I Did It for Science: Female Ejaculation by Grant Stoddard - Nerve.com



Quantify the effects of the experiment.

Before Erica and I began our session, we watched the DVD. Incidentally, it happens to be a laugh riot, far and away the most low-budget production I've ever witnessed. The host is Clint "Arte" (pron. Ar-tey) Arthur, a self-proclaimed sex guru from Marina del Rey, California. A tanned, handsome George Hamilton type, Arte stars in the hourlong production alongside the beautiful and enigmatic "Melody X." Cue cheesy sex music and video graphics circa 1983. Erica and I squirmed on the sofa as a grinning Arte began to tell us how we're doing it all wrong.

"Are you still having twentieth-century sex?" he asked us. An inordinate period of silence followed his question. The California breeze blew back his coiffed hair. Erica and I looked at each other. Were we? After several seconds, I felt compelled to say, "I think so." Arte chuckled mockingly. "When I was younger, I had a lot of good sex, but great sex was the exception, not the rule. It made me feel like there was a mysterious void in sex . . . and in life." I looked over at my girlfriend. At that moment, her void seemed more mysterious than I'd ever imagined.

Ponderously, Arte looked away from the camera. He recalled a time before New Sex. "When I was in my late twenties, I was in bed with my lover" — ew — "massaging the inside of her vagina with my fingers." He formed his hand into a scoop and made a vague back-and-forth motion. "After a while, I began to feel contractions, then she started to get really wet. We both knew that she was on the edge of something neither of us had experienced before!"

Erica was transfixed.

"I kissed her," Arte continued, "and assured her that she was safe. Soon, she had an orgasm so powerful it punctuated with an explosion of hot, wet pleasure!" Ersatz use of the word "punctuated" notwithstanding, we couldn't help being simultaneously impressed and grossed out by Arte's evangelical commitment to his brand of shagging."With our juices mingling" — ew, ew — "we looked into each other's eyes and felt a new level of intimacy and passion that was . . . " — at that point, Arte looked toward the heavens in search of the precise word to describe this unprecedented feeling — " . . . awesome!"

(A technical sidenote: The best feature of Arte's straight-talk-to-the-camera demeanor was when he would adopt a David Letterman-style "dumb-guy" voice to relay a question he had been asked by a member of the public. "People come to me and say; 'Heya Artaayy, I jus don' gedditt! What in tarnation is you flappin' yer gums about? Yuk yuk yuk!'")

Switching gears, Arte gravely set down a bunch of rules:

     1. Don't touch the vagina until sensual massage has reduced your partner to jelly.
     2. Cunnilingus is a distraction. Until you've mastered the digital rain dance, it should not even be attempted.
    3. Crucially, you must both be naked.

Arte says that clothes are what separate us from animals. New Sex is not civilized. Oh, no: New Sex is wild, feral. Arte asked us if tigers wore boxer shorts. He waited for an answer. "Ha ha ha, of course not!" he chuckled. (Sure, Arte, but a tiger doesn't spend the better part of an hour pawing at a tigress' G-spot neither. It's pretty much in, out and start chasing dinner.)

Questionably pertinent animal-kingdom analogies aside, Arte made female ejaculation sound like a piece of cake. He implied that we'd be riding whitewater after our first go. I thought it would have been a great marketing technique if they'd packaged the DVD with a free tarp.

Before the movie cut to a single-shot view of Arte practicing what he preached, he gave us a little pep talk. "Be proud of yourself today, because you are courageous, open minded and have taken your first step on a journey!" Then, for the next twenty-five minutes, Arte bothered his lithe companion, Ms. X, with a variety of techniques that I duly noted. He said "buttocks" a lot. He encouraged men to say things like, "Oh, yeah," and "you are so hot" and "I am so turned on right now." This, we were told, helps intimacy. Apparently, a break in intimacy can disrupt the process. Two things Melody X did not do which would have improved this female-ejaculation video: a) said a few words about how she felt about the experience, or perhaps any words at all; and b) ejaculated. After all the buildup — the massaging, kissing, hugging and fingering — it didn't happen! Erica and I felt a bit duped. It was like going to a freak show to see the Monkey Girl of Tongo, only to encounter a petite woman with some hair Elmer's-glued to her forearms.

Undeterred, Erica and I went into the bedroom. Arte had suggested soft music and candlelight. My stereo had just broken, so we had to settle for the hum of my air conditioner and the angry-sounding shouts of my Chinese neighbors. The first job was to relax Erica with a sensual massage. I whipped out some good-smelling massage oil and started rubbing it into her stomach. I could hear Arte in my head: "Remember: Do not touch her vagina!"

I know that what I'm about to say will seriously reduce my chances of being anyone's first-choice life partner, but I don't really like giving massages all that much. It makes my fingers ache, and it's dull. I only enjoy paying inordinate amounts of attention to the good stuff. But that night, I was a man on a mission, more than prepared to do whatever it took to take the smug smile off of Bing's face and put it on Erica's.

