Commentarium (102 Comments)

Jan 07 10 - 2:56pm
JMT

i waited until i was 20 and i didn't think it was "a little longer" than i wanted. i had to dump people for trying to get in my pants!

Feb 26 11 - 11:58pm
Spar

I lost my virginity with my first wife, a few days before we got married (I was almost 25, she was 20, and not a virgin) The kicker here is that it was on the bottom bunk of a bunk bed, while her little brother slept above us. I slipped in by accident, panicked, came too quick, and immediately jumped up off the bed. Good times, and no regrets :)

Jan 07 10 - 3:48pm
VS

I lost mine at thirteen or fourteen, and I don't regret it. It was with someone I trusted and we stayed together for almost nine years. I wouldn't recommend that to anyone, though. I just got lucky. Unless you know you can handle giving it away to some stranger in your teens, go for it. Otherwise, wait until someone worthy comes along, I always say. Virginity has never been a big deal to anyone I've been with, thankfully.
Also, guy in the green plaid who lost it at fourteen: hellooo gorgeous!

Jan 07 10 - 4:24pm
GTO

In regards to the super-young . . . look where they're from - that carries a lot of equity.

Jan 07 10 - 4:49pm
jl

Hell, I lost mine at 19 during a surprise 40th birthday party I threw for my mom. Then I got the clap!

Jan 07 10 - 5:25pm
Jk

"loose" - hmm bit judgmental for this site isn't it? It's usually more about vulnerability, sadness, need for love and approval in those circumstances.

Jan 07 10 - 5:39pm
RAP

With an older woman I met at Disneyland, a newlywed who was mad at her husband for looking at girls. I was 18. I drove her to my parents house and snuck her into my bedroom.

Jan 07 10 - 10:43pm
VZ

I didn't lose mine til I was 25. Basically it was because I was crippled with fears and insecurities and found it incredibly difficult to approach women so I didn't really date. It became a huge thing in my mind and caused me a great deal of stress. Not sure why I'm saying all this, but what the hell.

Jan 08 10 - 3:10am
PDX

Fuking in Fukuoka! Inscrutable!

Jan 08 10 - 9:11am
jww

At 18 to the woman I stayed with and later married. We now have a child and another on the way. We are 14 years older now too.

Jan 08 10 - 10:21am
EJ

I love this feature! I honestly think I would have just kept clicking "next", even if there were 50 of them! Great work, Glenn!

Jan 08 10 - 11:48am
smo

i was 17 and it lasted about 17 seconds.

Jan 08 10 - 5:35pm
KS

"With a girl - ewww!" Haha!

Jan 08 10 - 6:40pm
JRS

This is brilliant. I hope you're making many more.

Jan 09 10 - 12:15pm
SS

At age 17 in my house, in my basement. My mom walked in.

Jan 09 10 - 12:49pm
in

korean men are so hott

Jan 09 10 - 2:04pm
my

that was on his ugly bed by the way

Jan 09 10 - 2:10pm
dds

more glen please !

Jan 09 10 - 3:15pm
RJ

at 17 on my girl's bed. She was 17 too and cried. I thought I did something wrong and she said, no, she was happy it was finally over.
It was every day after that.

Jan 09 10 - 6:16pm
sam

I gave mine to a boy I was best friends with in the Cricket changing rooms in England. I was 15 but had experienced lesbian sex from 14. I don't regret having sex with those I had as even if they are wrong for you, it's one less to go before finding your perfect partner.

Jan 10 10 - 2:22am
hd

16 or 17 drunk at my boyfriend's apartment.

Jan 10 10 - 9:25pm
jem

I was 20 yrs old. I lost mine to my gf who became my wife.....I had NO idea what I was doin.

Jan 11 10 - 5:35am
SRB

too young, too vulnerable...14, guy was a complete douche too..
well, thats what ya get for having unstable parents who don't give a shit huh? Never told me not to, never even talked about sex, i had to learn about it through classmates and friends...

Jan 12 10 - 1:55am
dds

mom and dad's bed - they were away. we didn't know what we were doing but had fun learning all weekend

Jan 11 10 - 4:11pm
fmj

I was 16 and we did the deed in my car on a sunny day in April. We stayed together for 3 years but moved on. Once we started it was almost every day. She had been begging me for 6 months so I finally gave in. No regrets!

Jan 11 10 - 7:43pm
gn

Really good, Great photgrapher. Lightnings are beautiful, also Glenn Glasser makes his models beautiful and living.

