According to a shocking new survey, we're all a bunch of fucking babies. Or, as they put it, we have trouble keeping our exes in the past. The poll, carried out by dating site YourTango, shows that 71% of respondents "think about their ex too much," 74% Google them, and 59% are still friends with them on Facebook. And on top of that, technologies like Twitter and Foursquare make stalking former lovers that much easier (and creepier).

OK, so that's all from the No Duh department. But what to do about it? Well YourTango wants to help you help yourself. To do that, they've decided that February 13 will be Break Up With Your Ex Day. Basically, they're urging you to spend the day cleaning house by:

  • Unfollowing your ex on Twitter, Foursquare and any other social networking sites

  • Untagging and/or deleting photos of yourself and that person online, on your computer and phone

  • Deleting songs and playlists that remind you of the person

  • Blocking or erasing the person on Google chat, AIM and other instant messaging services

  • Deleting their numbers from your phone and their email addresses from your address book

  • Enlisting the support of friends and community to detach and stay detached from your ex

  • Getting back into the dating scene to complete the moving-on process

Following those steps can win you virtual badges, virtual gifts, and other worthless things. But if those measures aren't enough, well, hey — an even better site has an even better guide to getting over your ex.

Commentarium (6 Comments)

Feb 01 11 - 2:41pm

I think there should be a distinction between "getting over," which is good, and "getting rid of," which may or may not be. I'm actually very proud of the fact that I'm friends with a number of my ex'es. And even for those whom I'm not in touch with and glad to be shut of, I wouldn't delete them from my past. I think healthy balance comes when one can say, "This person was a part of my life, and there were good times that are worth remembering and cherishing, even if we don't belong together, and even if how things ended makes me never want to see them again." But, yeah, to the extent you're obsessing over your ex- to the detriment of enjoying your life now, then you do need to do whatever's necessary to move on.

Feb 01 11 - 3:11pm


Feb 01 11 - 5:59pm
robert paulsen

I agree with the good professor: I maintain healthy friendships with a plurality of my exes and a casual distance from several more. The few I have strong feelings (regret, residual lust, anger) for are not saved in my phone, don't appear as facebook friends, and frankly, aren't in the same state as I am. Most of my relationships ended in such as way that I don't hunger for closure or feel the need to compare my life to theirs years later. Actively purging people from my life isn't the same as getting over them, and I think the sentiment expressed by yourtango is better than the suggested execution.

Feb 03 11 - 11:57am

I think once someone is genuinely your FRIEND, he/she is no longer your ex. Moved into the other category, you'd have nothing to break up with. I like this idea, though. The cleanse/purge. A lot of us need this. I mean, a lot of YOU need this. I've already done it. :) Except, naturally, for those former lovers with whom I now enjoy a healthy friendship.

Feb 04 11 - 6:31pm

Nope! Can't do it. Won't do it.