Relaxed, seemingly turned on and with skin sporting more grease than a diner omelet, Erica indicated that it was time to put one of Arte's dirty tricks to the test: kissing the feet. (Arte: "Now, I don't have a foot fetish, but if those toes wanna be sucked, man, you know I'm gonna suck those toes!") Her reaction: understated but favorable. (Arte: "Breathe on her vagina — hot breath on the vagina is a major turn-on.") I hoisted Erica's bum in the air and made like Rosie O'Donnell after scaling a flight of stairs. The verdict was even more favorable than I'd imagined. I wanted to go down on her badly. But Arte had predicted this, and he'd told me to resist the urge. He had also prophesied, correctly, that I might want my penis touched — that she might even want to touch it — but it was strictly forbidden. Holding out now would bring a better result in the end.

As instructed, I put Erica in a kind of one-armed bear hug while my other hand traveled below. First, I was to cup her coochie area without touching it, just letting the heat of my hand warm her like an overly familiar Reiki treatment. Then, Arte suggested making the Vulcan live-long-and-prosper hand shape. I was to massage both sides of the outer labia, then splay them and "fold" the inner ones. Vaginal origami, to be sure. In the heat of the moment, all this was a lot to remember, but the fun stuff felt close at hand.

Like watching The Man Show, G-spot stimulation can be uncomfortable for some but provide hours of amusement for others. As Em and Lo point out in their chapter on G-spot stimulation, some girls love it when you play with their chillingly named "urethral sponge," some are unimpressed by it, and others would prefer that you rub wasabi in their eyes. The G is often bumpy and ridged; it sits slightly inside the front wall of the vag. Arte broke it down two times: "With your pointer or middle finger, you can either make a come-hither motion on the front wall, or simply apply pressure and slide in and out." Erica and I opted for the come-hither. What followed was a lot of dialogue that won't be making the pages of a Mills and Boone novel: "There?" "Harder?" "Like that?" "Clockwise?" "Another finger?" But in the interest of getting the party started right (and quickly), we went on like that until we had it down.

"Oooh, stop! I have to pee!" Erica cried, dismounting my finger and bolting into the bathroom. "No, I didn't!" she said, chastened, a few seconds later. (Em and Lo write that the need to tinkle is a common feeling associated with G-spot stimulation.) We got back to business, and I immediately noticed that Erica's facial expression was different than when I went down on her, or played with her G and clit simultaneously. She looked perplexed, with a furrowed brow and open mouth. She reminded me of those people who "receive the holy spirit" on televised evangelical masses. All she could murmur was, "Just like that!" and "Harder!" I took this as an encouraging sign. About ten minutes in, I began to feel vice-like contractions around my fingers. I figured that we'd have this all wrapped up in a jiffy.

Fifteen minutes later, I thought my arm was going to fall off. The bones in my fingers felt ready to fuse together permanently. Gritting my teeth, I focused on the crescendo of noises Erica was making.

I passed through the pain barrier at about twenty-seven minutes. Trying not to glance at the alarm clock, I wondered how long this was going to take. A female friend had told me that she could have a G-spot orgasm only after an hour of stimulation. I thought I'd never play guitar again. Yet I didn't really care. To be honest, I don't think I could have kept going if Erica didn't seem to be on the cusp of something remarkable. For ten minutes, she assumed the posture of being halfway through an abdominal crunch, her face contorting with fantastical expressions. Her contractions continued; she was incredibly wet. If it takes all night, we are going to do this, I thought to myself, girding my loins, steeling myself.

Suddenly, Erica demanded that I stop. A tear trickled down her little face. "What's wrong?" I asked. Had I broken our intimate bond of trust? Worse, had I broken her coochie?

"I am worried about your arm," she said.

Not that Erica isn't compassionate and kind, but this outpouring of emotion over a strained bicep seemed totally out of character. She was crying. "Don't be silly!" I said, giving her a hug. I had conjured a fluid from her all right, but not the one I was after. Somehow, what I was doing down there had made her emotional. Nowhere had I read that was a byproduct of G-spot play.

Erica told me to stop using my fingers and have sex with her. I hesitated. Arte didn't really give us any tips for bringing about squirting through intercourse. He mentioned that ejaculating inside her might bring about an ejaculatory response. Simultaneous ejaculation! But that roadmap was left frustratingly incomplete. A squirter friend told me that she couldn't really let it all out when her vagina was accommodating a penis or dildo. But Bing told me that all his squirting acquaintences somehow manage it through fucking. I wondered if his rig bent the other way, or perhaps if he had some weird callus on it that made everything work. Undeterred, I folded Erica in half and leaned back as far as I could. The idea, as supported by my colleagues, was that the penis was to be angled toward the belly button with shallow strokes. After fifteen minutes, an understandably chafed Erica called time.