Jan 11 10 - 8:00pm
jfh

Good male friend offered me a ride to my girlfriend's house. On the
way he offered me more. I was seventeen years of age and I never regretted
it for even a moment. Never dated the fellow, but over a span of twenty two
years we had our encores.

Jan 11 10 - 11:15pm
jbh

I kept clicking a few more times before I even realized it wasn't broken it was just the end of the photos...
And..I am still a...at 20 xD

Jan 12 10 - 4:43am
MC

i lost it when i was exactly one month from turning 16. i knew the guy for a week and really didnt like him at all. afterwards i was glad i got it over with and a couple of months later, i met the guy who im still with. i'm 18 and will never, ever regret losing it to random guy.

Jan 12 10 - 6:43pm
kate

So cool that peope were willing to do this. Beautiful photos.

Regarding ages, I really believe it's got nothing to do with how old/young you are, but how mentally prepared, comfortaable, and safe you are. Ready and willing at 14? Great! Want to wait till 25 or later? That's cool too :) It's a big pet peeve of mine when people get judgemental about someone else's very, very personal decision.

Jan 12 10 - 6:48pm
km

I can't flirt for the life of me. I can come off as cold and uninterested to guys so I never dated much...at least not anyone I was very comfortable with. Lost it at 23 to a work friend at a party. Didn't even tell him it was my first time...my little secret :) It's still my only time ever doing it. Had fun, don't regret ANYTHING about it.

Jan 13 10 - 3:46pm
EC

I was 22 with my favorite bartender after a night of drinking. It was fun and lighthearted and we haven't spoken since. No regrets.

Jan 13 10 - 4:06pm
MA

I lost mine 2 days before my 21st birthday. At my parents house, they were both out, obviously. It was the school tart. She screwed me because I let her drive my car around campus once. I hated it - didn't do it again till I was 23. I definitely wish I had waited. I think it's because I had zero feelings for her.

Jan 13 10 - 4:21pm
LL

Summer before my senior year of highschool, (16 1/2?), with my highschool boyfriend of a year and a half. We planned it out, and got a friend to let us use their guest room when they were out of town (lol). No regrets, it was nice, glad to have been able to do it with someone I trusted. Stayed together another year, but only had sex 4 or 5 more times (no privacy!)

Jan 13 10 - 4:32pm
AS

15 at a guys house I met at Sunday Night Dance Party way back in the day. (yay, Minneapolis!) We had no idea what we were doing. I remember walking funny after!

Jan 13 10 - 4:36pm
DC

Twenty-four, Seattle, in a swank hotel. (How many girls can say they hung onto their V-card longer than their own mothers?) And absolutely no regrets!

Jan 13 10 - 4:55pm
LB

@DC: 29, and still hanging on to my v-card :D

Jan 13 10 - 4:57pm
EG

15 in the back of a small, rusty Pontiac. It was all my idea. A Peter Gabriel song that I hated was playing on the radio. No regrets.

Jan 13 10 - 5:21pm
SSR

19, with someone I just met a few weeks earlier. I was soooo ready! I called him up and said, let's do this tomorrow!! Afterwards we went out for icecream.

Jan 13 10 - 5:43pm
JM

17, prom night (ha ha), in my friend's parents' bed. It was with my boyfriend; we were crazy in love (got engaged a couple months after). That wonderful night was the beginning of the best summer of my life. Neither of us had jobs; I'd just go over to his house every morning, and we'd have sex literally all day, taking a few breaks to eat, sleep, cuddle, take a bath. Even though we wound up breaking up, I still suspect that he is the love of my life.

Jan 13 10 - 5:45pm
jb

i lost mine at age 14 to the little girl next store to me wow she was hot!!!

Jan 13 10 - 6:16pm
edw

I'm 22 and still haven't lost mine. Call me old fashioned, but I'll wait for the one, even though it's difficult.

Jan 13 10 - 6:56pm
NLS

I love this!
I lost mine 01/01/01 I was 17 at a NYE party and everyone crowded around the door to listen...it was my friend's little sister's bed with a picture of Jesus looking down on us...but we dated for 5 years afterwards!

Jan 13 10 - 7:26pm
KMB

20, with my college boyfriend...both virgins...and yes, it was awkward, but adorable.

Jan 13 10 - 7:30pm
TJ

20 A guy I barely knew (but not a total stranger) we were drunk at a friends party. All the times that I've had sex I've been drunk though.

