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Sandeep, 24

What's the best language in which to say "I love you"?

I personally love the language of the Persians, Farsi. It sounds as delicate as a flower.

I'm going to be living abroad for three months, and I really want to date, but I'm afraid girls will be turned off if they know it can only be temporary. Must I tell them about my departure date?

Tell them you're open-minded about all possibilities in a relationship.

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You enjoy spending time in the country you're in, love the people and may stay longer if there's something (or someone) keeping you there. They'll immediately start trying harder to impress you.

I went out on a few dates with a guy several years ago, but I wasn't that into him, so I stopped calling. I bumped into him the other day, and he seemed really cool and attractive. Should I try to date him a second time?

Go with your gut instinct. If there was a reason you didn't want to date him before, you're likely to find that it's still there, and it'll be even more irritating this time.

I met a guy who hardly speaks any English, and I don't speak his language at all. We've gone on a few dates together and had a great time anyway. Can this possibly last?

It won't last. But continue dating him and take advantage of the positives — enjoy your time with him, get into his native culture and pick up some of his language. All the English I know, I learned from the hot girls.

How can I pick up a foreign-exchange student?

Ask them what they hope to try while in the country, and promise to take them out for what they're looking for. Girls suddenly seem really into me when they hear I'm spending lots of American money for an expensive date.

Roni, 30

How can I date in a country where I don't speak the language?

Not a problem. All you have to do is learn how to say, "What's your name? How old are you? Do you want to come smoke something with me in my apartment?" If you can't manage that, still no problem. You get one of her girlfriends who speaks English to set it up. After that, it's just like a regular relationship without the pain of having to ask, "How was your day?"

What's the best language in which to say "I love you"?

People can say it without really meaning it, in which case other languages don't help. I believe Portuguese sounds the best: "Eu te amo."

I'm going to be living abroad for three months, and I really want to date, but I'm afraid girls will be turned off if they know it can only be temporary. Must I tell them about my departure date?

You must. That's the best scenario possible. You have all the fun you want, and you have a real reason to cut it off without having to think of any lame excuses.

I went out on a few dates with this guy several years ago. I wasn't that into him, so I stopped calling him. I bumped into him the other day, and he seemed really cool and attractive. Should I try to date him a second time?

Of course you should. Same way as when girls tell me no the first time, it doesn't mean I won't ask again.

What's the proper thing for a guy to say to a girl when they notice the condom broke?

"Is the pharmacy near your house open twenty-four hours?"

Danielle, 20

I'm going to be living abroad for three months, and I really want to date, but I'm afraid girls will be turned off if they know it can only be temporary. Must I tell them about my departure date?

Of course. And she might be that much more into you because she knows she'll be losing you one day.


What have you learned while studying abroad that could help Americans with their romantic relationships?

Americans should take a lesson from the European gentlemen's rules. They're not classy enough in their seduction.


Is talking dirty online with someone who you'll never meet cheating?

There's a difference between thoughts of cheating, and cheating. You're not actively doing it, so I don't see what the big deal is.

I met a guy who hardly speaks any English, and I don't speak his language at all. We've gone on a few dates together and had a great time anyway. Can this possibly last?

Something like this could never work for me. I want to check out his sense of humor, his cleverness. You'll get bored eventually with someone you can't have any conversations with.


How can I pick up a foreign-exchange student?

Ask her to help you translate.

Kfir Ozer, 28

What's the best language in which to say "I love you"?

Italiano.

How can I date in a country where I don't speak the language?

Most girls seem to be very fond of guys who are not from this country, so as long as you dress nice and look good when you go out, you manage.

I went out on a few dates with this guy several years ago. I wasn't that into him, so I stopped calling. I bumped into him the other day, and he seemed really cool and attractive. Should I try to date him a second time?

It's worth it to give it a shot, but know that he'll probably use this excuse to insult you.

The girl I'm dating says she'd be perfectly happy living where we are forever, but I want to try living in different places. Are we doomed?

You both can change your minds thirty times before anything happens. People grow up and change, so this isn't a reason to stop the relationship. When the time is right, it'll be a good test for the relationship to see what's more important.

What have you learned while studying abroad that could help Americans with their romantic relationships?

In every country the rules are a bit different, but love is always a game. n°

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