Summarize your findings. Don't forget to attempt to identify possible variables that could result in different findings for others trying to recreate your test results.


If my body could do something as mysterious as female ejaculation, you can bet that I'd be testing out it all the time. But I'm like that anyway. You know those people who can make farting noises under their armpits? I can do it under my neck and in my eye socket. How did I learn this? Christ only knows. I guess I just yearn to unlock the arcane potential of the human body. Although this experiment was technically a failure, both Erica and I felt that we were on the cusp of something different and potentially great. It was a tantalizing look at the possible.

After telling some squirter friends about what happened, they suggested that Erica practice alone, without the pressure of a nerdy, overzealous boyfriend expecting to be baptized with mystery fluid. That could put anybody off their stride. In any case, you can bet that she and I are going to revisit this experiment soon. We didn't make it this time, but we're both more than ready to believe the hype.  

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47 Comments

Having had a girlfriend who could squirt on a regular basis, I wanted to confirm that an extreme emotional reaction can happen. This girl, after ejaculation, would often be overcome with either laughter or tears. Fortunately, she had forewarned me, as I would have been quite distraught if I hadn't known and she had burst into tears after she came. As a side note, while I could make her squrit nearly every time I wanted to with my fingers, or sometimes my tongue, she never ejaculated during intercourse.

EMM commented on 07/16

I'm a squirter....when i wanna be. And it doesn't take g-spot stimulation for me. It happens when i am taking particularly long to orgasm and i apply pressure (much like straining when you are constapated -sorry, but that's the best descriptor i could cum up with). My goal is to actually move blood to that area by applying pressure but if I continue to do that right as I orgasm, this thin watery liquid shoots out at rocket force. I do it for some guys because it makes them feel like the master, but have really noticed no difference in the quality or duration of an orgasm due to squirting. It's basically just messy.

dh commented on 07/16

Allow your girlfriend to try this for herself. I'm more of a gusher than a squirter, but it happens for me every time that I choose to rock out with my dildo. I have to do it fast and forcefully, but it's everywhere when I do, and quite quickly. I've never had a steady stream of it, but I've hit my foot when it was resting on the end of the bed one time... quite possibly one of my proudest moments. If at first you don't succeed, try try again... and then try some more. The worst that could happen is that you have a few orgasms!

LRD commented on 07/16

Tworry not young lad! Not all felas can ejaculate with g-spot stimulation. Alone I can only do it with clitoral stimulation combined with kegel flexing. I've only ejaculated with another person once, and that was after many hours of foreplay with a combined tripple threat molestation of anal, vaginal, and clitoral molestation with one hand, and plus I was drunk. I agree with what others say that she might need to figure this out on her own before she can share the experience. The biggest factor for whether your lass will flow depends mostly on how comfortable she is, with you and with herself most of all. So, have faith and in time try again.

SEA commented on 07/16

Grant - tell your web monkeys to close their tags just a bit earlier - 25% of your article doesn't need to be hyperlinked

BRS commented on 07/16

Grant, after busting on Arte's lack of interest in Cherie X's experience, you turned around and did the same exact thing!! I want to know what was going on with Erica - she was obviously transfixed by at least some portion of your action, what happened? Where did you go wrong? When did it start going downhill? Could it have been done differently? May I respectfully suggest that you ask your lab partner to help you with your conclusion. ("Summarize your findings. Don't forget to attempt to identify possible variables that could result in different findings for others trying to recreate your test results.") After all, the experiment was about FEMALE ejaculation, not male boredom or even arm fatigue, for that matter!! Tell us something we don't know, man.

ks commented on 07/16

look at it this way, it sounds more masculine than taking up the ass by her and her strap-on. if i were you i'd do a follow-up article along these lines. :)

tca commented on 07/16

You're awesome Grant.

CAS commented on 07/16

I agree with the comment about your next experiment taking it up the bum! Do it for science Grant!!!!

KPE commented on 07/16

A word from a fellow F.E. Its not necessary all the time for g-spot stimulation to have female ejaculation. I ejaculate, just from being eaten out. I mean yeah I'm still not too comfortable with the fact that I do it, I'm only 22 and yeah I've read women shouldn't feel bad that they do, but I do feel kind of weird. I guess maybe because I may get the wrong response from a guy who may think i'm actually peeing rather than having this mind blowing orgasm. I guess as I get older maybe i'll get more comfortable with the fact that I do it.

S.B commented on 07/16

Write about it when you do!!! Curious what your experience is. And why do you never ask me about this stuff... bastard. Well done, as always Grant.