Jan 13 10 - 7:56pm
GG

19, in my dorm room to a guy who would later become my boyfriend. we're still together and he still doesn't know he was my first.

Jan 13 10 - 9:55pm
BD

This series makes me smile! I'm still a... but hoping to lose it soon, to my boyfriend of over a year. :) I'm ready!

Jan 13 10 - 10:37pm
BD

Also, I'm 18.

Jan 13 10 - 10:57pm
EG

24 with the guy who ended up being my first real boyfriend. He didn't know I was a virgin. We had been hanging out as friends for a while. It was the first time we'd ever kissed. I just wanted to get it over with. I told him two weeks later that he was my first. The relationship only last 5 months.

Jan 13 10 - 11:12pm
mb

15 years old and on the run from boarding school in England while hiding out at a farmhouse in Kent. With the farmer's daughter - how cliched is that?

Jan 13 10 - 11:32pm
RL

15. Tipsy in the backseat of a Volvo after sneaking out of my house at night.

Jan 14 10 - 12:16am
LR

17 in my grandma's house in her guest bedroom, she was on vacation. To my boyfriend of a little less than a year. Didn't know he was a virgin at the time as well...since he said he'd done it with 4 other girls.

Jan 14 10 - 12:17am
LR

17 in my grandma's house in her guest bedroom, she was on vacation. To my boyfriend of a little less than a year. Didn't know he was a virgin at the time as well...since he said he'd done it with 4 other girls.

Jan 14 10 - 12:20am
NB

19, drunk, at college...on two twin mattresses pushed together on the ground... with a guy I had a (small) class with twice a week. Never got awkward, but we didn't hook up for too long after that happened either. Maybe not the right person, but no regrets about timing, etc. I knew what I was doing..

Jan 14 10 - 12:21am
rm

Still a virgin...19 but I fantasize a lot! I really love my baby...I'm a little scared though

Jan 14 10 - 12:27am
TG

Almost 21, he was the only guy I've ever been completely honest with. I still really miss what we were to each other then. He shipped out a week later, how's that for cliche?

Jan 14 10 - 12:31am
AB

On my 21-run. I went out with one guy who called it a night early so I went home with someone else. Not weird or awkward at all.

Jan 14 10 - 12:42am
MELH

15, snuck out after my parents went to bed and snuck into my boyfriends place... afterwards we watched south park naked, talk about romantic...

Jan 14 10 - 1:15pm
FA

19, with my boyfriend in another country...I was definitely ready and felt comfortable with him but then I had to go back home two weeks later...almost a year since then and I wonder if I'll ever have sex again...

Jan 14 10 - 1:58pm
ad

20, on a mattress with a french guy after drinking a bottle of french wine and watching a french movie about sex.

Jan 14 10 - 3:42am
AZH

19, Portland OR with some guy at his apartment. I never asked for his name and didn't give him mine. It was pretty boring and he made me walk home alone in the dark.

Jan 14 10 - 3:47am
am

16-dated for a year before and two after... high school sweetheart.

Jan 14 10 - 6:22am
kr

It was in the month of April when I was 23, in San Diego, CA, with my then-boyfriend, now-husband. I had been saving my virginity for my future husband and I am so glad that I did. Now, almost 5 yrs later, we're still having fun making sexy time, trying out different positions, lingerie and places to "christen".

Jan 14 10 - 4:44pm
dsf

fukuoka. hilarious

Jan 14 10 - 6:11pm
GCC

17, on my parents water bed, with them out of town, with my girlfriend of 8 months. It was surprisingly un-awkward (good even) until i heard the front door openening. Threw on my clothes, walked into the hall and find my best friend. He high fived me before i could even explain myself. She was a great girlfriend, but terrible for me.

Jan 14 10 - 10:47pm
LGB

15, I Just wanted to get it out of the way. Didn't think to wait, no regrets but that doesnt mean no later thoughts on it. Sex was amazing we stayed together fo years after, and it just kept getting better... Girls hang in there.

Jan 15 10 - 10:44am
g.p

16, my first time of being very drunk, at an outback party in the scrub, in a deflated tent, with people watching and myself going in and out of conciousness. Ha ha, silly girl I was.

Jan 16 10 - 1:47am
HNB

This is amazing. Keep up the awesome work. :)

Jan 15 10 - 5:38pm
ag

16 1/2 on churc trip w/ the pastors son <3 my first love i believe. we sti taltthsda and im 19 now..

