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Kae Burke, 22

www.ladycircus.com

What’s the hottest sex move you’ve ever tried and why was it so great?


I’m really into giving head in public places. I don’t know if that’s a sex "move."

I’m cute, friendly and flirty and have lots of guy friends. Why am I still single?


Because you’re cute, friendly and flirty! You’re probably flirty to everybody so they think you’re a slut, or you’re too cute so you remind them of their little sister. I suffer from this problem myself because I am also cute, friendly and flirty. The friendliness is not girlfriendliness, you’re a friend. You’re flirty, so they get mixed signals and they don’t know what to do.

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Has acrobatics benefited your sex drive?


Definitely. We’re very flexible and my endurance is way up so I can go for awhile and go again and have multiples. And there’s also the performance aspect of it. Sex can be a performance — you’re performing for the other person. Whether you’re performing oral sex or whether you’re performing a fake orgasm, you’re performing! So definitely a little practice makes perfect. And being more physically healthy makes you feel more attractive and you are more attractive and you feel like physically expressing yourself in other ways.



I haven’t been getting off lately when I have sex, and I’m so over fake orgasms. How do I let the guy know I’m enjoying it, even though I’m not coming?


You should definitely just let him know that you enjoy it and that you’re not going to come because coming isn’t really the main event. I really don’t think it’s what sex is for, especially for the woman. Maybe he expects it because you were coming before and now you’re not and he may have his own issues with that. Moan more, but you don’t have to fake it. I think a lot of women are on the same boat. If you’re into it, you’re into it.

How can a nice guy get laid?


Probably by being honest and straightforward about your desires. A nice guy who gets laid is really open about himself and people who he’s attracted to and not trying to bullshit them into sleeping with him because he’s nice, he’s honest. And so he ends up taking girls home because they trust him and they don’t feel like their naked pictures are going to end up on Facebook the next day. If he gets laid often it’s through his casual approach and friendliness.

How can I turn on an acrobat while he or she’s in midair?


If you want to physically turn her on and she’s in a split, rub your nose all up in her crotch or something cute like that. To get her attention? You don’t whistle or hoot and holler, "You’re so hot!" A lot of douchebags from Jersey do that. You wait until she gets down and say, "That was so amazing, can you show me how to do that sometime?" And they’ll say, "Oh, sure," and then it goes from there.


Michael "Dirt" Saab, 35

www.modern-gypsies.com

I’m cute, friendly and flirty and have lots of guy friends, why am I still single?

Maybe you’re inadvertently sending the friend message. Try throwing yourself on the guy you like. Usually if you jump a man’s bones and you’re cute, friendly, and flirty to boot, he won’t say no.

My guy can get really hot and raunchy on the phone, but when it comes to being physical in person, he’s very timid. How can I get him to put his words into action?

Maybe he’s shy? Try talking dirty to him while you’re being intimate. Tell him what you like, what you want him to do. Once he sees you opening doors to some of the raunch you’re trying to get out of him, he’ll step it up.

What acrobatic positions can give us good ideas for a spicy sack session?

You could try doing some bendy sex. Sex while standing up takes a little coordination but when you get it, it’s good. Try to change your perspective and be open to new things. Use your imagination. Anything non-conventional becomes a puzzle that can lead to exploration and fun.

My S.O. and I invited a couple over tonight so we can have a foursome. What are some good foursome positions to try out?

Try building a human pyramid while stimulating those erogenous zones.

How can a nice guy get laid?

From this nice guy’s personal experience: be honest, be friendly, don’t try too hard, and know when to get dirty.

How can I turn on an acrobat while he or she’s in midair?

Yell out, "You are so hot!" If you stroke his ego you will surely land him in your lap and around your finger.

     

  

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Anya Sapozhnikova, 22

www.theladycircus.com

I haven’t been getting off lately when I have sex, and I’m so over fake orgasms. How do I go about letting the guy know I’m enjoying it, even though I’m not coming?


I have a problem with that question. I feel like for me it wouldn’t be enjoyable if I’m not coming. There are probably other issues that distract you. It could be an issue with that person, or maybe you’re putting all your sexual energy into a creative project, which happens a lot. I think it’s time to move on to a different relationship or figure out what the actual problem is. It’s probably not the sex, because the sex is a response to something else.

What makes an acrobat sexy and why should I bother sleeping with one?


It’s a lot of brute strength, but not bodybuilder strength. I think strength is really sexy.

My S.O. and I invited a couple over tonight so we can have a foursome. What are some good foursome positions?


I think all sexual experiences are made more interesting by the kind of emotional connection you have and the friendships. It’s not just penis and vagina or two penises and two vaginas — you do this because you want something more interesting, and having interesting dynamics between people is more interesting than trying to make a four-person human pyramid. Be creative about why you’re doing it, instead of how you’re doing it.

How can a nice guy get laid?

I believe that nice guys truly do finish last. There’s a fine line between being nice and being a doormat, and if you’re just nice all the time, the niceness will lose its effectiveness. No matter how nice you are, a little bit of an edge will help you out.

How can I turn on an acrobat while he or she’s in midair?


You can’t. It’s really intense. You’re utilizing everything — it’s kind of hard to think about anything else. But after that you can tell him that not only did he do a nice job, but talk about the things that were inspiring to you or the things that you enjoyed artistically. Make him feel like you weren’t just watching an act, like "Ooh, you’re an aerialist, how cool," but you were actually looking at it more in-depth and saw a story in it or saw some emotion in it that you liked.

Keelan Kelly, 26

What’s the hottest sex move you’ve ever tried and why was it so great?


I was bent over backward on stilts in the middle of a club in midtown. She was standing on the couch and I was eating her out. . . on stilts. Then I got asked to leave.

My guy can get really hot and raunchy on the phone, but when it comes to being physical in person, he’s very timid. How can I get him to put his words into action?


Alcohol. Preferably strong alcohol. I like whiskey.

How can I tell this guy I’ve been seeing that I’m a virgin, without freaking him out?


There is no way to tell a guy you’re a virgin without freaking him out. No matter how you do it, that’s always going to freak him out. And if it doesn’t, you should worry more than if it does, because who the fuck likes sleeping with virgins? They’re terrible.

How do I look sexy after I’ve farted during hot and heavy sex?


Girls always look sexy.

My S.O. and I invited a couple over tonight so we can have a foursome. What are some good foursome positions to try out?


The wheel. It’s kind of like the yoga wheel, but it’s basically everyone’s head in everyone else’s crotch. It’s very rough.

How can I turn on an acrobat while he or she’s in midair?


Eye contact. That’s pretty much the only thing.

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