JM commented on 07/16

Grant...good article. And even though I didn't have a guide to tell me what to do (finger and motion-wise), I stumbled upon this phenomenon early in college with a girl who was to become my long-term girlfriend -- exactly because she ejaculated like a volcano! All I know is, it's real, and it's exciting. Also, it's definitely NOT pee. I mean, we had to change a lot of sheets, use towels under us for sex, etc., and none of the frequent trips to the laundrymat ever had me going, "eww, pee stains." Rather, it was, as your friend similarly described, more like saline solution with some lubricant thrown in for good measure. My girlfriend over time learned to control whether she wanted to make a mess or keep clean (fuck clean), and it certainly didn't take an hour to happen. This girl was ready, and extremely able, in just a few minutes to be squirting everywhere. Just wanted to chime in, and keep up the good work dispelling the damn pee myth! I've never really been able to convince other people that I wasn't getting a golden shower every time I had sex. One thing though...I've never seen it again after many other girls. Man...I miss that action.

BB commented on 07/16

In the name of scientific investigation, I felt the need to write and tell you that G-spot stimulation almost always evokes uncontrollable crying in me. I find it (the G-spot stimulation) pleasurable and can ignore my own crying, but the sobbing INVARIABLY freaks my partners out! --I guess I can understand that. If you could do some research on that, I'd really appreciate it! Anyway, I enjoyed your highly informative article.

C commented on 07/16

Just read your article on nerve.com about female ejaculation. My last girlfriend and I had this happen a number of times, but neither of us really understood what was happening. Since our breakup, I have done some reading on the subject and have a few suggestions. One suggestion is a derivation of what you already tried. With the woman on her back, place a pillow under her butt to tilt her pelvis upward. Then try some of the shallow, slow thrusting with you on your knees and leaning back a little. The head of your penis should be rubbing against the front wall of her vagina and hit the g-spot. Remember to go slow, sometimes not even moving at all. Another suggestion is with her on top. With you sitting up on a couch or a chair and feet on the ground. She can then straddle you with her leaning back just a little. Again, penetration should be shallow. This is another good way for your penis to stimulate her g-spot. give those methods a try and see what happens. I wish I could say I was still doing research on subject with my ex, but that is not the case. Anyway, good luck and have fun trying.

a commented on 07/16

I just wanted to say how much I enjoy your amusing and adriot articles, especially the one where you experimented with drugs and sex. The whole zine is clever but your articles are a must read. As for suggestions for your sexacapades, not sure if you have tried tantra sex. Although the notion that you might be outdone by Sting is daunting, perhaps it requires a check into. Perhaps you can research into stimulating the male "g-spot" and multiple ejaculations. Just a suggestion! Heh.

BaB commented on 07/16

Had one girlfriend in college that ejaculated, and the first time it happened, I thought she was peeing on me...but as many other have said, that was not the case. But with her, I could encounter it 100% of the time...here's how. She'd straddle my stomach and I would place my thumbs together to use as a probe (thumbs were the only digits facing the correct direction in this position). By aiming at the G-spot and moving up and down, she'd ejacutlate repeatedly every ten to twenty seconds...interestingly, it would NOT induce orgasm. Anyway, that's my two sheckles...

JMK commented on 07/16

Come on Grant--Take it up the ass like a real man. And, when you're done, give Erica's big dildo a blow job. You know you want to. You rock Grant.

commented on 07/16

my advise to you is to keep going. im a female and i didnt believe all my guy friends when they talked about it. but then one night, well morning actually, my boyfriend and i discovered it completly by accident. we had been at if for hours forplay, sex, forplay, sex. i was exausted! i was about to tell him that we were going to have to stop, because not only was i tired and chafed, but i was feeling kinda strage. it almost hurt. i'm glad i never did say anything because what happened next was great! and believe me it didnt hurt anymore. it rocked! the mattress was so wet we had to flip it to be able to go to sleep! (and my boyfriend had never been so proud!)its was very intence and is not something i would like to do all the time but when it does happen i love it. so keep trying and tell erica to stick in there. its difficult for alot of girls to do, especially the first time.

mm commented on 07/16

I love sneezing. In fact, to me, a sneeze feels like a mini orgasm. (I'm a woman.) I was wondering ... what would happen if you induced a sneeze right as you were about to have an orgasm? (Like, with a pepper shaker or vibrator on the nasal cavity or something ...) Would the sensations compound? That would be one rocking orgasm. Perhaps more couples should incorporate pepper shakers into their sex-lives. :) There are several variables in this experiment. I have tested one so far: the ability to sneeze before and after orgasm. Here is the beginning of my formal write-up: Experiment: What would happen if you induced a sneeze right as you were about to have an orgasm? Would it compound? Variable recently tested: Ability to sneeze before and after orgasm. Results: (From different masturbatory sessions) While in the plateau phase, it was very easy to sneeze (before the orgasm occurred.) When not aroused, sneezing was relatively easy to induce (although harder than it was when subject was aroused.) Immediately after orgasm occurred, subject was unable to induce sneezing mechanism. I'd love to see this study on your website! Holly