Jan 15 10 - 5:51pm
A P

18, on New years' Day of 2010, in his room...while his cousin slept in the next room. It wasn't everything I thought it'd be, but it was pretty good...

Jan 16 10 - 12:24pm
JG

15, at my girlfriends house on her couch, I LOVED it!

Jan 17 10 - 12:43pm
SJ

My first time was with my half sister, we were both around 16/17 did not grow up in the same household, did not know each other until we were brought together by our mom, we shared the same bedroom, we were in love with each other and entertained crazy ideas like running away together. Eventually sex happened, she got pregnant and had the baby. We have since then lived our own lives, 40 years later we both regret the life circumstances that we were placed in, at the time the whole saga unfolded though this will forever be an issue in our psyche, we have survived it without any major breakdown, because we both, my sister and I understand it for what it was/is. The drama continues to unfold, as it was only a couple months ago I received a phone call from my daughter/niece that under the pressure of persistent interrogation (about who is her father) her mother relented and told her the truth. Now the whole thing is still a fairly well kept secret between less than a half dozen people. Off-course, my surviving parent does not know about this story.

This board may not be the best place for this story, but I had to get it out after all this time, thanks for the opportunity guys.

Jan 18 10 - 12:02am
cc

17 on Valentine's Day in a Harvard dorm room - he became my boyfriend for 4 years - condom came off and got lost in there and it was taken out by a gynecologist with an ice cold speculum.

Jul 14 11 - 8:25am
marjorie

i lose v-card on harvard dorm too!and the boy had sex with me will be my husband in a year .we want to hate sex without any protection to have our baby after we marry.

Jan 18 10 - 2:22pm
DJW

6 on my way home from Spring Break in FL. On an AMTRAK Train! No idea which state I was in. It's possible I did not lose my virginity at all, as I may have put it between her butt and the sheets!

Jan 19 10 - 12:19pm
AH

19 with a girl who I offered to teach English to because I liked her... eventually we got married :P

Jan 20 10 - 1:49am
vskc

at 36!!! Lost to my wife who is 28! Both lost it together!!!

Jan 20 10 - 1:21pm
PJS

@ 22, my last night in Air Force Technical School. We'd been dating for a couple months, got freaky before, but this was "the first time" She was a complete maniac in the sack.

Jan 21 10 - 2:08pm
kd

24, to my flatmate after having taken her to a night-stroll in the snow.

Jan 23 10 - 12:08am
WJG

21 Wedding night. Yes. Romantic bed and breakfast cabin in Ogden Canyon, Ut. Embarrassing thing was the next day when we went to our new house and my mom and grandma were there unloading gifts. Everyone knew what we had been up to. Still married to him, and there have been times that sex is the only thing that has kept us together because it's that good. One whoopsie child who is the love of my life.

Jan 24 10 - 1:33pm
rm

I was 19 or 20. After enduring years of teasing, because all my guy friends just KNEW I was still a virgin, even though I lied and said I wasn't, I brought a girl home from a party and had drunk sex in my dorm room. We ended up dating for a few months (weeks?) before I realized she was sleeping with other guys (including friends? of mine). A couple of months later I realized that I had contracted HPV (warts) from her. Also, years later I came to suspect that she might have gotten pregnant during that time and had an abortion. Was it mine? I 'll never know. The next ten years of my sexual and dating existence were tainted by having an STD. I passed on relationships and sexual encounters because I couldn't handle having the STD conversation. I did have a couple of random irresponsible encounters and a great girlfriend during that time (who knew the risk and wanted to have sex anyway and got HPV). Finally I met my future wife who chose to take the risk and did get HPV. We're happily married to this day. I do regret that during most of my twenties I was, for the most part, off the market because I wasn't willing to be a reckless HPV spreader (though I did make a few mistakes and probably infected a few girls). It probably has affected my married life because I long for the care free sex that I missed out on back then. My wife could just about give it up and still be happy but I'm still wishing for five-night-a-week sex and it just isn't ever going to happen. Woe is me. Enough of the confessions. Thanks for listening anonymous internet family.

Jan 27 10 - 10:38pm
mat

So many people hooking up with strangers or people they hardly know. Some of you need to take an AIDS test. Then you can honestly say "No regrets."

Jan 30 10 - 6:11pm
RDP

23, to a girl who came to our christmas party at my house. We dated for a while, until I caught her cheating on me with my roommate. I thought I was saving it for someone special, oh well.

