61 Frames Per Second by John Constantine Today in Nerve's videogame blog: Friedrich Nietzsche, River City Ransom, angry nerds, and the horrors of time. So, you know, business as usual.
The Remote Island by Bryan Christian Veronica Mars returns (maybe), RuPaul is haunting us (definitely), and the Dexter "Pscyho Therapy" quiz (creepy.)
Having been married my entire adult life, in two more or less open marriages, I'm not too qualified to know the difference between casual and serious sex activities. I mean it with everybody! I once read something Napoleon said about Josephine, to explain why he didn't want to divorce her even though that might mean losing his empire (since she was too old to bear heirs): "But I'm used to her." He was used to yelling at her, sleeping with her, listening to her advice, having her around, cheating on her, getting really mad when she cheated on him; he was used to her pretty clothes, her ways in bed, how she could charm heads of state when his terrible table manners drove them away. In other words, he was used to her like he was used to life. He did eventually cave in to pressure though, and dumped old Josephine for a slew of nubile hotties, including some king's cousin (he married that one). Still he could not stop himself from visiting (in every sense of the word) Josephine at her little estate, his former summer getaway. And she was fat by then, too! I believe in marriage. I also believe in chance encounters. Napoleon, most of the respondents below and me: a bunch of greedy people who can't choose, doomed to regret.
Traci Burns
When I first started having sex, I was kind of a spaz. Very easily distracted. I thought it was glamorous that I'd wistfully stare over the humping guy's shoulder, thinking random thoughts: "Is that roast beef I smell? I wonder if the K-Mart here is open 24 hours?" For me, married sex is better because it's less confusing. There's less stuff to remember. You don't have to keep sorting out which person likes what done to them. You know your husband always involuntarily kicks you in the head if you accidentally lick his balls. It simplifies things.
Daniel Hipolito
Neither. Mid-relationship sex is best, when you're comfortable enough but not too comfortable. Early dating sex is so tied to physical attraction that's almost all there is, and married sex is so tied to habit. Mid-relationship sex, you're all warmed up, and ready for fun, fun, fun.
Emily Taylor
The whole idea of marriage baffles me. Why do people do it? I think it was all well and good when the world was smaller and travel was more difficult and people lived shorter life spans. Nowadays it's too daunting a proposition. For me, staying single really has a lot to do with dinner. When you are in a serious relationship with someone and you live with them, you sort of are obligated to wait to eat until you're both hungry and you both decide what you want. It's the same thing for sex.
Dylan Metrano
I think married sex must be better. I would get married so that I could feel a part of something bigger than myself, more solid than just "dating." Marriage is such an extreme. It's saying I want you in the biggest, mostest way. On the other hand, dating sex might be better, as there's that element of fear involved that subsides with familiarity. I think ultimately sex with love is better than sex without love. But it's almost a completely different act.
Christina Holloway
My 20-year marriage is like a great pair of old shoes or well-worn jeans: soft in all the right places. Sex with a new man is like putting on red leather spikes and a short tight skirt: all smell and feel and sizzle, but too much for every day.
Lisa: Are you faithful to your great pair of old shoes, or do you still run around on occasion?
Christina: Now what girl in her right mind is going to refuse to step into those tempting heels?
Ben Romanoff
I'm happily married, but I'd still have to vote for dating sex. As much as there may be some awkwardness with a new partner, the very awkwardness is ripe with possibilities. For me, that's what makes sex great. I have decent sex with my wife but I can pretty much script it out each time. As for my co-worker across the cube from me who I lust after, I have no idea what it would be like and that is what makes it so appealing. As much as I love my wife and enjoy having sex with her, I don't think I'll ever reach the point where the thought of having sex with someone else isn't more exciting.
Claudia Lonow
I think married sex is better, but only if you're having it with someone other than your spouse.
Mark Mallman
Neither. The best sex comes post break up. You know each others moves and rhythms, yet expect nothing emotionally from the other person. The sex is reduced to its basic form.
Nico
Married sex is better when you have a cold or feel fat. Dating sex is raunchier, but if you're creative and wear wigs, you can achieve this while married too. When I wear a wig, Patrick, my husband of seven years, treats me like a different person and I AM a different person.
Lisa: Does Patrick wear wigs too?
Nico:No but on occasion he's body-painted. Marriage is about the whole familiarity thing—knowing your partner's moves by heart, all six of them. What you find boring one minute can be just what you need at the end of the day the next. Sometimes I truly hate him because he knows too much. Or, what he doesn't know, he assumes he knows, and that really chaps my ass. But that anger can turn to passion, a lot more than you can have with any stranger.
Traci Burns
Daniel Hipolito
Emily Taylor
Claudia Lonow
Mark Mallman
Nico