HRW commented on 07/17

I love sneezing. In fact, to me, a sneeze feels like a mini orgasm. (I'm a woman.) I was wondering ... what would happen if you induced a sneeze right as you were about to have an orgasm? (Like, with a pepper shaker or vibrator on the nasal cavity or something ...) Would the sensations compound? That would be one rocking orgasm. Perhaps more couples should incorporate pepper shakers into their sex-lives. :) There are several variables in this experiment. I have tested one so far: the ability to sneeze before and after orgasm. Here is the beginning of my formal write-up: Experiment: What would happen if you induced a sneeze right as you were about to have an orgasm? Would it compound? Variable recently tested: Ability to sneeze before and after orgasm. Results: (From different masturbatory sessions) While in the plateau phase, it was very easy to sneeze (before the orgasm occurred.) When not aroused, sneezing was relatively easy to induce (although harder than it was when subject was aroused.) Immediately after orgasm occurred, subject was unable to induce sneezing mechanism. I'd love to see this study on your website! Holly

HRW commented on 07/17

you can practice on me grant- i can do it every nite alone --clitorally mostly. and the *only* times someone else has gotten me to do it has been thru oral stimulation. so "ar-tey" can suck it, and should suck it, literally.

ch commented on 07/17

Nice to have you back from Leather Camp, Grant! I really enjoyed this experiement - and the Ar-tey sex video comments had me laughing hysterically. Anyway, chin up! Be patient and keep trying. Try not to plan it, either, so as to avoid expectations. I find that spontaneous sex is always better than planned sex anyway. ;-)

ab commented on 07/17

I found the following info at http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/1905.html ........... The book, The G Spot, by sex researcher and educator Beverly Whipple, and colleagues Alice Ladas and John Perry, broke through the silence and embarrassment that surrounded female ejaculate, leading many to G Spot joy. Now researchers believe that female cum is produced by the Skene's glands, which are located in a woman's urethra and are made of tissue that's similar in composition to a man's prostate gland. These researchers point to chemical analysis of female ejaculate that reveals the presence of high levels of prostatic acid phosphatase (a chemical secreted by the prostate gland and found in semen). This would seem to indicate that a woman's ejaculation is similar in composition to semen (only without the sperm, of course).

ab commented on 07/17

Grant, you rock! I've been trying to figure this out for years along with the elusive g-spot orgasm. It feels really really good, but that's all. No urge to pee. No nothing, except my partner's really sore arm. Great article as always!!!!

GH commented on 07/17

grant, all i can tell you is do it til you get it right. like the kid wanting to know how to get to carnegie hall. practice, practice, practice...

tca commented on 07/18

Good article, Grant. If anyone's interested, check out Seymour Butt's informative video 'Semour's Squirters'.

ALS commented on 07/18

I think my ability to gush is one of the most awesome things my body can do. I love to watch in a mirror or on the monitor if I use the cam when I play, Be careful if you use the cam, as I've soaked mine many times. I've wondered before if it was urine but have squirted on white photo paper, then tasted it, Guys its not urine, although sometimes it can be a mix. First time I discovered this about myself was about 12 years ago, and since I'm over 40, it wasn't something that had always happened in my life. When it did, I was in to see the Dr right away, lol. She told me not to worry, it wasn't urine but if I was worried, to pee before I had sex. My lover loves it, he will be the first to be right in the path of it so it gushes all over him. I have to admit, I to, like Erica after awhile of enjoying this awesome feeling, come up for air and worry that my lovers arm is going to fall off. I tend to hold back when my lover goes down on me as I worry that he will get more then he bargained for when I gush in his mouth....

Silk commented on 07/19

I admit to squirting on occasion. It normally happens via manual stimulation. I have a new man who is "cliterate" and can bring me orgasm with 2 fingers. The stuff I emit is not lubricant. It's clear, slippery and a thin consistency. I never know when I am gonna do it, but I am so happy when I do.

NS commented on 07/20

Thank you. That was the funniest thing I have read in a long while.

sbs commented on 07/21

Great article- I have never "gushed" anything Im aware of- but on my own, have had amazing g-spot orgasms (with a little help from my trusty g-spot vibrator!), but have yet to have one with a parner- but I do know I have what I call inner and outer orgasms, and they are different.

STS commented on 07/22

I'm 18 and have only had two lovers, but I've already become a fan of female ejaculation. I adore my G-spot. I can have an orgasm in only that way. Sometimes I have a little trickle and other times I can gush out a cup of the liquid. It all depends on my mindset. Not how much I've had to drink lately. I really haven't a clue how to have a clitoral orgasm though.