Jan 31 10 - 6:54pm
CJJ

26 and still...never had a girlfriend, haven't even had my first kiss. Mostly due to my vast insecurities, low self esteem, utter lack of confidence and horrible self image. Sometimes I think I'll never lose it.

Feb 04 10 - 2:31pm
AD

27 and still carrying my V-card. Never really had a boyfriend. Never really been attracted to anyone. I'm oddly happy and content the way I am.

Feb 04 10 - 11:13pm
AS

27 (to another woman). Still a gold star.

Feb 07 10 - 3:37am
RK

28 because I was still terrified, years after an assault by a stranger. I was clamped up for a long time, both psych & phys.. Took counseling, physical therapy, several boyfriends, and lots of practice. Happy now, with awesome fiance with whom I have awesome sex :)

Feb 18 10 - 8:49am
Pete

Thought it was amazing in the way you put that together. must of beeen a tad odd.

Mar 18 10 - 2:26am
OW

15, on the livingroom floor of my girlfirends house, then again in the bathroom straight after. she lived a train journey away and when i arrived back in town I was walking on air.

May 04 10 - 5:43pm
gkw

24, with a guy going through a wicked divorced. Fucked each other senseless for 12 hours! Loved that, hated the subsequent 6 months :D.

Aug 21 10 - 8:45am
flower

23 almost 24 and im still a virgin my choice, happy to wait till i find a great guy!

Feb 26 11 - 5:09pm
Brooklyn

I was 13 with my first ever love, his name was Braden and he was two years older than me. His parents weren't home so we had sex in his bed, neither of us had a clue what we were doing and neither of us had an orgasm. (He was too nervous to come.) Were still good friends to this day. =]

Feb 28 11 - 12:00am
SC

I lost mine at 17 on my parents couch one morning before school. My boyfriend would secretly pick me up to go to school and one morning things got hot and my pants came off. For a first time it was good. I don't regret it at all. I loved and trusted the boy.

Feb 28 11 - 12:35am
julynight

I was 15. So was she.
We were both girls - Not confused about the situation.
We were dating for three months prior,
Decided to "Do it".
We were In Love -

A part of me wishes I had waited,
Another misses that relationship; (Cause we broke up)
But it was easily the best,
Experience,
Of my life thus far.

I wish she could read this
Somehow
And know how much I owe her for teaching me about
Myself
Because I really do owe that girl the
World

Thank you, My lover,
You were once my bestfriend.

Mar 15 11 - 10:23pm
Burghy

I was 18 in my boyfriend's dorm room... with the door open. It was the middle of the day & people were walking past. It was over quickly, which I didn't mind cause it was painful.

Mar 22 11 - 3:58pm
mv

14 with my gf in a tomato field :D

Mar 28 11 - 10:10pm
waited

19 in my dorm room with a girl I'd been dating for a while. First time for both, though we'd fooled around for a little while before that. Things just slipped naturally into place and it was done. We're still friends many years later.

Now dating a wonderful woman who waited a bit longer - she was over 40 when I relieved her of that "v-card". Amazing how she's picked things up pretty quickly since that late start.

Mar 30 11 - 9:22pm
RS

I was 17, my boyfriend was 18. He initiated s little foreplay while we were in his basement (Parent's house). That night, after I went home, our text conversations got heated. He ended up sneaking his mom's car out to come pick me up at 1:30 am to drive somewhere to have sex. I lost my card in the back of a Honda Accord. Loved every minute of it.

Mar 31 11 - 2:26am
mer

I was (and still am) 18. To my boyfriend (19) of four months. In my dorm room at college. I'm pretty sure my suite-mate was home the whole time and probably heard something. We've known each other for about 5 years. I don't regret one thing. It was wonderful :) I can't wait for the encores ;)

Apr 09 11 - 3:31pm
DJ

I'm 21 and still a virgin. I've also never been kissed. I believe society places too much emphasis on sex, so I'm perfectly content to wait for the right time. It will come, I'm sure of it.

Apr 26 11 - 7:57pm
lys

It was two nights before my 19th birthday. My best guy friend and I had had way too much to drink and over the years we had joked about how he was going to "de-flower" me. That night, outside, on a boat, he "de-flowered" me. We hardly talk now but I've never regretted it.

Apr 27 11 - 4:38am
tinkerbell

to a boy who I had just met 9 days earlier who did not love me. I was drunk, he was high, I cried afterwards and didn't go to church that Sunday because I was too ashamed