horrible stereotypes that Jewish women are labeled with."
Stanger may be too acerbic for some, but others see her as an opinionated woman who speaks her mind, and damn the consequences. When she says that curly-haired women should straighten their hair to attract men, and redheads should get dye jobs, you're either offended or amused. Last week on New York Live, for example, Stanger offered this dating advice:
"[Men] like [smart women] after marriage. They don't like them before they are married. You got to dumb it down a little because men are not that bright."
Condescending or tongue-in-cheek? Or both?