SAJ commented on 07/24

Okay. Here's what I have found. My boyfriend's member bends downward in a strong "C" shaped arc. I can have a really serious squirting orgasm when we're doing it doggy style (I wish I could draw this for you) and he gets into a position that keeps him slightly higher than me because it makes the frontmost part of his dick rub against the anterior wall or G-spot. I can also achieve this if I sit him down in a short armless chair and ride him face-to-face. That totally rocks. Again the pressure is concentrated in the same area. I have noticed something else though. It seems perfectly logical if you think about it. I normally (just like your article states) feel the urge to pee just before my climax. I have also noticed that if I drink an assload of water prior to any hot action, I DEFINITELY have an easy time reaching my goals. More liquid in, more liquid out. Trust me on this. It makes all the difference. Lots of foreplay and all the above-mentioned stimuli should take you where you want to be. Good luck!!

bg commented on 07/26

Hey, I have had 2 experiences with f.e. First was when going down on woman, 69 w/her on top. Got it straight in the mouth. Didn't taste at all like pee. V. bitter and not salty. Second time was w/another lover. That was our first and last sexual experience. 2nd, She was on her belly and I entered her from behind, angled so my cock stimulated her G-spot, and we did it hard for a long time. After we both came, she rolled over and there was a big ole wet spot on the bed that didn't smell like urine. As for women feeling uncomfortable, I ask, does your man feel uncomfortable ejaculating in your mouth? I thought it was gross at first (what was you're reaction the first time a guy came in your mouth?). When I got to thinking about it, and realized what it I was I thought it was cool that I got her to do it. I wouldn't ask for a lover to ejaculate in my mouth but if she did, that would be ok. As for future research, I think the strap-on thing would be cool. I've had it done to me and I think it's alright. I learned a lot experience anal sex that way. I am always entertained and sometimes informed by your articles.

grf commented on 07/27

absolutely delightful

ss commented on 07/28

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haw commented on 07/28

My girlfriend and I enjoy it everytime she ejaculates.It's like a surprise. But I must mention that it is not always triggered by G spot stimulation. Sometimes, she squirts out with oral sex, without anything inside her. I think some do and some don't, that's all.

skye commented on 07/29

do grant, did you ever get her to do it?

m commented on 07/30

I've gushed several times in my life....but must admit with only one very experienced and open minded man..Never knew I could. I'll never forget it, it was by and away the most intense thing I've ever felt. Michelle

MP commented on 07/31

A few things. I'm an inveterate ejaculator, to the degree that I have trouble NOT shooting all over the place. It turns me on to hear my juice hit the wooden floor, or hear the bursts of liquid jet out on my lover's chest. I've always warned them that this is my superhero skill, and half-joke about breaking out the towels, and I've never had an adverse reaction. The only thing that annoys me about all this is that because I squirt so easily (no sore arm, no god-like skill necessary), I get very little continuing play from most guys. It takes them 2 minutes to get me off, then it's their turn. Fuckers. I want more!!! The other thing is that all that build up of tension and the intensity of release of orgasm is bound to be tied up in an emotional response. You've clenched everything you've got, them let go so much you pushed fluid at velocity out of tiny little glands. It's a natural response to let go with tears or laughter or going comatose or something. I personally laugh my head off when it's been a particularly satisfying orgasm. But my point on all of this is simple: Be diligent, listen to your body, and aim for target practice once you've got it down.

EM commented on 08/01

I'm also a FE, have been since I first started masturbating at the age of 12. I gush by clitoral and gspot, deep vaginal or anal penetration. I always go pee before I have sex and it isn't very long into foreplay that I am either squirting or gushing long jets of hot, clear liquid. I used to try to squeeze my bum tight to stop it from happening, it was so embarrasing to get everything wet, luckily I met a guy who encouraged me to let go as much as i felt was there, he bought a plastic sheet and covered it with a soft cotton one....most of the sheet gets a good soaking over and above the blasts he takes face on. We both love it

ng commented on 08/04

I have to agree with the person who said they would have loved to have heard Erica's perspective. I've cried during that experience as well, but I have no way of knowing whether Erica's reason for crying was the same as mine. For me, it was frustration. It's very frustrating to be in that position, where someone is very lovingly spending all that time on you, you're getting extremely aroused, you're worried about your partner getting bored/ tired /cramped /watching the clock (*ahem*), and you both know you're trying for a result that isn't happening. After a while, the frustration of not reaching that goal adds too much pressure, and you know how pressure kills an orgasm. By the way, the sexual position that's worked best for me for g-spot stimulation is when I'm on my side, my legs at a ninety degree angle to my torso, straight out to the side, being entered from behind.

