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Aswini, 28



Your profession attracts some nosy types. Do you dig around for background info before choosing a hookup?

No, I like being surprised as I get to know a person.

Journalistic credibility requires that you not get involved with newsworthy people. So do you have to date boring people and steer clear of sketchy clubs?

It’s not so much that you have to avoid doing it as you have to avoid getting caught doing it. Cover the reality show. Don’t be it.

Are you big on writing love poems? Or love articles maybe?

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Certainly not for public viewing, but I will say that writers like to be wooed with wordsÂ… the form is irrelevant. Though I wonder if someone could Twitter their way into a person’s heart. 250 characters doesn’t exactly let you pour forth passion.

Do you have a policy against flirting with sources? Or is this par for the course?

Rules are meant to be broken right? I’m joking. This is a question that’s much larger than a single survey. Does it happen? Yes. Does it mean that you actively work to avoid it or go after it? Not necessarily. Reporters are humans, not robots. But I definitely think, especially for women, you have to be careful about your reputation.

Are sexy journalists better at getting interviews?

I don’t think so. Most reporters do a lot of interviews by phone. Maybe the better question is, "Do reporters with sexy voices get more from their interviews than those who don’t?"

What are the most important factors for long-term success in a relationship?

Considering many journalists and writers are notorious for affairs, divorces, alcoholism, and associated addictive disorders, I don’t know that we’re poster children for how to keep the flame burning.

Lucas, 24



Journalistic credibility requires that you not get involved with newsworthy people. So do you have to date boring people and steer clear of sketchy clubs?

I don’t feel I really know a source until I’ve been involved romantically with them.

What’s your take on blogging about relationships? Totally off-limits, or necessary for writers?

Lucrative, if you find the right advertisers.

Do you require a certain level of verbal fluidity from potential mates? Would you tolerate someone who communicates via grunts and hugs?

Omit needless words.

Are sexy journalists better at getting interviews?

I’ve heard tell that the finest magazines recruit their fact-checkers from the ranks of phone-sex operators.

Should a widower remarry if he’s already been married three times and he may only have five more years to live?

What’s he got to lose?

Do you make every potential partner go get STD testing with you, even if you’ll use condoms? Do you suggest this policy to others?

Still working on getting past the holding-hands stage.

     

  

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Adam, 24

Your profession attracts some nosy types. Do you dig around for background info before choosing a hookup?

Personally, I’ve never done any background checks on anyone I’ve dated — unless you count looking at pictures on Facebook as a form of background check. 

Journalistic credibility requires that you not get involved with newsworthy people. So do you have to date boring people and steer clear of sketchy clubs?

In terms of avoiding controversial situations or relationships, I think it’s primarily important to avoid dating someone who might compromise your journalistic integrity. With all the media blogs that are out there now, I’m less concerned with embarrassing my employer than I am with embarrassing myself, and it’s important to know that any club you go to might end up being reported on somewhere. 

Are you big on writing love poems? Or love articles, maybe?

I write love emails sometimes, but they are mostly filled with the snarky and inappropriate things that I have to censor out of my public writing. In a personal email I feel more free to use profane language and call people out for shit. 

Do you require a certain level of verbal fluidity from potential mates? Would you tolerate someone who communicates via grunts and hugs?

I don’t consider my standards to be a litmus test, but I rarely find myself attracted to women who can’t keep up with me conversationally. I look for a sharp wit, and if she isn’t involved in the news industry, she’s at least comfortable making fun of me for my involvement. 

Do you have a policy against flirting with sources? Or is this par for the course?

I find flirting with sources to be somewhat unprofessional. I’ve worked with plenty of female colleagues who are more comfortable with this than I am, but then again I think that men are a bit easier to manipulate than women. Being friendly and interested with a potential source is a must, and this can often be misinterpreted as flirting, but for me at least, any attempts at flirting for information have rarely yielded any dividends. 

Are sexy journalists better at getting interviews?

My sex appeal has certainly never helped me in the journalistic world, but there are a couple of attractive women that I’ve worked with who always seemed to have a scoop on the story. 

Erica, 27

Journalistic credibility requires that you not get involved with newsworthy people. So do you have to date boring people and steer clear of sketchy clubs?

As for sketchy clubs, you have to make sure they are just sketchy enough that if someone caught you there they’d be too worried about being caught themselves to ever say anything. And no, I absolutely never date boring people. Absolutely not.

Are you big on writing love poems? Or love articles, maybe?

I wrote an erotic article once, sort of. But I won’t tell you where it was published.

What’s your take on blogging about relationships? Totally off-limits, or necessary for writers?

After someone trusts you enough to be open and let down their guard, spilling your neurotic guts all over the internet is just disrespectful. 

Do you require a certain level of verbal fluidity from potential mates? Would you tolerate someone who communicates via grunts and hugs?

I need a mate who is smarter than I am in at least a few categories. Writing and speaking are among them, usually. Depends on the grunts, of course!

Are sexy journalists better at getting interviews?

I think sexy anythings — not just hacks — are better at the "get" probably. But only if it’s in-person and you’re interviewing people who give a damn about what you look like. And you’ve gotta then hope the source isn’t smitten, because he won’t be concentrating on your questions.

What are the most important things to long-term success in a relationship?

I once had a boyfriend I thought I was going to marry — and sometimes still harbor hope! Once we had such an amazing day in Prospect Park that at the end of the day when he told me he thought we’d spend the rest of our lives together, I answered, "Yes, and I feel like today was our honeymoon." Point is, it doesn’t matter where. It matters with whom.

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