SMF commented on 08/07

Female Ejaculation- Did you know that ALL women are capable of it? It's True! By Lisa S. Lawless, R.M., C.E.O. Psychotherapist, Ph.D. Candidate Founder Of HolisticWisdom.com You may have heard of female ejaculation, or you may not even know what it is, as many people do not. Female ejaculation is not only very real, it is something that ALL women can achieve, and is a very basic female sexual response that has remained a mystery until recently. All women can learn to ejaculate as much as two cups of fluid and spray it across the length of a room! Oh sure, there are a lot of myths out there regarding this exquisite female sexual response. Some claim the whole premise of female ejaculation is untrue, others claim only "special" women are capable and still others try and tell you ridiculous techniques based on myths such as suggesting that women should tighten their Kegel (vaginal wall) muscles to make it happen. These types of statements are simply untrue. While women have differences in their genitalia (just as men do) all women are capable of squirting these lovely orgasmic juices with the right techniques. It is no different than all men being capable of ejaculating no matter the size or shape of their penis. The only reason that most people do not know about or understand how to achieve female ejaculation is from the sheer lack of understanding women’s sexuality. When I first heard about female ejaculation I was in my late twenties. Being a sexually knowledgeable and adventurous woman as well as a psychotherapist specializing in sexual issues, I was shocked that I had never heard about it, let alone done it. I personally discovered female ejaculation after having a very open and enlightening discussion with a girlfriend, whom told me that she did the "wildest thing" when she had an orgasm (and sometimes just when she was sexually aroused). I of course was very intrigued about this, and ended up asking her a lot of questions about how it happened for her. I then went to the Internet to find out more, and was met with a great deal of inaccurate, conflicting information about female ejaculation. What was a chick to do? I wanted to know more about it, and most importantly at the time, I wanted to know if I could do it too. I began a mission of researching through medical journals, interviews with physicians, sex therapists and my clients who came to me for psychotherapy. After all my research, and developing a few theories of my own, I decided that I simply had to try to see if I could do it. I am happy to say that I did it during my first attempt through masturbating. It was so simple! There were a few things that I learned and did in preparation that made it possible and there are a lot of things I learned along the way which turned into a 150 page book and 90 minute video! For the sake of keeping this article and not a book, let me give you a quick overview of how female ejaculation occurs so that you get a general idea of how all of this works. First let’s get the myths out of the way and review what is true and untrue about it. The Myths & Truth About Female Ejaculation- THE MYTHS- 1) Female ejaculation does not exist. 2) Only rare women can achieve female ejaculation. 3) Kegel exercise is the key to achieving female ejaculation. 4) Only women with prominent G-Spots can achieve female ejaculation. 5) Female ejaculation can only be achieved through G-Spot orgasms. 6) Gynecologists are educated about this issue and provide women with correct information. 7) Women can only excrete a drop or two of female ejaculate, and if it is more (especially in the amounts that some women claim 1-2 cups) then it would be urine. 8) Female ejaculation is or becomes urinary incontinence. 9) Women who have given birth are the only women capable of female ejaculation. 10) There is only one way to achieve female ejaculation. THE TRUTH- 1) Female ejaculation comes from the Skenes/Paraurethral glands (also known as the G-Spot). 2) Women do not realize that they can ejaculate because they are missing the cues of when they can do it. 3) There are specific techniques that can be taught to a woman to teach her how to do it and how to hold it if she does not wish to ejaculate. 4) Women can ejaculate without having a G-Spot orgasm and for that matter without having an orgasm at all! 5) Women can increase the amount of fluid they ejaculate by following specific steps. 6) Women can ejaculate multiple times within a short period. 7) Female ejaculation is not urine, is much like the consistency of water, is clear in color, and usually smells like nothing or has a slight sweet scent. 8) OBGYNs and other physicians often misunderstand or even misdiagnose female ejaculation. You may be wondering "If all women are capable, then why is it that many women have never done it?" This is a very good question, and is easily explained. Let’s begin with reviewing some basic information about the female anatomy to better understand how this works. Where Does Female Ejaculation Come From? Female ejaculation is a fluid that is pushed out of the urethra (pee-hole- just like urine) however, unlike urine it comes from the Paraurethral/Skenes glands (located under and making up the G-Spot) during sexual arousal. How Is Female Ejaculate Different Than Regular Cum? There are two types of female cum that can be excreted during sexual arousal. They are clinically termed as urethral and vaginal ejaculation fluids. The one most commonly seen in our culture is vaginal ejaculate, which lubricates the vaginal walls and oozes out during sexual arousal. You probably have noticed it is milky and ranges in its thickness and odor based on a woman’s diet, overall health and the phase she is experiencing within her menstrual cycle. Urethral ejaculate is what we are referring to when describing female ejaculation and is less common. It is the watery ejaculate that sprays or gushes out and is the one that is generally less known about. Again, this is not because only a few, special women are capable, but rather due to lack of understanding of women's sexual health issues in this culture. What Is In The Fluid? Let me get the biggest myth out of the way- IT IS NOT URINE. Upon testing the liquid, scientists have found that it contains levels of glucose (sugar), and an enzyme (prostatic acid phosphatase), which is characteristic of a major component in semen. It is similar to the prostate fluid within male ejaculation but without the sperm. There are also two other substances contained in the fluid, commonly found in urine (urea and creatinine), which are found in trace amounts. It is a unique substance, and unlike the heavier and thicker fluid that you would typically see when a chick is "wet" or has had an orgasm. How Much Ejaculate Comes Out? Most women can gush as much as 1.5 - 2 cups of the fluid when ejaculating. However this can be affected by how hydrated a woman is, how much she pushes while ejaculating, and other factors. Why Don't Most Women Know About It Or Do It? Female ejaculation is not difficult; its techniques are just not known about by many. Because women typically don't know about the elusive reasons they are not doing it, they are usually sabotaging their chances for gushing female ejaculate when they are having an orgasm. One of the main reasons that women do not know they can do it is because women will often feel like they need to urinate when they are ready to expel the ejaculate and because they think that urine will come out, which it will not, they hold back. You see the G-Spot (Skenes Glands) fill up with the female ejaculate fluid and this puts pressure on the urethra (pee-tube) thus, making it feel like she has to urinate when in actuality she could ejaculate if she simply pushed instead of holding back. There are sure-fire methods, techniques and ways to achieve it as well as overcome inhibitors, yet the issue of holding back for fear of urinating is a big factor for many women. The ejaculation techniques that I have begun training thousands of women and their partners have been quite effective and not only allow for amazing ejaculations but will also intensify any type (women are capable of eight) of orgasm to mind blowing levels. Are There Health Problems For Women Who Do It? No, in fact that is one of the reasons I am so passionate about teaching women and their partners about female ejaculation because unlike what many think, there is nothing abnormal or unhealthy about it. Did you know that thousands of women each year are told that a normal female sexual response such as female ejaculation is a medical problem (incontinence, which it is not) or something that they should be ashamed of as they are thought to be maliciously urinating on their partner(s)? Because women can gush as much as two cups of ejaculate, many people think that it must be urine. Often women who do not know what is happening (and there are many) are embarrassed, confused and find it to be of great concern. It does not help that most health practitioners are not informed about it as many women are being told they require surgery and/or psychotherapy for this normal female sexual response! If there is one thing that I can stress, it is that female ejaculation is not only visually erotic, but it feels incredible to do it. The kind of sexual release that a woman feels from this powerful gush coming from her sweet pussy is like no other. ~ SEE FREE FEMALE EJACULATION PICTURES & VIDEO CLIPS ~ GET MORE INFORMATION ON FEMALE EJACULATION ~ GET INSTRUCTIONAL BOOK & VIDEO "THE ART OF FEMALE EJACUALTION" VISIT US ONLINE AT HTTP://WWWW.HOLISTICWISDOM.COM.

LSL commented on 08/08

For me, the only "trick" to f.e. is to keep masturbating after I've come. I discovered early that what I thought was an orgasm was just the beginning of my climax, and that a gush was in the works if I continued clitoral stimulation. And it's possible every time. I just don't like soaking the bed (or carpet, or counter or whatever), so f.e. is usually saved for planned, slow sex. And a pox on opportunists who post stupid "buy my book" essays!

EB commented on 08/10

I would be concerned about using your eye sockets to produce farting sounds. You may cause damage to your vision. As for the ejaculation thing: nah. I'm still unconvinced.

lw commented on 08/11

Shit, come back from vacation , sweetheart and give us another science project. I for one,(vote), for a litle experiment based on your fun...as it plays out. True loveinterfering "wit being the sex reporter? Not that I disagree with your reporting,but DUDE : pass the torch if you c'aint be edge. love yer geeky ass,c'mon back, xo jomamma

jo commented on 08/12

I think that is far and above the funniest thing I've ever read about attempting a FE. I had no idea such a thing even existed until my lover said he'd heard about an urban legend called female ejaculation. I said you mean 'peeing while fucking?' Duh, right? We researched it and tried many, many wonderful, weird and ouchie things until we hit on the one thing that worked. Funny, all the toys were a waste of money. When he goes down on me, right before I have a clit orgasm, one finger (the pointer to be exact) in doing the come hither (that's too funny) motion with firm steady pressure and bada bing! The first time it happened, it slicked back his hair and I think I passed out. LOL. Keep trying, if your current gal can't let go, try one that can!

fmh commented on 02/25

I am currently washing a load of 2 mattress pads, a dust ruffle, three sheets and the towel I soaked. Nuff said. This happens once a month or so, and I can feel when I need to do it. I orgasm for about an hour over and over again and small 'squirts' come out. Then the last one is unbelievable. Tidal. When I realized this amazing phenomenon, I thought I was a lousy bed-wetting masturbater, but now I find it to be one of the most amazing things about my already amazingly beautiful pussy. I would show it on video or to instruct men or women, I think. I would love for people to see it and that it is not the Sasquatch of female sexuality.

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